Why do parents who don't know how to control their children feel the need to bring them to public places?

Answer 1

I totally agree- and I have 2 kids. (Ok a toddler and I'm 7 months pregnant, but you get the point.) Most kids are going to be rowdy in public when they are young no matter what you do, so get a babysitter!!! My husband and I are not comfortable with other people watching our daughter, so we very rarely do. However when we do go out we go to family friendly places, like the local buffet on kids night, where no matter what ours do there is going to be a worse kid there. I figure anyone who doesn't want to deal with kids and still walks into a Pizza Hut on "Kids Eat Free" night deserves it, LOL. I would not bring my 2 year old to a movie or a fancy resturaunt because I know darn well she is going to act up, and while she is good by most parent's standards I know that child-free adults trying to enjoy a night out are not going to be happy. I think this is just something you have to accept when you become a parent- you decided to have a baby, not everyone who happens to be near you. And on the rare occasion (literally 3 times since birth) that my daughter went to a relatives so we could have a date, we went out to nice places and sure as hell didn't want to hear someone else's little brat.

Answer 2

I come from a large family and I can tell you that their was no problem with discipline.There was always an expectation of behaviour and there were consequences if we didn't behave.Quite often parents try to act as their children's friend and that relationship does not work well.You need consistancy in discipline as well.Both parents must work together.Let the child know that if they do not behave that you will be leaving whatever the venue is.Do not make this statement if you are afraid to follow through.If they don't do as told, you must leave,even when there are tears and prmises of "I'll be good".Children must learn that you mean what you say.

Answer 3

Whoa sugar!!!!!! Please read my story folks...

My youngest son is handicapped, but you wouldn't know it by looking at him. Why? He is autistic. He looks "normal" on the outside.

Autistic children often have "strange" behaviors that "normal" kids do not, and to the untrained or unsympathetic person can look like a child out of control in public. Also, autistic children can SOMETIMES become overwhelmed in public due to crowds, loud, sudden noises, flashing lights, etc. They are extremely sensitive to these things that most people can handle with no problem.

For about 2 years I avoided taking him to places (stores, restaurants, etc) because I was worried he would have an "outburst" that to most people look like some spoiled brat having a hissy fit. I had people approach me in public when he cried and told me that my kid needed a good beating and what kind of parent was I...blah blah blah. Even my own family asked me at times, when he started to meltdown in public, why I couldn't "control" his actions. My answer to them and to the strangers who butted in? YOU try taking care of an autistic child on a daily basis and see how well you handle it. I guarantee it will be a rude awakening.

It has been a long hard struggle, but now when he begins to get a little out of control, I simply remove him from the situation until he can get a grip on himself. Works for him and me and all of those around us. Not every time without tears, but it's just something I have to accept.

I wish people in general would not be so harsh and so quick to judge others. Before you do, remember to take a good look in the mirror and make sure that you have never done any wrong.

Please, sometimes children have issues that you cannot "see". Try to be a little more compassionate!!!

Answer 4

Hopefully the children are learning good social behavors.You cant exspect a child to know how to habdel a sistuation if he nevor is in that sistuation and as well parenting doesnt come with a book of instructions .some kids just have to learn diffrent ways some kids are haveing a bad day and some kids just need better parents and a smack on the bottom.But you must relise you arnt the only person in socity and those unrully kids have a right just as you to be their if they bugg you so much go home.Excersize your adult right to make like a banna and split.Just a thought your an adult and shuld know how to behave in publick their just kids.

Answer 5

Do you think they should be locked in a closet? - Or are you referring to places like the movies or quiet restaurants where rambunctious behavior is very disruptive.

Either way, the reasons can vary.

The parents that deserve our critisism are those who just let their kids run around or get loud with no consequences. Some think their kids are so darling we won't mind. Some assume we all should have low expectations. "Kids will be kids." Some feel discipline equals abuse therefore the kids don't learn boundries.

Some parents have children with special problems that make things much more difficult. My niece has low-functioning autism. Sounds that we might be oblivious to can be torturous to her. Even when she is happy she can be disruptive. She sometimes gives this high pitched squeal to express her delight over a plate of spaghetti.

I think in a very informal place like WalMart or a burger joint, people should be understanding. But the parents who insist on taking a child like this to finer restaurants are just inconsiderate. They seem to think they shouldn't show favoritism to take one child to such a place & not take the other, but I think it isn't fair to put a special-needs child in situations they can't handle.

My pet peeve is when they take kids to a department store & drop the kids off in the toy department. As if it is there as a daycare for parents!


*Princess is right. When my brother lived 6 hours away, we always thought "Gee! He just doesn't that girl." When they moved to our town 3 years ago my Mom & I decided we would discipline them properly & get that girl straightened out. (We were babysitting her in the summer & afterschool.) We quickly learned it wasn't that easy.

Answer 6

properly, i assume those undesirable human beings could be close-ins on condition that they have toddlers. you're purely pointing out the mum and dad and young infants who scream for the time of nutrition, because of the fact they are the only ones you spot. I actually have a 5 month previous and a couple of three-3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous nephews. My son and my nephews are quiet and calm as lambs, and in the event that they do misbehave for the time of nutrition, they are rapidly escorted to the restroom to take of the situation removed from each and every physique else. no longer as quickly as has all people instructed us to silence our infants, in certainty maximum individuals remark on how wonderful and correctly-behaved they are.

Answer 7

I don't condone children behaving badly in public, but as a mother I can tell you that it can't always be helped. Children aren't always going to act like little angels - whether you like it or not. If the children are stressing you, imagine how the parent(s) must feel at having their children cause a scene.

Have you ever taken a minute to think that maybe something is going on that you don't know about. I'm reminded of a story of a man that was riding the subway and became perturbed at another man whose children were behaving badly. When the man asked the father to please control his children the father apologized. He then went on to tell how they were on their way home from the hospital where the wife/mother had just died. He explained that he didn't know how to act and that the children must be feeling the same way. Needless to say, the first man felt like a jerk - and rightly so.

Answer 8

Parents need to teach their children how to behave in public...my son is 2-1/2 and while he ahs his moments, he has learned to behave in a restaurant or I remove him from the situation. Parents need to teach positive things to get teh positive behaviour. I take a small toy or a book, or a cloluring book and crayons with me to keep him occupied. He will have a moment or two, but he's then told he has to leave, and he is quiet again.

Answer 9

if kids are running and screaming through restaurants or stores it because the parents don't have respect for others. if the parents can't respect others then their kids won't either. the parents are being rude. they need to teach them that there is a time and place for everything and the park or there home is the place to let loose.

how many of these rude parents would like a teenager or adult standing outside their house or sitting at the next table having a large fight screaming at one another? what if someone was proposing to his girlfriend only to have it ruined by some kids running around their table. what if someone was trying to have a moments time after returning from their loved ones funeral and some kids are just running around their table screaming ,going under tables playing hide and seek?
geeze!

Answer 10

It's their lack of morals. I think alot of these parents don't even think anything is wrong with the way their rotten children are acting. I know when I was little, us 5 children would walk like ducks behind our mother and if we asked for anything and she said no then dare not ask why not, or throw a trantrum. We would get a spanking and she would start to walk on like nothing ever happened. We just knew not to do this.