Should i go to this gay club and meet this guy that my friends say bad stuff about. I have not met him before but hes gone out with alot of my friends. And they all say bad things. [Like he just wants girls for sex] Should i give him a chance or not? I am going with all my friends to the gay club should i go and meet him?And i am not a lesbian or anything like that.
2007-02-09 06:49:28 · 32 answers · asked by Kelsyyy(: 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And i do not want to have sex until marriage and i think he is not ok with that either.
2007-02-09 06:50:39 · update #1
Speak as you find.....but somik tells me you's are not ment to be!
2007-02-09 06:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question. He wants sex and you don't. So don't. But I need to add an important note. You are not a Lesbian and you are going to a gay club for your fun. Are you going to observe people as a "kick"? If so, you are not a nice person. Gays and lesbians have opened their own clubs for safety, security, acceptance and to meet other gay people without being rejected. If you are at the club, a lesbian woman may make a pass at you. This is HER territory so you are being dishonest and even a bit cruel. If a guy makes a pass at you, he may be straight but then he is at the wrong club so might be questioning his orientation. If he has had an experience at a club and still wants to dabble with females, you take the risk of "swapping spit" and contracting HIV of one type or another. This is not acceptable behaviour on your part. I am not gay but I have a cousin who is and have heard from their group of friends that they have often been hurt by people like you who drop by the clubs and then laugh about them later. Not nice. Grow up and get some new friends who stick to mainstream places.
2007-02-09 06:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to the gay club, go with your friends. I don't know why you're going there, but that's none of my business. Don't meet him; if he approaches you, just act polite, but shut off all other communication with him, like not giving your # to him. Actuaaly, I think the answe's right in front of you. You know he's bad, all your friends who've gone out with him have told you so, you know that all he wants is sex... so I think don't give him a chance. I'm sorry to be harsh, but I think your friends are trying to give you the hint. Hope I helped.
2007-02-09 06:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends before men alway's listen to your friends warnings. If your waiting till marriage why even bother with a guy that has such a bad rap? And what's with the gay club? You cant meet a decent man in a gay club..................
2007-02-09 06:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I advise u not to . You might dirty your reputation among your friends and among other people. So be careful.
Also, u say you don't want to have sex until marriage. He won't accept that so beware 'cause he might force you.
And if you're not a lesbian then why are you going to a gay club. Please don't go for your own good.
Think about it and decide. It's your choice in the end.
Good Luck
2007-02-09 06:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by drfarfour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay home and watch a movie. What would you get out of a gay club? or a man that just wants sex? NOTHING. Go rent a good movie. Or something that will benefit you somehow.
2007-02-09 06:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see nothing wrong with you going to the club to meet him. But since you hear that he only use girl for sex you might not wanna take interest in him, since you wanna wait. You might need to take a walk on the bad side for once.
2007-02-09 06:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Brownie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with someone who has a well known sex problem if you are going to be saving yourself for marriage. Just meet a guy with the same morals as you have.
2007-02-09 06:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, why would he be at a gay club? No, don't give him a chance. If people say bad things about him, he can't be good news.
2007-02-09 06:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by Marvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and he both feel like sex is for marraige, then why do you ask opinions about going to his "turf" for a hangout out atmosphere. My feeling is that couples should interact with couples, ie, does one of your friends have a fiance, or serious boyfriend, or husband, etc, that you could hang out with them.
This being that couples that "hang" on to their single girl/guy friends tend to go out with them and do those "single" things, and that is not what you want for your newly developing relationship.
I am a christian and do not support gay/lesbian relationships, but I feel that this is not about that, it is about your boyfriend pulling you towards his atmosphere into something that might dissolve your relationship by someday proving disfaithful to you. I wouldn't go to that club but ask him if he has some couple friends that had a cool house to go to, etc.......
2007-02-09 06:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even bother with him. You can meet someone much better. Go clubbing with your friends and have fun, but don't go to meet him.
2007-02-09 06:52:32 · answer #11 · answered by Erika M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋