as my wife pass a way in 2000
2007-02-09 06:42:15 · 10 answers · asked by lloyd d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her to grow up. You have mourned the death of your wife and have moved on. There is no reason for you to be lonely.
2007-02-09 06:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is indeed a hard situation for your daughter. I am sorry to hear that your wife passed away. As of now, your daughter needs caring, attention, and love. It is difficult for her to accept your new wife. I felt the same way when I found out I have a half sister, out in the world, after 26 years. Go figure. Your daughter right now needs counseling. Don't expect her to accept your new wife right after the first day of counseling. It will take time, and it is up to you to make it as mooth as possible for the both of you. I know you're in pain as well. Your daughter needs you, and it would be good for her to spend sometime alone with you, just you and her. Take her out, a trip, boating, anything. Give her father advice, and be her friend. She will learn to accept your new wife little by little.
2007-02-09 14:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by ОГОНЬ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not wanna think that you guys lost the first place, but now that you have a new wife, it is normal that she does not accept her. I am so sorry to here about your loss, but she will not learn to like her over night. It may take years and years. So come alone a few times. That will make her happy, but come with the new wife, too.
2007-02-10 04:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a couple things to think about.
You have the right and responsibility to dictate how you live your life and the choices you make. You have chosen a new wife. This is your right, and congratulations to you for finding love a second time.
Your daughter also has the right and responsibility to dictate how she lives her life. If you are visiting her home, she has the right to allow or deny visits from whomever she wants. This is her right, and she will have to live with the consequences of that decision.
Perhaps she has not reconciled herself to your first wife's death, and therefore cannot reconcile herself to you moving forward.
This is sad, but you need to remember this is her issue, not yours, and assuming your daughter is an adult, she will need to deal with her emotions on her own time and in her own way. Perhaps she would benefit from the intervention of a grief therapist. In the meantime, she is denying herself the potential friendship of a woman who is important to you, and could be important to her. But again, I reiterate, this is her choice, and her consequences to face.
Respect her wishes as you would like her to respect yours, express your sadness at her choice, and let her know she is welcome to get to know your new wife whenever she feels comfortable to do so.
Remember to compassionately re-confirm for your new wife that this is not her issue, either. She might be feeling like she is coming between you and your daughter. She needs to know that you will support her while at the same time respecting your daughter's wishes.
2007-02-09 14:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by JS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for children to accept that parents move on.......
You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with her just you and her no one else....
Let her know you loved her mom your wife but you to LIVE life too.......... that you are not trying to replace her mom and that you can't disrespect your new wife by leaving her in the car
Good Luck
2007-02-09 14:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by dreamingone39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand that..i lost my daughter...Losing someone you love so much can never be replaced, and that is what you are doing...you are replacing her Mother....I don't blame her for feeling the way ....Its different for you...Your a Man...She lost her Mother...I lost My Daughter..,its a Mother and Daughter thing....you will never understand.....I lost part of me when she died....and that is what she lost when her mom died....I guess you did too.....but your getting a new wife....she can't ever get a new MOM......sorry......Do you under stand now?......So don't push her to Except your new wife....she does not have too if she doesn't want too......she don't want a step mother....give her time....don't push it....
2007-02-09 14:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by hatchetmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go there or she will never except your new wife into your family.
2007-02-09 18:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first, my sisters and I didn't accept my dad's new wife and wanted him to visit without her, but he held his ground and told us that she is in his life, and they come together- if we didn't want her, we wouldn't see him either. eventually we got over it, and we've accepted her.
it's hard, takes time...but you'll get there!
2007-02-09 17:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would simply state that you loved her mother very much but, you have moved on and found someone else to grow old with, and if she can't accept that, then you are sorry but, you will have to decline. ask her, you don't want me to grow old all alone do you?
2007-02-09 15:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then come by yourself
2007-02-11 07:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋