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ok here is the thing, i'm 22 and living with my mother but only for economical reasons[beleive me]. last year or 2 years ago, she was being very mean to be, not physically abusive but emotionally, but she stoped and i noticed that she restarted today, refering to my last question. i wanted a job when i was younger and after high school graduation but she said no and concentrate on my studies which i did and regreted cause now i have no savings for me to move out and i know that's why she's beeing mean with me. right now i am in my senior year at university and am looking for an internship since i dont have any job experience. my question is should i look for the internship that will help me train for my career and eventually get out of this woman's house, or should i forget everything and jsut get a job outside of my major so i can move out faster. i CANT talk to her cause in her mind she isnt doing anything wrong. i dont ant to act on impulse,regret and thus damaging my futur

2007-02-09 06:32:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

i know it was my fault never geting a job cause she told me to concentrate more on my studies nad i am paying the consequences, now i just need tor igght my wrongs cause she is acting like this cause i live with her...i just want hoenst opinions, maybe people who were in this situation? i want to stick it out cause i want a good career, i worked so hard to get here, but this abuse is jsut killing me u know!

2007-02-09 06:33:42 · update #1

thing is she is upseting me so badly that i might hate her and i have enough problems without adding hatred into the pic

2007-02-09 06:41:42 · update #2

Monty, i have the upmost respect for my elerlies and strangers, but to you **** YOU.

2007-02-09 06:43:25 · update #3

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The best idea is to do a job industry internship. There are internships in many fields that have monetary stipends and sometimes will even move you to thier area for the internship and pay you to move and stay there after it is completed. Ask your university counselor for ideas on places but them go online and research some options yourself. Getting a part-time job in the meantime cannot hurt either. Many universities have student work programs that work with your class schedule and some pay well, too. Start saving that money for your future as soon as you possibly can.

2007-02-09 06:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by principessajordan 2 · 1 0

If you can get an internship first. Then maybe find a part time job doing something that will bring in a type of income. You might not have much of social life, but in the long term it will be best for you. Just ignore your mother. She must care for you if she is letting you live there. So concentrate on a intership, then supplementing that with a night or weekend job, and pretty soon you will be out of there.

2007-02-09 06:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by ahottmess 4 · 1 0

Stick it out at your mom's place and work on the long term benefits. If an internship will help get you the job that will permanently get you out of her house....do it. Getting a job now will not allow you to do an internship b/c of scheduling conflicts and it won't help you when it comes time to start your career. I know it's hard to get past the "now" but you have to think long-term. When she puts you down, just ignore it and remind yourself that it's just a temporary situation. Good luck! I cannot believe your own mother is so insensitive and mean!

2007-02-09 06:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by emrobs 5 · 1 0

Education is important. However, there is a natural point of where the young need to "leave the nest". Internship in your career would be best, if not, just at least get a part time job to start. Take care.

2007-02-09 06:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 2 0

it is not your fault. you will have the potential to make much more money with your degree than you would without one. you made the right choice. now, i would recommend getting an internship in the field you are interested in. a good summer internship will often lead to full time employment.
as to your mother...mothers are like that sometimes. you say you are in your last year of uni...your mother might actually be suffering from separation anxiety and does not know how to deal with it. don't let her get to you. just do what you have to do. buenos suertes ;)

2007-02-09 06:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by nobu_abe87 2 · 2 0

Apply everywhere. Then take the best offer. This is standard practice in job hunting. There is no other way.

Your making this too difficult for yourself. Stop thinking about things that aren't related to your problem. All that matters is getting a job. A job will fix everything. So go get a job. That's it.

2007-02-09 06:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 6 · 0 1

well i think u should countinue our intership and find a one that will train u for what u majored in also if nothing coming up find another job in the meanwhile so u can began establisheing money to move out

2007-02-09 06:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by lala_lollypop_tasty 2 · 1 0

Your Mother encourged you to focus on your education and you are upset. And now you are in your SENIOR year at University. Talk about a BRAT. Don't know what your mother was thinking. Encouging her daughter to get a college education. I wonder howe many people would die for a MOM like yours. GROW UP. And stop acting like a 2 yr old.

2007-02-09 06:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0 3

Dont blow your career away just go out more so your not in each others face

2007-02-09 10:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 1 0

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