My now ex bf claimed he filed a harassment report on me. The story in a nutshell..when i was w/ him, he mentally abused me, he made constant threats of suicide, only wanted my help, whenever I told him to get prof help, he said he would do it. He lied to me about having a baby w/a one night stand, after helping him,he ended our relationship to be with the mother, I found this out while in the hospital sick and having to have surgery.Ironically, I had to get therapy. Because come to find out he is not who he says he is. I found out more lies, how he met girls in chatrooms, he did the suicide thing to another girl, but she was smart enough to call the police and he told them she was went crazy over thier breakup. Anyhow, I feel I had a right to know who I really was dealing with for two years, I feel he playedmind games withme. So I did my own research and all the lies came to surface. I got so angry I called him and told him I knew everything as far as what he's all about.
2007-02-09 06:32:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Well, he emailed me andclaimed he filed a complaint against me. He lives in NY, I live in another state. My brother knows epople down at our police dept and someone told him it wasnt accurate and he has to come to cT and file a complaint in person. I am fed up w/ this guys's manipulative ways. I will not contact him anymore. But what rights do I have?????
2007-02-09 06:34:37 · update #1
Do not contact him again in any way.
Do not respond to his email or phone calls.
Keep a copy of all emails he sends you and keep a journal that lists everytime he contacts you.
You can't be accused of harassment if you don't have contact with him. If you are contacted by the police about this issue, promise that you won't contact him again and tell them about how he has also been contacting you. Chances are they will tell you to leave him alone and put in a report and that will be it.
You can't let this guy suck you back into a relationship with him again. Stay strong and let him go.
2007-02-09 06:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by joeanonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to move on with your life. If he starts harassing you, than you can file a police report on him, and press charges. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. If he filed a report on you would have received a visit or at least a call from the police department so they could get your side of the story.
2007-02-09 06:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grr the best thing you can do is let it go don't call him write him email or anything I just went through the same thing recently and almost ended up dead. My ex is a psycho and he was stalking me after I broke up with him... Get out while you can and if you have to go to your local commisoners office and file for a restraining order. If he did file charges against you for harrassment it will all come out when you go to court for the restraining order but you need to protect yourself first. At least if you get the order from the judge then if he contacts you or comes to your home or work they will lock him up and if he does it enough it will be for good!
2007-02-09 06:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by krymsinwingz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to separate yourself from this person and any people like this person. Just like anyone else, you don't need all this drama in your life.
If you are the kind of person that enjoys drama, then by all means, continue trying to "research" about his past.
I think that the best thing for you to do is put this behind you, don't talk to him, answer his phone calls or anything else. If what he says is true and he did file a harrassment claim on you (which I doubt he actually did), then you have all the defense you need in that you have cut all contact with this loser and don't wish to have any part of that kind of life.
2007-02-09 06:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by LV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the turkey, he isn't worth the trouble. Maybe you need to pick up nicer men in better places. A school classroom or church are a couple of suggestions. Why do you stay with him? You should have dumped him right as soon as he started the abuse. So part of it is your own fault for not dumping him early.
Get your life together. There is still hope.
2007-02-09 06:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My now ex bf claimed he filed a harassment report on me.
Simple call your local PD to verify report. All reports are public domain. As far as whacked out bf -- run and never look back -- the good thing is you now know the truth... do what you need to do to heal -- no shame in getting help!!
good luck
2007-02-09 06:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by TALLgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not really sure of what your question is....or what you need help with....but it sounds to me like you need Jesus! Whatever the problem is...He can help you...and He will-- if you allow Him to! From what you have said here; it doesn't seem like there are any grounds for your ex boyfriend to file a harrasment report....if there were other incidences; then maybe....but not if it was just a phone call.....just be sure that you don't contact him any more...Hope this helps! God Bless you!
2007-02-09 06:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by TanksMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he filed a report the police dept. would know. they would have a warrant to pick you up on the charges. if you call them, they can tell you. He has to have some kind of proof of the harrasement. I would stay away from him at all costs. He sounds pretty nuts.
2007-02-09 06:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Cranky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
goto your local police dept. and file an order of protection on him. those have different expiration times on them; months, yearly...etc. which can also be renew. Don't have to tell him either nor will the P.D. notify him. next time he shows up in the area just call the police and the will lock him up for violating order of protection.
2007-02-09 12:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by chigger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his bluff. In the meantime consult with a lawyer and explain everything to him. YOU might be able to file a complaint against you ex and prevent him from ruining your life.
2007-02-09 06:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by Pancake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋