I have an infant daughter, and am having difficulty with the idea of going back to work and placing my baby in daycare
2007-02-09 06:26:36 · 10 answers · asked by Donnertagskind 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you can afford to stay at home it's absolutely better for your child. However I think it's important to still have time to yourself to do something other than care for your baby, so if you need to work a few hours a week, or join some sort of group, do so. I stayed at home full time, but then felt like I was starting to go a little crazy being home all the time with my daughter. I felt like I was losing my patience. I now work about 10-12 hours a week. My daughter goes to daycare for that 12 hours and it's worked great. She has learned that other people can meet her needs, and has learned to play well with other kids. I get some time for myself, even though I'm working, and am excited to pick her up from daycare. My time with her is so much more meangingful now.
2007-02-09 06:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uggg! I struggled w/ the same problem! I dreaded going back to work after my daughter was born. But, I did decide to go back full-time and placed her in a private home setting. I felt like I was being such a bad mom at times because I wasn't spending enough time w/ her. But, as the months rolled on, I got used to the idea. I realized that I wasn't alone...MANY women do the same thing because in this day and age, both parents have to work it seems! I CAN tell you that when I was home during the evenings and the weekends, I cherished every moment w/ her.
Now, after having my 2nd child, I stay home. Although I don't regret the decision to take care of both my kids, I can tell you that there are days (like today) when I WISH I was back at work full-time. I can tell you that being a stay-at-home mom is FAR more difficult than working full-time! Kids can literally suck the energy from you. I sometimes feel like my brain is turning to mush because all I do is wash clothes, vacuum, listen to Dora the Explorer and change diapers! There have been several days in a row that I haven't even stepped OUTSIDE! Ahhhh! But, I also know that I will never regret staying at home...but in my opinion, going to work is a lot easier!
2007-02-09 06:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by justme75 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you can afford to stay home (even if it will be a bit of a sacrifice) you will never regret it. I worked the first year my daughter was born and cried every day I had to drop her off at daycare. I just missed her terribly and felt guilty that I was missing so many hours with her. I have 3 kids now and even though we've sacrificed financially it has been so worth it. The time I've invested in the kids has paid off and they are wonderful, respectful and bright children! I'm going back to work next year (my son will be pre-school age) and now we will be able to do the things we haven't been able to do (like save for college, take some trips, etc.)
Not everyone can do it financially---I understand that, but you might suprise yourself how much you can do on one income.
2007-02-09 06:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by josie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My youngest daughter has a daughter that's 8 months old. She has chosen to leave a 50k a year job to be a stay at home Mom. I know that she's made the ultimate decision, and I'm so proud of her. My Granddaughter is talking already, and I believe it's because her Mom is home with her. Good luck on your decision. You can make ends meet, if you try. ~~~~~~
2007-02-09 06:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can stay home, how could you hand your precious little baby over to a bunch of strangers??? I stay at home with my daughter who is 2 now and I couldn't imagine some other person, getting to see all the cute things she does and seeing her first smile, hearing her first word. I have never understood why people choose to have a baby and then throw it in a daycare. Stay home with her, you won't miss out on having a job like some other people say, you have a job and it is being a mommy.
2007-02-09 06:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is generally speaking it is by far better for the child(ren) for mom to stay home UNLESS:
-It causes a family undue hardship
-The mom resents it and would rather be working (Unhappy momma isn't good for anyone).
Monetarily I can not afford to work. Not that I want to BUT basically if you aren't making twice as much per hour as childcare costs per hour it probably isn't worth working. Obviously if you are getting free child care that changes things.
2007-02-09 06:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a stay at home mom is ALWAYS the right decision
2007-02-09 19:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that very same thought 23 years ago so i stayed at home untill my kids were teenagers, there were too many freaks in this world i put my kids in karate self defence and i let them compete i put them in that class because i wanted them to be able to defend themselves if someone messed with them and i made sure my daughter also took it in case some perveert tried to grab her she is 21 now my son will be 24 this year..
2007-02-09 06:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guilt you feel about being away from your baby is worse than the guilt of not providing her with more stuff...then you stay home.
2007-02-09 06:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when i had my daughter i planned to go back to work but when it came closer to the time me and my husband both decided he made enough and that we didn't want to leave my child with another person. it just if you can effort it and if you can handle it
2007-02-09 06:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by kailey0819 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋