We had lunch and spent time togther. We talked on the phone and she said that she enjoyed herself and liked me. She said she wanted to spend more time with me, but now she says that she broke up with her boyfriend two months ago and want to wait. So, why did she even get me started? Should I persue her or leave her alone?
2007-02-09 06:24:56 · 16 answers · asked by volkswagenf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are describing an HONEST girl - be thankful. She told you she enjoyed being with you and she told you she wants to take things slow. This is a young woman who has been hurt and who is being careful with her heart. she is using her head and is giving you truthful feedback. If you really like her, you will appreciate her honesty and hold back a bit. Call her and tell her that you understand and that you think she's worth waiting for. Tell her you'd like to see her occasionally and that there will be no pressure. Ask her if she minds if you call her once a week or if she would prefer to call you if she feels like going to a movie, grab a pizza or just talk. If she prefers to call you, and then she doesn't call for more than 2 weeks, take the cue that she's still not ready - or that she's decided you're not "the one" she needs right now. She said she likes you so be cool. It is GOOD to have lots of people "like" you - you don't need to be LOVED by everyone. And - just to let you know what life is really like - it's a fact that the longest relationships come naturally, they evolve from friends who truly LIKE each other.
2007-02-09 06:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geesh! Be her FRIEND! Guys too often try to rush into something or decide that it's not moving quickly enough so they just run away. Just hang out with her, talk to her, listen to her, and really just be her friend for a bit. That way you both can get to know each other better and if the sparks don't fly - at least you'll have made a friend out of the whole ordeal!
2007-02-09 14:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be that she wanted to be with you just to heal her broken heart or to try to forget about her ex. Two months is too little if she was really in love for complete healing. I think you can try to find out why and who dumped who. you can also ask her as a friend how did the relationship mean to her. Then you will have your answers. Good luck.
2007-02-09 14:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by ALS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be willing to ask her if she would be willing to just be friends for now? You could still get together once in awhile, but a rebound relationship (for her/anyone) is not the best thing. Besides, for any kind of a relationship, being friends first is important. Take care.
2007-02-09 14:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
String her along with head games to show you're interested, but get some other prospects going on the side. If she proves too much hassle or is unlikely to put out, dump her ***.
2007-02-09 14:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like exactly what she says.. girls deal with relationships differently than guys. we take it seriously ( most of us that havent been desensitized.) she may like you but because she was hurt she may not want to jump into another relationship SO FAST. think about it. she really doesnt know you. you could be someone who lies. cheats. flirts. an abuser. there are lots of reasons to take it slow. ask her to be honest because you deserve it. you arent obligated to wait for her if she isn't sure. meanwhile you could be missing out on your furure wife and mother of your kids. good luck.
2007-02-09 14:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone romantically for now, but remain friends. Let her pursue you for a while when she's ready to date again.
2007-02-09 14:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's apparently not interested if she wants to wait for an ex boyfriend.
2007-02-09 14:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by ldgbt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend. Don't think too much yet. Stil hang out with her, Do you give up that easily? Friendships can last forever.
2007-02-09 14:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone she's waiting for her ex to come back move on
2007-02-09 14:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by maya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋