We got 2gether three months ago but he is now calling me during his lunch period and every ten minutes. I used to like him, but I don't anymore and I don't want to hurt his feelings. What makes it worse, he lives less than a block away from me and he shows up at my door like 2 times a day? HELP!
2007-02-09 06:20:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life is too short to be attached to the wrong guy. Drop him and move on.
2007-02-09 06:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should break up with him, but I also think and know since I've been in this situation a time or two that you should talk to him about this problem and tell him that you need a little bit of space, but your not breaking up with him or just tell him that he;s smuttering you and that you really need time to yourslef sometimes. Tell him that you want him to miss you sometimes, but I've been through this because I used to date a guy and he used to be up under me all of the time and I told him to back up a little bit and when he did he never liked spending time with me anymore so just be careful for what you ask for because when he started spending less and less time with me I would have given anytihng in the world to make him be like he was before.
2007-02-09 06:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cheek~meek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya gotta be honest in this situation honey. Especially if he lives so close to you that he can watch you come and go from his house if he wants to. Just let him know that you're feeling a bit smothered and think that you guys need some time apart so that you can clear your head. Don't use the excuse its me not you but that's kind of what it is here. You're just not used to that type of treatment from a guy and you're finding that you don't like it so much. Speak from the heart - let him down easy tiger:) Good luck!
2007-02-09 06:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell him its over because the faster the break up the faster you can get on with you're life and another thing there is no way for anybody to break up with someone without hurting their feelings he will get over it in time. if he lives 2 blocks down the road and you're afraid he might stalk you, keep him as a friend but let him know just because were friends dosen't mean were getting back together its best to move on and break it off. for a 3 month relationship it would be a smooth break up. its up to you as long as your happy:)
2007-02-09 06:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Victor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you don't like him or just what he's doing? Talk to him and spell it out to him and set boundarys. Ask him what happened to old fashioned dating where the guy calls the girl and actually makes plans and then waits for that moment. Also it is a sign of disrespect if he doesn't respect your privacy and space. Is he doing this to spy on you? Or is he just blindly in love and ignorant? Nevertheless you had better talk to him and explain its for the good to have guide lines.
2007-02-09 06:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just meet up with him, n do some nice talk. Tell him to give u more space, & its too anoying for u. Say that your not that comfatable with this 'pattern' of his. Hope he will understand. Sometimes he will get hurt y hearing this. But, if he is open enough, he could understand. Good luck!
2007-02-09 06:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what i suggest is that u wait a while. I was so annoyed by this guy that i was with the first four months and one day i just snapped I grew to love him. we have problems but who doesn't at least i have him there. your guy sounds just like mine did. well my attraction fell but then i opened my eyes THANK GOD cause then i would of lost a good thing. and well now were engaged. Good luck on your decision.
2007-02-09 06:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jade Marrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...first of all...(what I do)
I would tell him VERY sweetly what your problem is and then tell him what he needs to do. Maybe you should plan a day just to help your relationship and tell eachother whats going on and what needs to happen without anger. If you really want to break up with him just tell him straight out kindly and leave it alone and don't make a big deal about it.
Cassie-14
2007-02-09 06:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL!!!!!! Sorry girl, but I had to laugh! WAIT!! it's partially because I was in the same situation 2 years ago. OMG... I feel you. Except I was in my relationship for 8 months. He got sucked into my life and lost his identity-- I was like the air that he needed to breathe. (not conceit here... he just has needy issues)
Girl, I feel you!!!
DON'T FEEL BAD. You've got to just do it! and break up! Dang... mine lasted 8 months because it was so hard for me to break it off by the 6th month. Everyone goes through it. Including me and you!!!! You've got to be honest... don't abadon him... and don't just leave him without thorough reasons...
YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-09 06:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mami_Cita427 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i learned after being really nice that its probably easier for both of you for you to be brutally honest. maybe hell be hurt-thats kind of expected, but to keep him from living in a fantasy world and to keep you from forcing yourself to be with a person you dont like anymore is even worse than getting it over with now.
its all a part of growing up. living, loving, and learning. but do it soon and be as honest as possible.
2007-02-09 06:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by cryingtree1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋