potty training and need help?

Question

I have a 3 year old daughter and she is still in pampers.
I have tried to potty train her but she acts "stubborn" and says no.
we were living somewhere else for about 3 months and she was going to daycare where they were teaching her how and she almost learned but we moved and it seems like she just "lost" everything she learned.
my parents told me to just try "monkey see monkey do" that is to take her with me in the bathroom when i go. which isn't helping so far.
I think she is getting too old for pampers.
i need suggestions on what to do
thanks in advance

Answer 1

Children older then about 2 ½ years old are a little harder to potty train. They are resistant to change and are getting set in their ways. They have a “habit” of using a nappy to go pee or poo in. Stopping to go wee or poo in the toilet hasn’t gotten in the way of playing and they don’t want it to either. The same method of training a younger child is the same for an older child but consistency is even more important. When you start this method you must not stop. Be consistent and positive and make sure to always catch them in the middle of their accidents. Older children can understand reasoning a little better so you can explain more and expect more from them.

You must have no distractions and you have prepared yourself and your child. Potty Training is a lot of work but if you are dedicated and consistent the training process will go very fast.

To start you will need to make sure that everything is in order.

• Have your potty chair set up in your bathroom. Place the potty chair in the living room or kitchen. The child needs to learn to go to the bathroom. That’s where we need to teach them to do their thing.

• Both you and your child should eat breakfast. Make sure to offer plenty of liquid to your child while he/she is eating.

• Personally be ready for the day – Showered, teeth brushed, gone to the bathroom. You don’t want anything pulling you away from training once you’ve started.

• Your child is only in a t-shirt and his/her nappy. Don’t have trousers or a dress on the child. It’s harder to see the accidents when they have them on.

Once these things are done you’re ready to start the potty training. Put the underwear on the child and tell them that they are “Big Boy/Girl Pants”. Make sure you call them that. Be sure to tell the child how big they look and how proud you are of them for being so big. They like being called big so remember to call your child a big boy or big girl often. Tell your child that they must keep their underwear dry.

Now you will need to take your child and have them throw away all the unused nappies. There is no going back now. Tell your child that they don’t need those yucky baby nappies anymore. They’re big and all grown up! If at any time your child says he wants the nappy tell him that they are all gone. Make sure you stick to this. They might ask or even cry for them because of the comfort they have with them. After all, they’ve been wearing them for almost 2 years. Bring your child into the bathroom with you and get down to his/her level. Explain to your child the purpose of the potty chair. Tell your child that it’s used to put wee and poo in and if he needs to go wee or poo that it needs to go in the potty and not in is new underwear. There is not need for a power struggle here. If your child cries at this point and says no, do not react just take them out of the bathroom and go to the next step. Talk with your child about being wet and dry. Do not ask your child if he’s wet, as you have already told your child that he must stay dry. The focus will be on the child staying dry not wet. Remember to have the child check frequently. Each time your child checks their underwear and they are dry, really praise them. Make sure your child knows how proud you are of him/her for keeping the underwear “dry”. Tell your child to “tell mummy/daddy when you have to go to wee because you’re a big boy/girl.” make sure not to just “ask” the child if they need to go because you will probably always get the answer “no”. Instead try saying something like “You’re such a big girl. Mummy/Daddy is so proud of you. Be sure to tell mum/dad when you have to go, OK?” This will make the child think he has the control but it’s really you asking him if he needs to go.

Also remember to have your child check for dryness. You should be having the child check for dryness and telling them to tell you if they need to go every couple of minutes. You want to keep this in their mind at all times. Start offering your child their favorite drinks. Have them drink all day. If they seem tired of one kind of drink, try another. The more they drink the more they will need to go to the bathroom, which means more opportunities to train. Spend your day with the child. Get on the floor and play games, sit with your child to watch their favorite program on TV. If the weather is good you can play in the backyard (as long as bathroom isn’t a mile away). Color with the child, clean the toy box with the child. Anything goes as long as you are right by the child’s side. You must not leave the child’s side. Staying with the child is the key to this program. It’s so important to catch them in the act of going pee or pooping each and every time. The more you catch your child in the act the faster the training will go. If your child is willing you can do role playing on what to do when they need to go wee or poo. Some kids like this and others do not.

When you see your child weeing or pooing in their pants, pick your child up in the middle of them going and run them to the bathroom and sit them on the toilet as fast as you can. Have them finish on the toilet. When you are picking them up don’t yell or call them bad. Just say “Yuck, your underwear is wet and that’s horrible. You’re a big boy/girl; you’re supposed to go wee/poo in the big boy/girl potty and keep your underwear dry.” If the child finishes in the toilet say “Good boy/girl, I knew you could do it!” Now give them a snack. Don’t say the snack is for going pee or pooping in the toilet. You will repeat this over and over with each accident. Accidents are part of the training. Accidents help the training process succeed faster because it gives you the chance to show your child what to do and what not to do. Don’t ever make the child just sit on the toilet. This is a mistake a lot of parents make. They get so discouraged about the child weeing in their pants that they place them on the toilet and say that they are staying there until they go. Please do not do this. This causes the child to be scared of using the toilet and view the toilet as a punishment. If you make them just sit on the potty it will make the training harder and take longer.

You will probably need to do washing if you don’t have enough underwear. It’s OK and doesn’t mean that your child isn’t getting it. It will “click” for your child if you stay positive and stay consistent. When your child does tell you that he/she needs to go wee or poo, run with your child to the toilet and let them go. When they go, you need to go “crazy”.

Jump up and down and tell them how big they are and how proud you are of them. Tell them that they are so grown up. Keep clapping your hands and really make them feel good about themselves. Once they are done going you need to tell them “let’s call daddy at work” or “let’s call Aunty Jane”. Call anyone that will praise your child for being so big. The child needs to see and feel how great of an act it was for them to go in the potty. You should always act with great joy each and every time they go wee or poo in the toilet.

Some kids like sitting backwards on the toilet because they don’t feel as if they are going to fall in. This works well for both boys and girls.

Answer 2

A friend suggested it, I tried it and it worked.
1)Go to any dollar store and get a book with stickers.
2) Let her know every time she goes to the potty,and uses it, she will get a special sticker from the book. She can choose it.
3) Important- make sure that every time she attempts it, congratulate her but do not give her a sticker. She has to recognize it is a reward
4) The very first time she does go potty, make a big production out of it, if you have a noise maker use it and then let her choose the sticker.
5) Make sure that you have "big" girl underwear for her so that would be the ultimate reward and let her help you pick them out

Answer 3

It's not uncommon for a "stubborn" 3-year-old to resist toilet training. And, it's important not to let it turn into a power struggle. Try a gentle "natural consequences" approach. So, for example, you give her praise in response to desired behaviors, encourage the correct behavior by promising a reward (but not food treats or you cause a whole other set of problems) and then discourage the unwanted behavior by communicating on the unpleasant smell of the diaper, letting her know the lack of compliance means a toy will be taken away until it's "earned" back, etc. Hope that helps!

Answer 4

She probably just isn't ready yet. Also, when young kids are disrupted by a move, etc., they will "regress" and give things up they can.

Remember, a 3 year old has very little control over her world except for a few things like the potty. If you pressure her too much, it will backfire.

Keep encouraging her and she'll do it when she's ready. Sounds like she has the ability to do it, but she is making the choice not too.

She'll get it eventually.

Answer 5

Try a reward system. She probably knows what to do but she is being stubborn about it. Every time she goes she gets a sticker on a chart or a jelly bean or something. Potty training is a tricky area. Each child is different and it can become a power struggle.

Answer 6

With my 2 girls I would sit them on the potty about every 15 minutes and let them sit there for about 2 or 3 minutes. Sometimes I would dribble some warm water over it and sometimes that would get them to go. If they went them I would give them a sucker or candy or something they really want. That was a reward for going and that made them want to keep doing it. Hang in there, she will get it eventually

Answer 7

All these things are good. We used a reward system, a potty book, Elmo movie about potty...and we just talked all about potty business for a long time.

Answer 8

Let her get use to the move.; it has shaken up her security. Let her get familiar with her new surroundings.

Both of my boys were 3-3 1/2; the youngest being afraid of the commode. My oldest is about to go through this with his own child now.
Relax. Don't concern yourself so much about this. It WILL happen. Trust me, she won't be starting school still in diapers. :)

Answer 9

there is a video made for children on potty training. in the video, there are children walking around in diapers learning how to use their toilets and they sing this adorable song and dance. the song is called yes i'm going to my potty, potty.

it was my sons favorite video for the longest time. and when he watched it, we would have him walk around naked in the room and have hit potty next to the tv so that he could imitate what he was watching.

Answer 10

get her the potty Elmo it worked for 3 of my little cousins.....her sings on how he gos to the potty and he has a pamper show her the Elmo doesn't need the pamper her gos to the potty and she can do it 2....good luck...

Answer 11

I HAVE THE ANSWER!!!!
My son will be 3 in March. I have been trying off and on to potty train him since last April. He wasn't ready so I put it off for a while but my husband and I have been getting tired of changing dirty pull-ups so i've decided to give it another try. I CRACKED THE CODE! It finaly worked, I just had to wait for him and myself to be ready.
Pick a week when you don't have to go anywhere, STAY HOME! It will take that long cause you son needs to figure out the sensation. My son doesn't tell me he needs to go, I put him on the potty and tell him to wait for the pee pee to come out.
My son is like any other boy who likes cartoons so I put his portable potty on a towel in front of the tv and put on a video.
(I used a towel under the potty for spills, I had to change it just about everytime he went. Alot of laundry that week)

He watches alot of videos that week. But it was all worth it cause know he goes by himself. I still ask him every once in a while if he needs to go but he say's no everytime even if he needs to go. He sat and watched his video and peed in the potty. When he would get up and I knew that he wasn't done peeing I would tell him to sit on the potty and sometimes he said no and i would turn off th tv and then he sat back down on the potty so i would turn the tv back on. When he did go pee I went over board with happyness. We sang the potty song "Russel went pee pee on the potty, Russel went pee pee on the potty Horray!!!!" and we danced. He was so happy to see me happy that he wanted me to be happy again and again. I found that the same routine worked.
be prepared to have accidents but don't punish him for it just say "did you have an accident? Thats ok go sit on the potty and see if there's anymore pee pee that needs to come out."
OUR ROUTINE:
Pee pee on the potty
Then he got 2 chocolate chips and we dumped the pee in the BIG potty and he gets to flush the toilet and say's "bye bye pee pee" and washed our hands. then he got a sticker for washing his hands.

2 chocolated chips for pee
6 chocolate chips and a lolly pop for poo (cause it's special)
1 sticker for washing his hands.

The first couple of days give him alot of juice and milk, everytime he's finished his cup fill it up again. I did this with my son and he had to pee every 20min. That means the more he pee's the more times he get's that sensation and figures it out. I bought a timer at the dollar store to remind me it's been 20min and make sure he was sitting on the potty. I gave him alot for attention that week, lots of hugs and kiss and I told him "mommy is so happy, you make mommy so happy when you go pee on the potty, i'm so proud of you!" "Your a big boy now that you go pee on the potty" and we would call his aunt and tell her over the phone and she would respond with pure excitment. That made him happy!
My son was going pee by himself after the 6th day but don't get me wrong he still had many accidents but its a work in progress, and we are still working on going poo. And he wears a pull-up at night.
By the way we are on day 22. I hope this helps. A friend of mine used mini brownies as a treat and her son was trained in 2 days. I wish!!! but you never know it might work for you!
best of luck!!!