Is it really true that men can choose a woman who is less pretty - if he has a chance to choose someone who is more beautiful?
Everyone is right - it's not my husband, it's me. I honestly have never really seen him even look...if he does mention someone who is attractive, he is very respectful.
He hates that I think about this - I wouldn't say I obsess, but I do analyze it. He tells me people like attractive people, but it doesn't mean anything.
How can that be? If they are visual, how can they not leap to the more attractive person?
He once travelled alone on an airplane with a 25 year old blond analyst. How could he not have thought about her sexually? And if she had been 'game' (which she was not), would he have naturally gone for it?
Once he saw my friends breasts when she leaned over in a dress. Is he now thinking of that?
Again, it's me, not him. He says no.
2007-02-09 06:12:22 · 7 answers · asked by ck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People are visual people but also many attractive people don't have attractive personalities. What is wrong if he thinks of those breast or that girl as long as he didn't act upon that thought. Like the old saying goes "you can look but don't touch"!!
2007-02-09 06:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obviously you. He has answered your question and you don't believe him. That is your issue.
Yes, it completely feasible that men/males can find other people attractive, but not attracted to those people. It happens every day. Just because someone is physically attractive on the outside, it doesn't mean they have attractive personalities.
Crazy thought: maybe your husband loves you.
Give the male sex at least an ounce of respect that we're not a bunch of horned-up, mouth-breathing cavemen.
2007-02-09 06:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal for both Males and Females to be with someone but still be able to find someone else attractive yes. However, just because you are drop dead gorgeous does not mean she will also have everything. Personality is a big determining factor. So yes I am sure he finds girls attractive but he is happy and loves you so why would he go for another.
2007-02-09 06:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ARE obsessed. Take a breather and listen, lol! Calm......yes.......that's right.
You have ample reason to think about it, but do you trust your husband? Honestly, do you?? He is trying to protect you. There will always be a more beautiful person than yourself. You could be SOOOO beautiful, yet there will always be someone more beautiful in some guy's eyes.
Now, listen to what I say here. He wants to love YOU. He is respectful toward YOU. That ought to tell you he cares for you. Love is not all about looks. Guys care about looks more when they are playing the field. Only skampy guys who sleep around on their wives would care about looks as greatly while married. He obviously cares about you, or he might mention something that would make you want to look nicer. You should take it as a compliment. Instead, develop traits that guys look for more once married. Be a good wife and mother (if you are one). Be there for him when he needs you. Communicate, and you hold the key to a guy's heart in your hands! Think of ways to win your husband's heart constantly rather than worry about if he thinks of other women more than you. MAKE HIM THINK OF YOU!!
*hint, hint* Once married, a guy wants his wife to show that she cares about him. Do that, and most guys will stay around FOREVER!!!
2007-02-09 06:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
humans are complex, just because we want or are attracted to something does not mean we will or even deep down really want to do it. Sure he thinks about other women, just as I'm sure when you see an attractive man you appreciate looking. Point is, he with you, unless you have reason to believe, or if he has cheated in the past, relax.
2007-02-09 06:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by krissy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has chosen you as his wife, then you are as special as you can be to him. He chose you over everyone else. If that doesn't make you secure, then nothing will.
He probably does think about other women sometimes. Are you telling me that you've never thought about other men? Fantasizing is human nature. It is innocent unless done obsessively or acted upon, and it sounds like your husband has done neither.
So, relax and enjoy your marriage.
2007-02-09 06:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up
2007-02-09 06:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋