My daughter is very clingy at bedtime, when she was 3 had some medical problems and always slept in my bed for precautionary reasons, now she is older and perfectly healthy but just doesnt want to sleep in her bed. I try to lay down with her till shes asleep, but she wakes up and comes to my bed, cries and screams if i leave her alone whether in her bed or my bed. She has nightlight, fav toy, door open, but wont go to sleep on her own.
2007-02-09 06:10:28 · 8 answers · asked by Jenn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
lock her in there. all night. ignore the cries/screams.
2007-02-09 06:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Consider getting her involved in redecorating her bedroom in a way that makes her feel safe and happy. Get her involved in choosing colors, make it sounds super special, get her excited about sleeping in her new bed with new blankets and pillows, etc. Make it an event and make sure she has a special friend to sleep with - some real soft snuggly cuddly stuffed animal - maybe even use a puppet that talks to her. Use a nice voice and have a "conversation" with her introducing the new friend. I'd do the intro before bedtime and then a re-intro at bedtime.
I found this worked extremely well with my son when he was around 4-5. He also had health issues, etc.
If she continues to get up and want to come into your rooom, speak in a normal voice but be firm with her about sleeping in her own "new" room. Maybe use the puppet again to dialog with her about going back to sleep.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 06:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child may have a real fear, this fear is real to her, you need to find out why and find a way to destroy this fear or show her in a safe way to face her fears then they will go away. Even if it takes leaving a night light on for her. Or maybe she is just insecure about something from her past. their is nothing wrong for her to receive comfort from you at night until she falls asleep then place her in bed, don't forget a small night light on, if she was to waken during the night she could have a sense of security. I work in this field, my none professional E-Mail contact nodrod2000@yahoo.com N/C
2007-02-09 06:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by nodrod2000@Yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your pediatrician about this? There might be an underlying medical cause. Could it be that she still has nightmares about when she was sick when she was younger? Kids don't forget being sick very easily.
Maybe you could wean her off of sleeping in your bed by having a friend or relative near her age sleep over. This might help ease her fears if she sees another child her age sleeping in a bed by themselves.
2007-02-09 06:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Pink1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him that you will sleep with him, and after some time, if he is awake, tell him that you need to take a medicine,or if he is asleep walk away slowly and quietly and go to bed.
2007-02-09 06:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by black ball707 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake him up collectively well-known, placed him to mattress collectively well-known (obviously the first days even weeks will be difficult) have a uncomplicated, like supply him a bathtub examine him a narrative then placed him to mattress that way he receives used to it and it is going to likely be a lot less complicated to adhere to. even as he is going on your moms mattress she ought to continuously take him back to his mattress, if he's scared she ought to do something like placed the monsters in a container and take them outdoors or have something interior the room that repels the monsters (like a filled animal and in basic terms tell him that this animal scares the monsters so as that they received't complication him). His little window should be coated from the outdoors so as that he won't be able to see out. also he may have a nap ailment so in case you attempt to regulate his sound asleep conduct and they don't artwork you should take him to a healthcare professional.
2016-11-26 19:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to keep returning her to bed and reinforcing the "her bed/your bed" rule. Eventually, and this might take some time, she will stay in her bed. You might lose some sleep but it will be worth it in the long wrong. Been in your shoes. GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-09 06:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So, comfort your child, for gosh sakes, for as long as it takes. Let her know its ok to sleep in her bed, there is nothing to be scared of. Be consistent.
2007-02-09 06:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Foxtrot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋