I was told that when your boyfriend or your crush prefer their friends than you...then that means that they are not ready to be in a relationship. I feel as if my bf prefers his friends over me sometimes. For example...he went to a club with them last weekend, after I told him to not go... he still went. That made me feel bad...but I didn't let it get to me because I called up my friends and we went out too. So I ask him who he prefers and his response was..." Dont make me choose"... I took it like he prefers them. When I asked him the second time he said me but didn't sound that convincing. What should I do? Should I not worry about it?
2007-02-09 06:05:49 · 13 answers · asked by sWeeTy PiE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should both have your own life but spend time together as well! Why you would tell him not to do something or go out with his friends is beyond me...sounds a little controlling to me. However, if you're not sure about how he feels and that's even after you ask him...stick with your gut and be single for a while...what have you got to lose? Or just put him on the back-burner like he is doing to you...that's if you want to play the games back and forth though...good luck--
2007-02-09 06:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by SB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, don't make him choose. Guys hate that. If he loves you, let it go. You are his girl. Let him have his guy night outs or whatever every now and then and you should do the same with your friends. Don't demand that he not go just because you think they're more important than you. If you really want to know how he feels just ask him. Don't assume and don't give him ultimatums. If you're secure with your relationship, you should have nothing to worry about.
2007-02-09 14:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way-I feel-to be happy in a relationship with a bf, is you both have your own lives to live, your own friends, and hopefully some mutual friends, and to have time with your friends, as well as with each other, to me is healthy. Please, don't come across as "clingy", or "controlling", it turns guys off, just as it would if it were reversed for you. Take care.
2007-02-09 14:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that he prefers either of you to the other, but he is right, you cant make him choose. how would you like it if you were going out clubing with your friends and he told you not to go??? he needs his friends as well as you, to talk about boys things that he doesnt talk to you about...like sports and cars and wether they shave down there or not.... if you are too over protectiv of him, you will lose him...
2007-02-09 14:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by ciara_e2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake don't ever put your boyfriend choose between you or his best friends,it's wrong.Everyone should keep balance between their relationships and it's not fair to make him choose.From what I read it doesn't worrying,he seems to care about you and you should realize that sooner ore later before it's too late.
2007-02-09 14:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like he is only for the ride.. why dont you have a talk with him regarding your relationship and see if he feels the same way as you do. Maybe you will be better off without him if he treats you that way.
2007-02-09 14:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you did all that and he is still with you? Leave him alone and stop trying to be so controlling. Let him go out with his friends too or he will just leave you.
2007-02-09 14:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when are you going to understand...there was life before you came into it. you had one but you choose to forgo it for a man. ok. He is keeping his life the way it is. who are you to tell him he can't go out with his buds? Then you go and do it? why? to get even with him. Ill show you two can play this game? grow up.
2007-02-09 14:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already a divisive and irritating influence in his life, restricting his freedom and being bossy and demanding. Only a matter of time before you are DUMPED!
2007-02-09 14:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it is your fault ..you should not put urself in a situation that ur b.f can choose between you and somebody or sth..you should let him know dat he's in da top of everythin and ur sure dat he's puttin u in da top of everythin too...even if you know dat he's not but when da time goes by trust me he will start thinkin da same
2007-02-09 14:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by lillyshamshom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋