Hello,
Im 21 years old & have been dating my boyfirend for a little over 3 years. We have had our rough patches but we are the best we have ever been. He tells me how much he loves me ALL of the time & he spends all of his extra time with me. We live together & have for about a year. A usual day for us is getting up, going to work, coming home, watching TV, eat- he plays video games & then we go to bed. We almost never fight. He smokes weed and he has addicition problems- might do other drugs.. the bigger problem is that he hardly wants to have sex? I have to ALWAY initiate it. I have tried to liven it up by buying sexy stuff to wear for him or give him sexy dances. He responds fine to oral- he never says no of course. I have tried to talk to him & all he says is that he doesn't know y- but he wants to & we should have sex more- but if I dont initiate it- it doesn't happen? He says he is in love with me and wants to w/me 4ever so what is the problem? Does anyone have some advice?
2007-02-09 06:03:39 · 7 answers · asked by Ms. Independent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to tell you from a guys point of you that has had this similiar thing going on. He isn't the right one for you, or he just might have some doubts if you are right for him.
anyway, I don't think it healthy to be in this relationship but of course it is your choice.
2007-02-09 06:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by ramzoid1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoking weed is all well and good, but it sounds like that's all he cares about especially if your not smoking with him.If these "other addictions" are serious then you might have a problem on your hands, forget the sex.It's not natural for a 21 year old man to not have a raging sex drive unless he works at the penetagon or uses cocaine or something.Please talk to him.I'm sure you love him but....damn.
2007-02-09 06:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've heard this story many times, heres my advice to you, you should read this book "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, it would give you a very new insight, but when it really comes to it, if he really likes you or love you, he won't be able to put his hands off you, but you mentioned that he is doing drugs, that can be a problem also, you should really talk to him about it. Communication is the key to a good steady relationship
2007-02-09 06:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Saphire04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bottom line - he's got it good and it's made him lazy.
Your relationship will not deviate from this unless you make it; the drugs and slacker lifestyle are hard to shake - easy sex has just made it harder for him to grow a spine.
If you really care about this guy, you need to watch him fall - enough for him to get up and grow into a man. He'll need your support.
The easy solution - ditch this loser and go find a real man.
2007-02-09 06:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay been in your situation as far as feeling like he never wants it. I am glad you both have talked about it, but as far as the drugs do you really want that life style what if you decide to have kids? Are you going to let them go into that life style? As far as you having to always start it. Get a BOB! Maybe he will get the hint. If he is not going to provide for you provide for yourself.
2007-02-09 06:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by stefanibrown74 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's tired of you. Men were not meant to be with one woman forever. Men are not geese. Invite a friend over.
2007-02-09 06:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jet 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he's gay
2007-02-09 06:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by amazing!!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋