Mountain out of a molehill?

Question

Here's the situation: I lost respect for a co-worker/ classmate/ friend/ one night deal guy after he started ignoring me to sit by someone else in class. Also, one month since the incident of us hanging out and things going too far, I've found out that his "off and on" gf was, in her mind, always "on." From his roomate I found out he cheated on her multiple times last summer. From the new co-worker/ his gf's friend, I found out he broke up w/ her two days ago and she is devastated. Besides the roomate, no one at work ever suspected him before of being such a jack***, even though we know he has a big ego. He still doesn't know about my knowledge, or that I sorta hate him now. B/c when he does sit by me (b/c the other girl isn't there), I act the same as before. I've told a few trustworthy co-workers, and most were very surprised, and have also lost a lot of respect for him. Does he deserve for me to damage his reputation, or am I making too big a deal out of this?

Answer 1

Well I wouldn't go around spreading gossip, but I would stay away from him, he is only bringing you down. You need to surround yourself with good people. Remain cordial, yet don't make un-necessary conversation and don't remain "friends." I wouldn't hang out with him anymore, he's a dog. Think about this poor girl he has hurt so bad. Also, if you know anyone considering dating this scum bag, it would be good to warn them of is player-ish ways. But as of now, just let it be, and don't treat him the same as you used to. Maybe that will cause him to think of his bad ways, and maybe (hey I said MAYBE lol) make him want to change. What goes around, comes around. He will get his in the end.

Answer 2

I think you are being very immature by discussing your sexual dalliances at work. You made a mistake and now you seem to regret the choice you made. You also seem unwilling to own up to the fact that you made a poor decision in your choice for a fling. He may be a jerk, but you didn't do your homework on the guy until after you "hung out" with him. Now that you've done all of this research, you seem to feel slighted.

The best thing you can do for yourself now is to learn a lesson. Know people better before jumping in the sack with them, and keep your mouth shut at work about who you are bedding. Believe me, your co-workers may seem to lose respect for the guy, but they have lost some respect for you as well.

Sorry for being so harsh, but I am speaking the truth

Answer 3

You shouldn't try to ruin anybodies life even if he's a jerk if anything the person that deserves the revenge is the ex girlfriend. Its his life and if he wants to do things that way let him but since he was once a friend i think that you should confront him sometimes saying things and trying to ruin someone can turn back on you and I'm sure you don't want that drama. If all else don't talk about him anymore and forget him or ignore him he'll learn the hard way his ways.

Answer 4

hmmm...

Ask yourself this... would "outing" him do anything for you? Would it help you grow as a person. Would it really help him?

It is ok to be angry but you must deal with it in a way that is constructive for you. You should either choose to continue to be his friend or not. If not then tell him you don't want to be his friend and move on... or simply ignore him long enough and he will get the picture...

Or if you choose to associate with him... I think you have to be honest with him and tell him that you know that his girlfriend though they were still "on" (not on a break)... and that this bothers you and you have lost respect for him... and it will take some time for you to get over that...

that being said "outing" him is an action rooted in revenge... and revenge is not a healthy emotion in my opinion...

Answer 5

he's damaging his own reputation by being a jerk, you're just letting other people know so that he doesn't take advantage of them the way he did of you. don't talk about it as idle gossip, but if you find out someone else is seeing him, let them know what he's like, as fair warning.
I don't agree with all these answers saying to leave it completely alone. YOU shouldn't have any more to do with him, but wouldn't you have liked someone to warn you before you got involved?

Answer 6

i don't understand... regardless of the indisputable fact that it skill to truly exaggerate something. not all females make mountains out of molehills... some adult adult males do it too!! it really is purely an exaggeration. regardless of the indisputable fact that, it originates from a delusion from the Pakatoala Tribe, who lived on a undeniable in Oklahoma. They lived in peace there, till without notice faster or later, a clean tribe, the Mohitonka Tribe wanting to flow in there besides. intending to save peace of their community, they did not protest, they even took the Mohitonka tribe contributors on a excursion of their undeniable. They first confirmed them their "ocean" and the Mohitonka tribe reported, "No! you're making an ocean out of a creek." and then they confirmed them their "valley" and the Mohitonka tribe reported, "No! you're making a valley out of a ditch." next, they confirmed them their "woodland" and the Mohitonka tribe reported, "No! you're making a woodland out of a patch of weeds." At this element, the Pakatoala tribe grow to be in a state of marvel, because they'd purely got here upon out that each thing they concept grow to be a serious landmark grow to be quite only a small unimportant area of geography. They did, regardless of the indisputable fact that, decide on to educate them their very last "function." They added the Mohitonka tribe to their "mountain." And again, their delight of their tremendous landmark grow to be beaten. "No!" the Mohitonka tribe exclaimed. "you're making a mountain out of a molehill!" and that is how the tale is going. apparently, "mountain out of a molehill" is the in hardship-free words one which stuck. Plus, "you're making a woodland out of a patch of weeds!" purely would not sound as solid. Ha!! I purely made that up... Gotta say i'm a touch pleased with myself... Sounds exceptionally solid, huh? :)

Answer 7

If he's really a "friend" you'll accept him for whatever he is. If aspects about him are revolting, then just treat him for what he is - a co-worker and nothing else. If you find you're judging him for his personality downfalls and can't talk to him about it, you two probably are nothing more than acquaintances.

Answer 8

I honestly do not think revenge is the answer. You are partly to blame for trusting a man. I love them, but never trust them. I am a firm believer in KARMA...what comes around goes around. That means you get back what you put out, if you stoop to his level, you may as well be telling the same lie to other's. He'll get what's coming to him....trust me.

Answer 9

Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone...
Gossip gets you nowhere...and labels you as someone who will talk about anyone...other people will learn not to trust you...you will have the reputation of being a blabber-mouth...
Why contribute to the ruining of his reputation...sounds like he's doing just fine on his own...
Remember..MYOB..."Mind Your Own Business"....it will serve you well...

Answer 10

I know you prolly really want to. Id just ignore him and let everyone find out what an *** he is on their own. Hes a jerk and you should def not give him the time of day.