I am 23 and single, I absolutely have NO desire to get married EVER, or have children EVER.....and I also do not want to date anyone right now, but all of my friends and the old biddies at work, say that I have to get married to be happy, umm yeah right, both my mother and father have been married 3 different times, thats 6 marriages in my family that I have watched fail, and one of my younger sisters has already been married and divorced So why all this pressure?
2007-02-09 05:55:49 · 19 answers · asked by braindeadbrilliance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People automatically assume that if you don't have a confidant and a support system like a stable relationship, you're going to be a cat lady when you get older. I've met one of these ladies before. She was a big Marlbaro Reds smoker who was waitressing for money and went to the grocery store several times a day to buy cat food.
They think they're looking out for your best interests. I don't think it's that big of a deal if you don't want to get married or have kids, and I can understand why you don't want to: you don't view marriage as a commitment and sacred.
2007-02-09 06:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that. A lot of people out there think that being married and having a family defines you. While that may be true in part because it helps shape and change you, it doesn't make you incomplete if you don't have it. You do what you want with your life and ignore what everyone else says. Just tell them that you don't want it and have made up your mind. Leave it at that.
2007-02-09 05:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Groovy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you know what you want. They probably want you to get married because they know how nice it can be-for those that have interest in being married. I can understand where you are coming from when you have seen so much divorce in your own family. Besides, the people who want you to get married to be happy-to be a good partner-it's really best that you are happy with yourself the way you are to begin with! I'm sure you are happy that they are happy how they are-and they should be happy that you are happy being single.
2007-02-09 06:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am impressed of what I heard ...do not listen to people ever.....f*** them!!...if they want you to get married is because they want you to be "happy or miserable and stuck for ever"...marriage is like flipping a coin....always follow your heart and your feelings and the time would tell you when is the time to do what...
you are still sooo young to thing about it
First travel alot, meet people and different cultures, read books and jump and smile while you are listening music!!
2007-02-09 06:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just someone else's opinion and that is all. Just take it like that and don't give it a second thought. In fact, just tell them to cooll it and leave you alone. You will decide what is best for you and if you choose not to get married then that is the way it will be. Don't let anyone tell you what you should or should not do.
2007-02-09 06:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my theory on this... I am in a simialar situation, with the exception that I have a girlfriend. I am getting asked by everyone why have you not married yet. I beleive it is because the people that have asked me are people that are all ready married, most of these people do not seem to be all that happy in their marrieges. I think that they want all of their friends to be just as miserable as they are
2007-02-09 05:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by eshamn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have been conditioned by society to believe that true fulfillment comes from marriage. That is not so. I have no desire to marry or even have a boyfriend, and I'm as happy as can be.
2007-02-09 12:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I TOTALLY hear you...i'm 25 and single and it seems like EVERYONE thinks you have to be married to be happy. I don't know why...I mean maybe someday I MIGHT get married but I honestly don't give it much thought. I still feel like im 16 and I have my WHOLE life ahead of me. I wish people would just agree to disagree and leave other people alone rather than judging them based on what they have or don't have. Trust your gut...you know whats best for you!!!!
2007-02-09 06:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Joker1234 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because its the "norm"...After my marriage that I thought would last forever had ended, I said never again....I too have parents that have been married quit a few times...You do what you do, and don't listen to what others tell you. Only you know what makes you happy!
2007-02-09 06:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because of the need some have for conformity. you certainly do not need to get married in order to be happy, though most people do find ,at some point, that a mate enhances their lives. let me add though, please do not make your decision based on the failures of others. not a good idea to pattern your life decisions based on the actions of other people. best wishes
2007-02-09 06:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋