I have two best friends. A girl, and a boy. They have been dating for a year, recently split up for a month, and are now back together. I've kept the friendship mutual between the both, the girl didn't know I was talking to her ex still. But she told me that she wanted to be single for a month. I believe in not mediating between relationships because if they were meant to get back together, they had to do it themselves, not by me trying to get bettween them. They just ended the relationship not wanting to talk to each other....so I wasn't going to be the mediator. She's mad that I didn't tell her that I was talking to him, and she said as a best friend, that I should have told her that he still had feelings for her. I told her that she didnt ask me to get involved, and that I kept my mouth shut between both of them. was my reasoning correct? He would tell me personal stuff not to tell her, and she would do the same. and she did say she wanted to be single to concentrate on school....
2007-02-09 05:44:08 · 7 answers · asked by Lili 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you did what was right. I was in a similar situatuation with my brother and his girlfriend. I've known her for a very long time and we are pretty tight. Her and my brother ran into a cross road in theire relationship and they both came running to me (not together) and at first I tried to play mediator and she got mad at me because I didn't side with her and my brother also got upset because I did not side with him. We did not speak for quite a while until she finally realized that I really was not trying to be in the middle of theire relationship and that I respected both of therire opinions but to just try to work it out and they did. Now they are still together and we are all happy again.
2007-02-09 08:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by teri d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still wouldnt get involved. But I beleive you can talk to whoever you want to. She has no right telling you who you can talk to. Her negative expectations creates her own problems in so many ways. She is probably confused and just upset about the situation and its very easy to take things out on you, even tho you didnt do anything wrong.
2007-02-09 14:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Royce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty mature compared to your girlfriend!
It can be really difficult to maintain friendships with a couple when they're no longer together and it sounds as if you gave it your best shot.
Remind your girlfriend that she probably would've been really ticked off had you told her confidences to her (then) ex. Friendship includes trust. And then give her some time and space for that to sink in.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 13:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did it...you put yourself in a poor position, between the both of them. And as it shows up now, they, either of them, or both of them, will use you as a punching bag. If I were you, when the topic comes up, I'd keep my mouth shut, or get 2 new friends. Either one solution will be ok.
2007-02-09 13:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were right ive been in this situation before and its never that easy.......no matter if you wouldve told her then she probably wouldve toldl the guy that you told her then they both probably wouldnt trust you with juicy gossip!! but she is just a little frustrated right now cause its still recent she ll get over it......and after all it was her that was wanting a break so tell her to grow up and deal with her consequences
2007-02-09 13:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she gets mad that you keep your friends close then she was never your friend in the 1st place and also sooner or later she will get over it so keep talkin to your friends and don't let their problem be yours let them sort it out.
2007-02-09 15:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Victor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u handled it well.
2007-02-09 13:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋