im home schooled and this is on my mined?

Question

im 14 years old and my name is peach(lol) im all most 15
(not good at spelling) but im homeschooled
i play this game on line called RUNESCAPE and i was really bored
so my "friend" told me about sex =p i know i was stupid and i let him tell me and he told me that i should have learnd it in school
but i told him i was home schooled and my mom never told me
and she doesnt know that i know how sex BUT what my point is

when your home schooled how do your mom/dad tell you
or do they send u to a public school to learn it?



HELP



p.s nice replys only ty

Answer 1

People always say that parents should be the ones to teach their children about sex, but obviously that doesn't always happen.

Why don't they? Some parents themselves are not all that educated about it. Others are uneasy about talking about it, while still others believe that in talking about it, it will make their children do it.

I went through the same thing. My parents wouldn't talk to me about it. They were sure that if I didn't know about it, I wouldn't do it. When I finally begged to know, they told me it was something that a married woman had to do and that it was horrible and nasty and to not think about it. That sure helped me feel good about getting married now didn't it? It also put me in some bad situations since I had no idea about how to handle sexual advances. Oh, and by the way, it has nothing to do with being homeschooled. I went to public school. My parents just made sure that I was in the library whenever a class was discussing sex.

So here is the deal. Your "friend" shouldn't have told you. It scares me that he did. Some not so nice people look for people who don't know about sex because they hope they will be innocent enough to try things with them because they don't know those things are something they shouldn't be doing, or that they can get bullied into doing. STAY AWAY FROM HIM!. The fact that he was talking to a 14 year old about sex, no matter how old he says he is, tells me that he doesn't have the best intentions for your relationship.

Ask your parents to talk to you about it, but if they don't, then talk to a professional adult that you TRUST, such as a doctor or a clergy person. Talking to "friends" isn't the best way to learn. If they are around your age or slightly older, they probably don't know much more then you do, or what they know is mixed with a lot of rumors.

Lastly, and this isn’t meant to be mean. Making excuses about something you aren’t good at, doesn’t make the problem go away. If you know that your spelling is poor, (like mine is), take extra measures to make sure that your work is spelled correctly. I type everything into Word first, correct my spelling and punctuation, and then cut and paste it into the window to post.

Answer 2

I would think that if you don't know about sex at all at your age than your mom wont tell you or tell you the truth. You need sex ed and if your mom wont teach you you can find out on your own. My parents explained things at a young age but when I got older I found I needed more info so there are some sites where you can learn the same things school kids learn. These are web sites to teach teens about sex and are NOT porn and not illegal for you to see. As you are very uninformed please don't try sex until you talk with a trusted adult or you may regret it later. If you get all your information off the Internet don't trust some of what you hear some of it is lies so you don't have sex until marriage.

Answer 3

First, I would say you need to be careful on the net and with the kind of information you talk about and give out to other people. You have no way of knowing who your "friend" really is. You would be surprised how easy it is to track a person down with just a little information like Mom or Dad's name, your phone number, or the town you live in.

Now to your question. If your mom/dad have not talked to you about sex yet, just tell them you are interested in learning more about health and your body. If you are comfortable, you could even tell them you are interested in learning about relationships between men and women. If your not comfortable, I'm sure the opportunity will present itself once you are studying the systems of the human body.

It is far better to learn about sex from your parents then from a stranger on the net. Your parents will teach you about their values and about what they believe will keep you safe and make you happy later in life.

Answer 4

I think you should be talking to your parents about this.
My children are much younger than you and pretty much know all the mechanics about it, they ask a question, I answer it. It's life, not a secret.
The emotional aspect takes longer and has much to do with our values, and they'll learn that as we talk about tv, what they see in the real world, how relationships go, etc. I don't know what to tell you if your parents haven't already done this. I'm surprised to be quite frank, that you hadn't picked it up already from friends, TV, books, and computers.

Answer 5

It depends. Everyone has their own opinions on it. I hated elementary school. I was bullied endlessly. I hated middle school. I started to develop feelings for guys but none of them developed the same feelings for me because (in their own words) I was too much like one of the guys. However, I loved High School. You normally hear that all high schools (or schools in general) have cliques that will always stick together and never stray from their "mandatory" friends. My school had those cliques but we were all friends with each other. I was in a "clique" that got on really well with all the other cliques. As for the academics I found school easy but that's just who I am. I studied hard and it paid off. But as I said everyone's experience with school is different.

Answer 6

Peach, home-schooling and learning about the birds and bees are unrelated. Your parents should be the first to tell you the way it is, and then school can tell you about the latest diseases, and your faith community can re-inforce the spiritual aspects (which should also have come from your parents).

Lots of parents are afraid to talk to their kids about those topics, because SOMETIMES it gives kids ideas that they wouldn't have had before. Parents don't realize that kids are getting their info and misinformation from other sources. It's a tough call sometimes WHEN to tell a child what.

Answer 7

You need to talk with your Mom about what this person on runescape told you. You dont know if it is the true story about sex or not. There is a lot to think about when it comes to sex you need to talk with your parents.

Answer 8

well most parents home school so they can limit your exposure to these kids of subjects, and IF they want to teach you about it they do so with there own opinions and usually religious implications and when they feel it would be appropriate. and many parents who home school are " religiously inclined " so they limit your knowledge to what the church says as opposed to the scientific perspective and the mechanical aspect, and your basic human instincts, desires , wants and needs. OR your carnal instincts.

Because you are asking us this indicates to me that your parents have not exposed or dicussed sex with you, but you are have sexual desire, i suspect this because you were talking about it to a BOY friend, as opposed to a Girl.

I would suggest talking to your parents, and ask them out right what their understandings/ wants / and expectations are for your sexual life.

Do not have sex.
wait until your married,

My opinion: If you are too embarrassed to talk to your parents about sex then you are too young to experience it!

If you are having sex then please ask us out right the questions you want to ask so we can give you our best educated guesses!

Meg

Answer 9

when your parents undertook the responsibilty of home schooling it didnt mean , oh except for those awkward lessons! having said that many parents have difficulty talking to their childrem about sex, my advice go to a library and read up yourself, or contact a local womens health service who should be able to provide you with info, be careful about info provided by 'friends' on the internet as you dont know how accurate this is likely to be.

Answer 10

Just be direct with your parents. Tell them that you think it's time that y'all had the talk about sex. It's normal for kids to be curious about sex but, chances are, that the information you get from your "friends" is wrong, misguided, or misinformed.