I've been told that it is rude to say no when someone asks to dance especially if I am there to dance. I don't think it's my responsibility to say yes to somebody just because i've been asked. What if the other person is unattractive to me? I'd be dancing with some brave, ugly waste of time. However, one song is not much of a commitment and I want to be polite. What about my social status in the eyes of my peers? Would someone not ask me to dance because I was seen dancing with someone who is not my equal or my type?
2007-02-09 05:21:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You went there to dance, yes. But you did go to dance with people you want to dance with. That doesn't mean you have to dance with whoever comes up. Now I'm not saying you should be rude with them, but you can say no thanks and if they aren't rude themselves they will leave it at that with out asking you for your justification. If they insist on knowing why not, then they are being rude and you don't have to worry about hurting their feelings by telling them that you just aren't interested in them.
2007-02-09 05:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by derelicthypotheses 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that yes, it's a little rude, because it takes guts to ask someone to dance. However, if it is someone you are really not interested in and want to give them a clear no right away, simply say "I'm going to sit this one out, sorry" OR you can have a buddy system and just say, "sorry, I already told so-and-so what that I would dance this one with them." That way, you don't totally crush someone, but you let them know you aren't really interested. And if they ask again, just say "sorry, but no." One thing that always sucks is trying to deal with those you don't like without hurting their feelings, and the younger you are the harder it is to do because so many teenagers are convinced that they are "meant to be" with someone.
2007-02-09 18:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by MHSclarinethottie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
O MAN! I hear you on that, but look the thing is, women love dancing, and you just don't turn down a woman, ugly, pretty, retarded or whatever she she be. However, a woman can sure refuse to dance with a man.
I ain't the best dancer in the world, but nothing to be scared of really, no one knows how to dance.
The thing is, I don't mean to be rude, but you find the ugliest girl in the corner and pick her out of the crowd on a busy night with lots of hotties, you'll be getting looks by the pretty ones and well progress towards them later. Come on, did you ever see 'How to be a player"? God, I love that movie.
I'm a 1 woman man now, but if you got nothing to lose go for it
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-09 13:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by Joe Capo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are there to "dance" then what does it matter who dances with you. If you are there to dance and meet a possible mate or a boyfriend, then no it isn't rude to say no, as long as you say it politely and not hurt the persons feelings. Most of those unattractive people that ask are usually there to just "dance" themselves.
2007-02-09 13:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ACTUALLY, it's rude to think that just because you ask someone to dance that they should have to. If you don't want to dance with someone you don't like/want to dance with, then why should you? You'll dance with whoever you want to dance with, just because you say no and don't kick them in the knee doesn't make you rude, the person who asks you and expects you to say 'yes' is rude.
If they disrespect you BECAUSE you said no, THAT'S rude.
2007-02-09 13:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by FallOutGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it kill you to dance with a guy? Saying no, gives a guy a complex, like he's not good enough for you, and you never know if the guy you dance with, might have a great-looking friend or brother. Never assume anything- keep your options open!!
2007-02-09 14:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to dance every dance with everyone who asks.
You don't have to lie about it either.
I love the previous lady's comment where she suggested that you lie and just tell them that your feet hurt. I guess she's a liar.
Just be polite, but firm, and above all, honest.
Don't be afraid of the word no.
You can even say, "No, thank you, but that was kind of you to ask."
There, problem solved.
2007-02-09 13:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not rude if said in a polite and respectful way. I would say something like: "my feet hurt, maybe later, ok?" That way you are not flat out saying no and hurting the persons feeling or coming across as rude. Make sense??
2007-02-09 13:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for realizing that a dance is a dance. Forget what your friends think. If some one has something objectionable such as hygiene or bad habits tell them no and the reason why.
2007-02-09 13:31:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not rude to say no, but you should be sure to phrase it correctly. I think if you say no to someone you can do it without hurting their feelings or being rude. Just tell them you are tired right now or something like that, that way you can decline gracefully! Hope this helps.....
2007-02-09 13:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by bsoundog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋