2007-02-09 05:20:01 · 6 answers · asked by SG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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Maid of Honor Duties
As the Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor, you have one of the most important roles in making sure the bride's and groom's wedding is a success. Many times the groom will not help out as much as the bride would like which is why your role is so important! Below we have listed some of the top maid of honor duties to make the process more manageable and creative:
Pre Wedding
Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.
Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.
If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.
Go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits. Check out our partner, Perfect Bridesmaid Dresses, for great name-brand discount wedding and bridesmaid dresses.
Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.
Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!
Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!
Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.
Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.
Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).
Wedding Day
Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.
Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
Be the messenger if the bride wants to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.
Visit the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or issues. It is much better to be proactive.
Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
Help the bride with her veil and train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train which takes away from her experience for a moment.
Be your friend's "right-hand-woman" at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence.
Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.
Keeper of the groom's ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom's ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!
Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!
Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident.
Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!
2007-02-09 05:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DUTIES OF THE MAID/MATRON OF HONOUR
The chief bridesmaid is usually a sister or close friend of the bride. However, if she is already married herself or if the bride is a widow and is re-marrying, her title becomes Matron of Honour. She will liaise closely with the bride during all the wedding preparations and help look after the other bridesmaids, flower girl and page boys.
6 MONTHS BEFORE
Discuss the plans with the bride, groom and best man
Discuss the dress or outfit with the bride, especially if being made. Ascertain who will pay for the outfit.
4 MONTHS BEFORE
Help the bride to choose her dress and the bridesmaids dresses.
1 WEEK BEFORE
Attend the wedding rehearsal if required.
THE DAY BEFORE
Collect any hired clothing and accessories.
ON THE DAY
Ensure bouquets are ready for the bride, bridesmaids and flower girl.
Help the bride with her hair, make-up and dress.
Help the other bridesmaids, flower girl and page boys get dressed and give them any final instructions on their duties.
Leave for the ceremony 10 minutes before the bride.
AT THE CHURCH
Arrange the bride's dress and veil.
Follow behind the bride and her father up the aisle.
Hold the bride's bouquet during the ceremony.
Witness the signing of the register if required.
Leave the church accompanied by the best man after the bride and groom.
Depart for the reception with any other bridesmaids and best man after the bride and groom.
AT THE RECEPTION
Stand in the receiving line and greet the guests.
Help to display and record gifts received.
Distribute slices of the wedding cake to the guests.
Have the first dance with the best man.
Help the bride change into her going away outfit.
Take care of her dress and accessories if required.
2007-02-09 05:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by clairehair21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basically she should be available to the bride at all reasonable times to help with planning. She needs to go to fittings with the bride even if it's not time for her own fittings, she should call the bride often and help her keep checklists updated. Brides have a lot on their minds and can forget details-those are things the maid of honor should focus on. If the bride is concerned about something, the maid of honor should do what she can to help answer that concern and/or be a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen. She should take her ques from the bride and be there for her as much as she can.
2007-02-09 07:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically....the Maid of Honor is suppose to be your 2nd set of hands, extra shoulder to lean on, your best friend in helping you breathe and go through this wedding. It may be selfish to ask much but when you really think about it, it's an HONOR to be a Maid of Honor. It really shows the importance and trust and relationship between both to have that position. Therefore, the Maid of Honor has or should help you with everything you need in order to have your wedding go smoothly. Understanding of interferences like work and such, as long as she is putting the best then that's all that matters. However, don't misunderstand that she is suppose to plan or coordinate your wedding b/c she is not. She's just suppose to help you feel ease throughout this wedding by being there for you on your big day and plan your bridal shower.
2007-02-09 06:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by scarlettqueen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really ask the bride and groom what your responsibilities are. It may be different than what is usually done (see first answerer).
Mainly, they are there to ensure the bride does not go nucking futs before she walks down the aisle. MOH also holds the brides bouquet while the rings are being exchanged. The MOH may be holding the ring for the groom (or it may be the best man, or the ring bearer, etc).
My MOH's only duties for me are to make sure I eat before I walk down the aisle and help me from ripping my hair out from going crazy... It differs from bride/groom to bride/groom.
2007-02-09 09:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to stop the bride from getting married
2007-02-09 06:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋