basically me and my ex broke up. we never had a bf/gf relationship. he treats his gf's after our break up like actual gf. so that hurt. but now he is being nice to me and i don't feel like i should even open myself to him even as a friend because he hurt me. i had found out a few months after we broke up that he cheated on me. so there's no trust. but now he is being nice to me and i don't understand why. i guess i still have some feeling for him but i'm afraid that once i start getting comfortable with him, i will open up and he will hurt me again and this time worst. i don't understand why he's being so nice. They say "kill'em with kindness" but he did me wrong and it's really killing me ( a matter of speaking). should i just ask him also because he won't answer.
2007-02-09 05:19:49 · 5 answers · asked by blckmustng2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i went through this same exact thing... its very hard to forgive someone for breaking your heart ... but you have to remember that sometimes a friendship is better then nothing right! You may think you hate him deep down, but by the way you are talking you still ahve some love for him! Talk to him about what is on your mind, and if he gets mad or doesnt answer you then you know that he is just playing with you! Tell him everything that is on your mind, ask him all your questions and see how things go from there. It took me 2 years to forgive the one that broke my heart, but i forgave him... n he is the greatest friend that i could ever ask for, even though our relationship didnt work out!
2007-02-09 05:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jody W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he is now being nice to you is because he builds his ego by playing with your emotions. This guy is bad news. You are wise to be hesitant with starting over again with him. Look you said you two never had a boyfriend, girlfriend relationship. Does this not tell you how little he cares for you? If you think by him being nice to you is an indication that all of a sudden he changed his feelings, I want to tell you, no he has not. Continue to move on and be glad to be well rid of him. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-09 05:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to hell.
I had an ex who broke my heart; walking out on me when I was out of town with my family. He would alternatively be nice to me and nasty to me after that; nice if he wanted something, nasty otherwise. It sounds like this guy is being nice to keep you on the sidelines, in case "whatever" doesn't work out. You don't need a guy who cheated on you, because he will again. He is also being a manipulative SOB, making you think he cares. Don't let him manipulate you. Tell him to go away because you need time to heal.
2007-02-09 05:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time to forgive somone, and if you are not ready, then don't try to force a friendship with someone, If you cannot trust him, and are still hurting, don't put yourself in a position to be hurt again, give it some time, when it doesn't hurt anymore, if you think you can be friends go for it, but take things slow, and don't read anymroe into the friendship than what it is.
2007-02-09 05:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by braindeadbrilliance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to forgive him to move on. Just bc you open yourself up doesn' t mean you have to let him in. Let go of your feelings unless you think you can trust him.
2007-02-09 05:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Dereck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋