There is a disagreement on the definition of "personal touch". I know of an acquantence who was previously in the hosptial but I did not know at the time. So, I emailed saying I wished I would have known so I could come up to the hospital and help him feel better and I'd be better at it than the nurses would.
He replied back saying "what would I have done to make him feel better?". I replied (trying not to be too suggestive since I hardly know him) .."Let's just say that there is nothing better than a personal touch especially when you're sick and in the hospital". I was meaning as a personal friend as a caring and concerned person. I must admit I do like the guy.
Was I out of line? My mom says I was way out of line even my intentions were to keep it simple and not send the wrong signals to the guy. The debate here...is I should have said something like "bring you a teddy bear"...etc.
So, guys, would you have thought I was being too suggestive if I or a girl said that to you?
2007-02-09 05:11:13 · 8 answers · asked by TotesSocks 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Clarification: I am a straight girl with the question to the straight guys.
2007-02-09 05:51:37 · update #1
It would make me think you wanted me and I would wonder if the "personal touch" had a double meaning.
2007-02-09 05:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by JAY O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can totally see where you were coming from by saying that. And I tend to agree with your original intention of the comment, it is nice to have people visit you in the hospital to lift your spirits and help you get well.
But, on the other hand, I can totally see why using the phrase "personal touch" could be taken sexually, especially if you're mind is in the gutter... or if you really intended it to be suggestive.
Really, it could go either way and would completely depend on the context of the rest of the e-mail. I've personally gotten into many of arguments due to something written in an e-mail or an IM having been taken the wrong way. It is sometimes hard to convey your intent through written (or typed) words, as you don't have the benefit of tone of voice.
I have to be honest, though... from the info provided in your question I'm having trouble determining your gender. So what's the real concern? That you're a girl and your buddy thinks you're easy, or that you're a guy and your buddy thinks your a homosexual and want him?
I guess, either way, if you like the guy, what's the problem with being a little suggestive? It's called flirting... and ain't nothin' wrong with that!
2007-02-09 05:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Got rice? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Innuendo! (it has to be said with leer in the voice)
Guys can read into anything if they want to.
The simple thing would have been to just not to emphasize the innuendo in the first place. Since that is tough to do especially once you realize that something unintended could be read into what you said ("It got weird."), the next option is to bring it out into the open.
"Oh, that is not what I meant!" *downcast eyes, slight blush*. "I just meant that you would enjoy having someone to talk to besides the TV."
The blush is optional, but you get the idea. You are looking for a balance between: "I just want to keep you company" and "I might be interested in something more, but not here and not now."
2007-02-09 06:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is out of line but it is certainly suggestive.
Let's see, you could "make him feel better and I'd be better at it than the nurses would". "Let's just say that there is nothing better than a personal touch".
If you had said that to me, I would have thought something was going on. My minds not that far in the gutter, either.
2007-02-09 06:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy, but mothers are psycho, they are out of line. Can you laugh around her and have fun? My mother told my sister in different words that she was out of line, when we were all at a park, and a guy waved at her and she waved back. Later in life she married a guy my parents didn't approve of just to get away from mother, because he wasn't afraid of her, and told her what time it was. She felt like she was being rescued.
2007-02-16 16:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Hazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a little heavy, but not out of line...it was just your way of conveying concern...your next visit should be to clear any mis-interpertation of your statement, unless you want him to know you like him.....good luck
2007-02-09 05:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A little over the top..wouldn't you say?
2007-02-16 12:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-16 11:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋