I am 24yrs old and started talking to a guy who is 39yrs. He seems like a really good guy.I just can't get past the age difference. Should I let something like this keep me from seeing him? Or should I just get over it and continue seeing him?
2007-02-09 05:00:37 · 39 answers · asked by s_castro_9905 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, dear, I'm disgustingly old (getting near 62) and I'm a whole lot smarter now than I was at age 24. I was incredibly stupid then. Oh yeah, and I'm happier than I was in all the years between age 24 and age 62. I just don't get nearly as depressed anymore. My faith in God might be what's making the difference. If I had a woman who was way too young, my gratitude to her would make me treat her like royalty. I'd be fully aware that she had put aside the comments from her friends. I'd want to reward her in every way imaginable.
So let's talk about YOU: I'd say you ought to go on a couple of non-commital dates with him. (You know...something like a daytime date where no passion is likely.) If he begins to urge you to like him more, you might try looking him right in the eye and saying, "I'm really going slow on this because there is a 15 year difference in our ages." Then, watch how he reacts. If a wave of anger comes over him, you might want to be careful.
But let's think positive. He might be fully understanding of your feelings, If that happens, you should up the stakes. The next time the issue comes up, you could say, "I'm starting to look forward to every moment when we can be together, but I'm going to still stay cautious on the age issue."
If two months go by and you STILL find yourself looking forward excitedly to your meetings, it might be time to relax and let him into your life. Suppose you married a 24-year-old and he got cancer and died? In that case, the 39-year-old was actually younger than he had seemed. None of us knows how much time we have left, so we don't really know how old we are. Right?
I can't think of any reason why you wouldn't know what you should do -- assuming you have dated him for a couple of months.
Best wishes, you fortunate young person. I think he might also be a lucky man to have found you.
2007-02-09 05:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by SaturnMan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was nineteen, I dated a woman that was 35. It was a phase I was going through and would have NEVER worked out in the long run. I couldn't see it at the time, but a few months after it ended, I knew it was just a learning experience. I never dated an older girl again.
Trust me, HE'S on best behavior and will be getting the most out of your relationship! If you can't get over it now, YOU NEVER WILL!
2007-02-09 05:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow until the boat starts rocking too hard ... lol ... don't mess with something that's going good ... if it's not what you want or expected - that's the whole reason for " dating " ... see what's out there ... good luck and have fun don't worry about the age ... I've dated a few older men - had some fun times and learned a lot ... !!!
2007-02-09 05:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine this is ilegal in some countries, coz 19 is an individual & 15 continues to be a baby. The adulthood hollow between a fifteen year previous & a 19 year previous might want to be quite tremendous, exceptionally thinking this is the boy who's 15. females mature faster than boys besides so even as it strange regularly, this is exceptionally so for a fifteen year previous lad up to now a 19 year previous individual.
2016-10-17 06:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin is in the same situation, but its only a 7 year diffrence, she is 24 and he is 31, She seems to really like him, and if you absolutley like him, i would go for it, age diffrence doesn't matter as long as there both over 18, but think about it, what is beter? 15 year difrence or 30 year? can u image like a 50 or 60 year old? that is just sick, but in this situation its all good.
2007-02-09 05:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by cashfan28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the age difference is that great. You're old enough to be married and have children and he's not elderly, believe it or not he's still a young man. As you both get older the age gap becomes minimal.
2007-02-09 05:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by CALAVA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're old enough that the 15 year age difference shouldn't be that big a deal. it would be different if you were 15 & he was 30 - that's just wrong. as long as you both are attracted to each other and have mutual interests, then go for it.
2007-02-09 05:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by krazy4hd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is anything wrong with dating him. Or even having a relationship with someone older than you as long as you have the same interest and you are into each other. Don.t get caught up in the little things life is short, have fun.
2007-02-09 05:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by struck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that your feelings for him are more than just physical. Make sure you have respect for him and what he stands for. If both of you have pretty much in common and feel comfortable with each other, I see no reason for you to let him go. It takes time for love to grow and when people have true love for each other age is a minor thing.
2007-02-09 05:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the age difference bothers you then you prolly shouldn't date him. If you can get past it - HONESTLY get past it, not just ignore it and push it to the back of your mind - then it's not a big thing and you should go for it.
(I've fallen for a guy in the past where there was much more of an age gap than that)
Best of Luck
2007-02-09 05:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋