My girlfriend was in the military and grew up with 3 brothers, so she has always had many guy friends. I accepted this and despite knowing some of the guys wanted to be with her, I never showed signs of jealousy or told her to cut her ties.
After a couple of strange comments from guys on her myspace profile, I went into her account and had a look around. There are several messages to male friends of hers and buddies from the army, a couple of ex boyfriends, etc... She sometimes says "hey baby!" A few of them have asked to hang out sometime, and she has agreed. But none of these plans have ever happend.
I trust her and I know she isn't cheating.
But it's really bothering me that she doesn't tell me about it, even when she tells me every other little detail about her life. And I'm always honest with her and about who I talk to.
So why hide it? And how do i approach it, without saying, "hey i snooped around and found out your talking to guys and not telling me!"
2007-02-09 04:48:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I know it was wrong to snoop around, I'm fully aware and own up to that, really embarassing.
BUT, yes, I am fully honest with her. If I talk to a female at work or an old friend (non-ex), I do tell her, relunctantly as she gets a little jealous sometimes, even thought i give her no reason to be.
Maybe she thinks I'm going to react the same way she does, so she doesn't tell me about it. Does that make sense?
2007-02-09 05:01:07 · update #1
If you bring it up she's going to get mad... Believe you me...
She'll be extremely upset...
In a relationship each partner are allowed their privacy. Yes you guys are a couple and should tell all, blah blah blah... But some things are just better left unsaid.
Honestly speaking I don't think you have anything to worry about.
She's not hiding it from you, she just didn't tell you... There is a difference. Maybe it could be that you never asked her either.
Look if it was something that she felt you needed to know, then she would've told you. But because she finds it irrelevant to the relationship, she keeps quiet...
Like you said, she's not cheating. So you have nothing to worry about then. Friends are allowed to chat... If you confront her about it, she'll probably just say that you're keeping her from having friends...
I think you should just leave her be... I'm sure you're "keeping quiet" about a few things too. No-body's completely honest!
2007-02-09 05:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then just talk to her about it. Maybe she thinks you will accuse her of things. But I agree, if she's hiding it, why.? But you shouldnt be snooping around her accounts. Thats wrong. You are not both being honest. Communication is one of the most important things so talk talk. She should introduce you too. Bring it up.
2007-02-09 04:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by MommyTwice-TwiceTheLove 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let her know you visited her myspace profile.... she may get your message. On the contrary, I think you are really jealous and you do not trust her. Otherwise you would not have snooped around in the first place.
2007-02-09 04:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky V 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you trust her, why'd you go into her account?
Anyway, maybe you could ask if you could meet some of her male friends too, that way there'll be nothing to hide.
Or perhaps these guys just don't mean that much to her and that's why she hasn't mentioned them to you. It would also explain why she has never gone to hang out with these guys.
2007-02-09 04:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by sketch_r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never should have snooped in the first place and now you're paying for it. Do you tell her every little thing that goes on in your life? You need to be more secure in your relationship.
2007-02-09 04:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is trying to hide it then she is dropping lines in the water seeing if she can get something better than you. Confront her about it pronto. You may have to just cut your loses before you get really hurt.
2007-02-09 04:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is scared of what you might think.Or she is fooling around on you ,it happens all the time.Most people who have an affair with their better half's friends.
2007-02-09 04:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by tom C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to your mom. She's been there.
2016-05-24 01:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it!!! dont snoop. i call everybody (men and women) "boo" it dont mean anything. she sneaking that aint cool but maybe she scared of what you gonna think. sit her down and talk to he r
2007-02-09 04:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey I do the same thing to my BF. cept i dont find anything. i am just insecure and I cant ****** help it..
2007-02-09 05:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋