like smoking somtimes and going on the net too much because of mty past i am compensating for things i have been let down and had alot of disappointment and abuse in past what does she mean though.
2007-02-09 04:41:28 · 14 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
sounds like this person is concerned about you
2007-02-09 04:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have these hang-ups. To cover up the pain of the past, or to deal with the stress of memories of this pain, we grab something to de-stress---a cigarette, chocolate, liquor, or maybe use the Internet as a temporary escape. This dulls the pain for a little while.
But, you can use positive thinking to analyse what's wrong in your past so that you don't let it determine future actions, and your self-harming habits. It takes a long time to change habits that have helped you "cope" in the past. But carrying these quick fixes for emotional pain into the future will harm you.
Write down your life history, your memories, and try to remember the things that your "quick fixes" are blocking out.
Be as specific as possible. Then accept yourself completely, and try to build everything in your life on the reality around you now, and not from the fear you felt in the past.
Here's a great acronym, for when you feel uneasy:
FEAR = forgetting everything is all right.
You are all right now. Don't hurt yourself by living in the past.
2007-02-09 13:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem you have to figure out for yourself. If you are controlled by actions that disrupt your daily living, then you have an addiction. Over-use of the Internet, smoking, and eating can all be addictions and you have to decide for yourself if these things are taking over your life. If you are a healthy person, not only physically and mentally but also socially with your friends and family, I see no problem. When over eating starts to effect your health and you relationships, then I'd start worrying. Good luck!
2007-02-09 12:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Logie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to know if you are addicted is if you keep doing something even though you know it is creating negative consequences. If you are being a little over-indulgent it doesn't necessarily mean addiction. Addiction is not caused by being let down in the past. You might be depressed because of that, but not an addict.
2007-02-09 12:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we do tend to fill our lives with other things when we have a void there. maybe your past has made you feel a lack of love or trust and you now try to compensate for this by over eating or smoking. the best thing you can do is to confront what it is that you have missing and try to work on finding it, if she was just saying it to be nasty ignore it though.
2007-02-09 12:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by peroxide.pixie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have what they call (an addictive personality) and if they are not addicted to say ciggarettes they would be addicted to something else i.e. food
It is supposed to be herediatry, don't worry about things just concentrate on your future you said yourself you only like smoking sometimes so thats not an addictive person.........
2007-02-09 12:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're just extra-alive. you know the main risks of smoking and eating. perhaps spend some of your time on the net researching the latest trends in diet theory. then buy high quality food and eat that.
you could have dietary inadequacies that make you want to keep eating.
maybe you can become addicted to physical fitness?
2007-02-09 12:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are responsible for your own life - no one else. Every one has disappointments but you will get success as well. Look forward not backwards
2007-02-10 05:12:58 · answer #8 · answered by Professor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this person analyzing you like that....everyone has faults and if they're not your doctor tell them to shove it!
2007-02-09 12:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust that unless it's from a psychologist...even then, only you know how you feel.
2007-02-09 12:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋