I have been thinking about going and visiting some college friends this weekend, as I haven't seem em in a while. Well my girlfriend one minute says "its ok, I trust you" and then the next minute she says, "I don't want you to go but I am not going to throw a fit about it, so do whatever you want" On the flip side, I tell her I'd rather stay here with her, and do something with her. She says, "thats fine but I am working this weekend so I don't want you to be bored, and then blame it on me that you didn't go.."
So basically... should I go or what? I wanna see my friends but one minute she says "ok" and then the next she is all down and not happy.
What should I do? Go, or stay? Or what? Maybe she's playing mind games so she can go do something with her friends?
2007-02-09 04:32:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't think she's playing mind games, but she is insecure that she could lose you/you could have too much fun without her, and maybe forget all about her. So you've got to convince her how important she is in your life.
2007-02-09 04:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by fabby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants it both ways....she wants you to feel guilty and stay, but then she feels guilty for making you feel guilty and tries to convince herself that she's okay w/ your visit by saying, "I don't want you to be bored....".
Nice try.
If I were you, I'd GO and have a great time with my friends. I don't know how long you've been dating, but making someone else's insecurities a major hiccup in your weekend plans is a waste of time. She needs to deal with whatever trust issues she has. (and maybe your absence this weekend is just the right amount of time for her to work through them!). Don't let her problems cramp your style
Have a fun time! ;-)
2007-02-09 12:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wanted you to stay but didn't want to be the person to blame if you didn't go. I said exactly the same thing to my b/f when he wanted to hang out with his friends. He went anyway and I was upset. We talked after he got back and I realized I should have been more understanding. Guys need to have fun with their friends. I hope your girlfriend will understand. So go and have fun.
2007-02-09 12:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude just go!! call her while you are there and set away some time to talk with her on the phone. but just also tell her that if you cant trust me to be away for one weekend then our relationship has problems
2007-02-09 12:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by stunt101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go, however you have reassure her. Its seems that she is afraid you might meet up with an old flame and second point she doesnt want to be alone this weekend. You just need to reassure her and i think she will be alright. =)
2007-02-09 12:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is trying to tell you that she wants you to stay with her, but dont feel like she's forcing you. she doesnt want you to get pissed at her if you have a pissy attitude the whole time you hang out either, cuz you regret going out with the boys. so choose wisely young one
2007-02-09 12:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she really trusts you, she wouldn't have a problem with you going.
Obviously, she doesn't
Do your own thing, if you want to go, go. If you don't ,don't.
Simple as that!
2007-02-09 12:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO! don't let her keep you and tell her that she needs to make up her mind
2007-02-09 12:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by I'll go with that 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋