Okay.. so my boyfriend & I are christians and are waiting to have sex when we're married. But lately he's been doing things that have scared me. Such as we'll be cuddling and next thing I know he's almost on top of me and we'll be jumping on the trampoline and i'll loose my footing and next thing I know hes beside me with his legs over mine. Now I do not want sex and niether does he. We both have agreed on that but whats up with this behavior? And also I am TERRIFIED of sex. I've heard so many horror stories about bleeding everywhere and the orgasm hurting really bad and stuff. I am soo afraid of having a rod enter me!!!!
2007-02-09 04:27:42 · 8 answers · asked by karateprincess17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should not be concerned about having sex. You will bleed a little and have some discomfort the first time your lover thrusts his rod in you. After he breaks your hymen, you will heal and be ready to start enjoying orgasms. Orgasms give you a great feeling of ecstasy. When his rod gives you an orgasm, that is the greatest feeling you will ever have. So, lay down, relax and enjoy the rod.
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2007-02-09 05:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you and yoyr boyfriend on making such a responsible decition. even so, I hate to say it, but he is a man, its natural for him to act that way, even if he doesn't want to ahve sex. My question is, have you two desided on what you do want and exactly how far you do want to go? What exactly are your boundries? this is something the two of you should talk about and be perfectly clear on. Having good communication between the two of you will make your relationship go far. As far as being scared, its ok to be afraid, especially as a woman. For many girls, the first time does hurt. But, if you are with someone you love and are comfortable with, the times after that the pain will go away and you will start to enjoy it. I know how it feels too be scared, i have always been scared of sex to. however, what i found was that it was a natural pain, it hurt, but i knew it was suppost to so it made it better, also, my fiance was very gentle. As far as orgasms, I have never heard of it hurting, it is just a very intence feeling, Also, there is not a lot of bleeding and some girls dont bleed at all. It sounds to me like you have been told a lot of untruths, maybe to keep you from having sex. I advise that you do a little research. Knowing for sure that you know the truth will ease a lot of your fears. Good Luck
2016-05-24 01:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are animals when it comes to sex. they just have to have it. however, you are making the right decision on waiting until marriage. so many people out there just do it whenever and wherever and there is no value or meaning placed on sex. as far as it hurting, if your boyfriend is not extremely large down there then it is no problem. by large i mean more than 6 inches. also the circumference of his penis also makes a difference. if he is long and big around i would suggest that you slowly work your way into it otherwise it will be very uncomfortable for you. however, if he is less than 6 and not so big around, then you will be ok. what you should do is have him measure his penis in both length and circumference and compare it to the size of your vagina. i know it sounds gross but if you really want to know that is the best way to do it. there is no reason to be terrified of sex. it can be a very enjoyable experience if taken seriously and done when the time is right. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-09 04:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sex is a beautiful gift when it is between two people that are intended for each other. Sex is intended for marriage, regardless of what people want to tell you. When you have sex you become one with a person, which is beautiful. Continue waiting until you are married, no matter how hard it gets!
Secondly, your boyfriend obviously is just sexually charged, like most men. He may not want to go as far as having sex, but he probably wants to do something. Set up boundaries and tell him this makes you feel uncomfortable.
Sex does hurt the first time, but it gets better. Just wait for the right time.
I lost my virginity before I became a Christian, and my husband saved himself for me.
When we met, it wasn't fun telling him what I did in the past, and it was so hurtful to him.
Don't choose not to have sex just because you're scared of pain, choose not to to love and honor your future husband even now.
Read Eric and Leslie Ludy "When Dreams Come True"
2007-02-09 04:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well good for you two waiting. He may just want some sort of intamacy. Closeness. Making out.
And your "horror stories" are just that...stories.It will most likely hurt your first couple times and you will bleed alittle but not "everywhere". It's not as bad as people have told you.
Just wait until your mature and ready and everything will be fine.
Just have fun in safe ways for now.
2007-02-09 04:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the complete wrong idea about sex, it can be a bit uncomfortable to start with but improves greatly ,orgasm's are wonderfull and there's nothing to match them, you are not ready for sex so stay that way get a book out of the library and read about it first.
2007-02-09 04:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by twinsters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex doent hurt and speaking as a christian, since both of you guys r christians you guys shouldnt be cuddling since your not married and from what ive read if you guys cant keep you hands off of each other, maybe yous guys shouldnt be together alone, because you might fall into temptation
2007-02-09 04:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jesus T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some guys are.....and no sex doesnt hurt that bad unless he has a python....
2007-02-09 04:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋