Just broke up with boyfriend 2 days ago. I'm at work, and crying non-stop.......?

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We've been together for 6 years and I'm taking it really hard. I know they say don't bring personal life to work, but I can't stop crying and want to ask my boss if i can go home. It is Friday after all. What should I do?
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Answer 1

Go home.

I have been to businesses were I have seen women crying over a man and it is very unprofessional, not to mention the fact that it is very depressing for other people.

Why did you break up?

You can talk about it here because no-one knows you, that way you will get it off your chest, not to mention people might be able to cheer you up.

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How to survive a Break Up:

How to survive a break-up
Keep your dignity and stop feeling sorry for yourself
By Melina Cunningham
We’ve all been through it at one time or another. Whether you were the dumper, the dumpee, or the friend of the dumper or the dumpee, you know how humiliating and life-altering a break-up can be.

As a veteran of many failed relationships over the past few years, I think I am entitled to give my version of the ever-present college love scene and the ultimate disasters that prevail.

The first was freshman year, with my high school sweetheart. We had gone to different colleges and were trying to build our own lives apart from each other. The long distance thing, as many of you may know, is extremely difficult, and unfortunately, has a tendency to fail. I discovered this one fall-quarter night, in Jefferson Hall, when my long-time crush broke my heart. I will never forget when he Instant Messaged me, of all things, and said that he was “falling out of love with me.” I went ballistic. I ran down the hall, busted into the quiet study lounge and ran, crying hysterically, to my friend Erin. She took me into the hallway where I proceeded to have a two-hour nervous breakdown because I thought my life was over for sure. Needless to say, I got over it, eventually.

Next is the freshman year spring quarter boy, who I met at Evolution. It seemed like the perfect relationship. We spent every day together and were the perfect couple (I thought). We made it through the summer, but then when fall quarter of our sophomore year began, things started to fall apart. Basically, he chose beer and “the guys” over me. We both lived in Bromley, so after we broke up, we then had to see each other every day in the dining hall. I remember refusing to eat for about a week because I didn’t want to see him. Eventually, I got over that too, and luckily it was before I starved to death.

Then steps in “hot army guy” from down the hall: the rebound, if you will, who turned out to be much more than that. We spent the rest of the year together and dealt with some hard times (like when he got called up for war and left for the entire spring quarter). That summer I studied in Germany for six weeks, and before I left he went to the airport to see me off. Everything seemed to be going fine. When I got to Germany, I proceeded to call him and email him, but strangely enough, he never responded to my many attempts. Once I finally got a hold of him, he informed me that he wasn’t sure what he wanted anymore and that “you’re supposed to date around in college.” Not only was I devastated with homesickness, but, now, I had to deal with this.

These were all equally traumatizing in their own way, and there is no way I could have survived without the love and support of my closest friends. They took my side, always, willing to do anything and everything to degrade the reputation of my former love. They were always there to lift me up and distract me, if necessary.

Keep reading for 10 steps on how to survive a break-up.
Everyone deals with break-ups differently. You can choose the escape route, pretending it never happened, and dive into your favorite gallon of Ben and Jerry’s ice cream. You can also keep yourself distracted by resorting to early childhood hobbies (coloring pictures was my favorite), or you can be strong, wake up in the morning with a smile and say, “Today is the day I get revenge.”

Here are my suggestions for how to survive a breakup while preserving your dignity:

1. Never call your ex –– you don’t want to seem like you care too much.

2. If he or she calls you to brag about how wonderful his or her life is going –– sound happy and carefree.

3. Find a new hobby –– something that you enjoy and that will keep your mind off of things.

4. Make new friends.

5. If you see him or her in public, don’t look desperate, smile and pretend that life is just peachy.

6. Realize that life will go on and there are “other fish in the sea.”

7. Don’t rely on anyone else for your happiness –– if you are not happy with yourself, you won’t be happy with anyone else either.

8. Keep Ben and Jerry’s and your favorite movie nearby just in case of a major crisis.

9. Don’t assume that alcohol will make you feel better; it will only exaggerate the pain.

10. Last but not least, get over it!

Whatever you choose to do, your results will always be more plentiful if you surround yourself with your closest friends and family to guide you through the grueling process of dealing with a failed romance.




http://www.ohiou.edu/~jour430/how/breakup.htm

Answer 2

I'd say finish work go get your mates and go for a drink and have a good time. It's friday after all. Whatever you do don't sit around wallowing in unhappiness. It'll eat you up from the inside out if you let it. Take a few days to get your head straight then try and forget about it as soon as you can. You'll find someone else eventually if you stay positive, there's no doubt about it, but if you spend months or years crying and feeling sorry for yourself it'll takje longer to heal....good luck..

Answer 3

what will you do if you go home? If you're going to sit alone and cry, it's better to be at work and try to keep your mind off things.

If you have something to do or friends to visit, then, cough, cough, uh, i don't feel so well, i need to go home before i get sick! Never tell your boss you're upset about your boyfriend. Even if it's 6 years, a boss might think that's pretty weak.
I hope you feel better, and i'm sure you'll find a better match for you.

Answer 4

Maybe you can take a sick day and go home--don't tell your boss what it is all about--that would be dragging your personal life into work--ask for the day off because you are not well..and find a counselor to talk to--You need to be able to talk this out and express yourself in a safe and healthy manner...And of course you're upset...who wouldn't be--you must be devastated--I sympathize with you and your situation...Do something nice for yourself this weekend..surround yourself with close friends and family--treat yourself like a precious object--you are--a divine wonderful creative being--You will either work things out with your boyfriend or the universe will bring someone far more right for you into your life--read self-help books and motivational books--create a vision board this weekend--cut out pics of the life you DO want for yourself--inc the type of man you want--be proactive--yes--grieve adn be sad--express yourself--but expect the best for you--you will attract what you are thinking about--so start expecting the best--go home and write about the life and man you want--cry your eyes out if it makes you feel better--but focus on your FUTURE and how you are going to have a wonderful one...Good Luck--and you WILL get over this--

Answer 5

If you seriously can't work and need to go home, then you should do it. But if your boss is not understanding, or you are in a very demanding and competitive career enviornment, then your boss might percieve you as weak. I know it is hard to break up with someone after so long. If you need time for yourself, then you have to do what you have to do. When I found out my ex was cheating on me, I was devasted. I took the day off, but told a white lie, that "I wasn't feeling too well." Which was true, mentally. Good luck.

Answer 6

Oh i feel so bad for you 6 years is a long time. I know its hard not to take it to work because sometimes you just can't stop your feelings. Maybe you need to get some counseling so you can heal because it will take a long time but the counselor can help you focus on something else and that will be you healing is a long and hard progress you can do it we all have hurt like this a time or two and we made it good luck to you sweetie

Answer 7

Oh my gosh!..You poor thing!
I can't even begin to imagine how hurt I would be if I had been with someone 6 years and then we broke up..
If your boss has any heart whatsoever, he/she will let you go home..Just tell them that you need some personal time..and that you'll be okay, you just need to go..
I'll be praying for you..
I hope you get peace about this situation soon!
Have a blessed day! :]

Answer 8

Go ahead and ask your boss to go home early. I'm sure your boss can see that you're miserable. No need for explanations.

Instead of going home, though, see if you can get an emergency appointment for a massage or a spa treatment. If not, then pop into a nail salon and have your hands and feet done (pedicure and manicure).

Then call your best gal pal or best buddy and arrange to go out to dinner and a comedy movie. Do everything at the spur of the moment. When you're done, go to a quiet club or bar, have a mellow drink or a nightcap but DON'T GET DRUNK. Then go home and fall asleep.

End of first day . . .

Tomorrow, go out to the club or exercise anywhere in the house.
Perform a rigorous chore at home. Do spring cleaning or bake up so many batches of cookies for friends at work or the church. Cry if you have to, but don't wallow in it. Arrange to do something with friends for the evening. Some dancing, cosmic bowling, ice skating, etc. Have a late snack at IHOP, Denny's, or somewhere. Have some warm milk before bed and fall asleep.

End of day two . . .

On Sunday, Go to church, have brunch with friends, go shopping but come home early to finish up your spring cleaning and get ready for the next day. Draw yourself a nice, luxurious bubble bath, light up some aromatic candles, and play some light, smooth jazz. Cry if you have to but don't wallow in it. Have a delightfully sinful treat with a glass of warm milk and fall asleep.

End of third day . . .

. . . and the days will melt into weeks, into months . . . and you will find that you have gone from one day to the next, the pain slowly easing. One day at a time . . . Always put yourself first. Remember, you are NUMBER ONE!!!

Good luck.

Answer 9

I'm a supervisor at work and if one of my employees just pulled me aside and told me that they're having a hard time with something like this, I'd let them go home. It is Friday. Besides, there should be something more important in your life than work, or else you're just plain wrong. Good luck getting over him, I'm sure in awhile you'll realize how much better life will be without him.

Answer 10

That's sad, but you need a break allright! Take off early, and have a nice weekend! Hang out with your friends, keep yourself busy, and is there nothing else you can do about your past relationship? Six years is a long time!

Answer 11

I'm really sorry about your breakup. It must be hard for you to work.

If you feel like you can go home and not risk your job, then I would ask your boss.

It might be better for you.

You will recover I know, you will find someone better. Hang in there, and don't give up.