This kid is a bisexual, 17 year old whom i care about greatly, he is one of my best friends, and is currently coping with his newest knowledge that he has HIV. He did do a couple stupid things to receive this disease, still i care about him greatly. If there is a way that i could help him, i would do it in a flash...although it is difficult when your mom has no idea that you talk to the boy, since they dont get along because of a past experiance, and one of your closest friends despises him, so what im asking is, how can i help him, what can i do to support him, and what can i do in general?
Please give me advice, i have NO idea how to do anything for him.
Please, i've never coped with anything like this before, i've dealed with suicides, eating disorders, cancer, and other disorders but not this.
Your help is VERY appreciated
2007-02-09 04:22:49 · 6 answers · asked by penutbutterfurby 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
In fact, when I read this, I felt very touch for your friendship... Cause people tend to avoid HIV carriers and that is what HIV carriers also think.
I believe you have some experiences in dealing with crisis.
First of all, which stage is he in now? Denial, anger, acceptance stage? Take note that even he is in the acceptance stage, he will still need good support or wise there is still a chance for him to switch to anger stage.
Anger stage is the more dangerous for him than in denial stage. Cause he may hurt himself or others. It is very important to be very tactful and kept bringing him to the acceptance stage.
Get yourself together. Have you accept his HIV condition already or halfway there? You must really ask yourself this question. I believe that he would hope you to accept him totally as what he is now.
You can't do anything for him yet. But by accepting him is the first stepping stone to help him. Let him know by your actions not words. It will takes a lot of time and patience for him to be convince not because you are not sincere but he has a lot to think about after knowing he is HIV positive.
All the best. Find yourself someone close to you to talk to too. You also need personal support.
Take care.
2007-02-09 04:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Prof Hao 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, yuo've got to understand what he's going through, first of all. So, do some research. The disease that is ravaging his body is incurable. The drugs that he takes, or will take, his body can develop a resistance to. Worst of all, one day, he could in fact, develop AIDS. There are so many things that could go wrong. Just talk to him, let him know that you care and that there is more to life then this awful virus that he has been infected with. Let him talk and get his fears out about this. He's most likely scared and has little idea on how to cope with this new circumstance. Just be there fro him as a friend. Let him know that the world has not come to and end and there are people that are there for him and care for him. That his life isn't over.
2007-02-10 02:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dana Mulder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage your friend to live a close to normal life. Have him enjoy getting in shape by going to the gym and build his self esteem up. Its good going to the gym but nothing beats going to the gym with a great buddy.
Have him get in touch with different community services in your area that help those who are infected by the disease. I know the Salvation Army have programs that will get him in contact with the proper physicians to get him medication.
Also, the most important of suggestions is this;
Listen Listen Listen. the best thing you can do is be there for him.
I can feel that you are a caring person and that you value your friendship more than the average joe would like. Protect yourself thought. Learn as much as you can about HIV. Learn and prepare for ways to protect yourself and your bud if ever an emergency situation should arise. Einstein said this "A prepared man has more chances of being lucky"
cheers and goodluck
2007-02-09 04:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by H Vice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that he did anything is something that should be disregarded. Treat him like he has nothing, you both know he does, so why make it seem like a disability? He will very much appreciate it if you treat him like he has nothing, it will make him feel a lot better also knowing he has support and his mindset will change and his disease will no longer hold him back.
2007-02-09 04:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Spyder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is can do is be there for him. Let him talk to you. Listen intently. Tell him what a great friend he IS. Don't treat him like he's at death's door. A good way to look at it, and it's true, is that he's LIVING with HIV.
2007-02-09 04:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre very well prepared for disaster in general it appears, so should be well equipped for this. Just be his pal, as you already are, without judgement, and support him as you can in getting to appts, doctors etc. Encourage him not to spread the infection.
2007-02-09 04:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by David B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋