Me and my ex currently meet at our local Mcdonalds. My van is broken and most days I walk the kids back to my place and then walk them back to Mcdonalds at the pick up time. Now The Question, this woman has continually freaked out over the walking. The kids have created their own games in this 5 minute walk, We have a nice chance to talk about what is going on and they have learned to hate litter bugs, Now that the weather has lowered down to the teens she is taking pictures and is ready to use them in court. any comments on this would be greatly appreciated.
2007-02-09 04:19:13 · 46 answers · asked by anton_29207 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like some lawyer told her to "document" things to improve her case in court. Although, I can't imagine what she's hoping to capture on film...you allowing your kids to play in traffic? Just be extra careful about keeping your eye on them when you're walking. Hold their hands while crossing the street, bundle them(be sure to bring your own gloves, hats, scarves in case she "happens" to forget them) and generally keep your eyes on them at all times for that 5 min walk and you won't giver her any "documented" ammunition...not that you don't already do this. She is grasping here, so don't give her anything to show in court...other than her not liking you walking with the kids instead of putting them in a car. Good luck!
2007-02-09 06:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they dress warmly (warm coats, gloves and hats) there is no problem. She is absolutely ridiculous. First, the exercise is good for them. Second, don't kids all over the country play outside in the snow, go skiing,etc? How is that any different? My kids are on a year round swim team and they swim outside 4 days per week for 2 hours per practice even when the weather dips down into the low 30's (which is rare). Some kids in Colorado and Utah swim outside when it's snowing. So far neither one has even had a cold. If your kids are healthy they can withstand more than you think. Your ex is a nut! Good luck to you and I'm sure your kids are enjoying these walks and that's what's important.
2007-02-09 04:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are dressing them properly for the weather and are safe in your walk that is all that matters. I assume the woman is your EX. If she really had a huge problem with her children's safety or comfort she would volunteer to drive the kids to you since it can't be that far if it is only a five minute walk. The fact she is taking pictures says she has alot of anger to work through. Be a good dad and don't worry as long as you are doing the right things everythings sounds fine to me. Alot of people have to or choose to walk and that doesn't make it a bad things. Hang in there and don't ever stop being a good dad.
2007-02-09 04:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ann D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THere is nothing she can do about this. She can not stop you form walking with your children. If she is so worried about the temps then she would bring the children right to your home. Ignore her and enjoy the time with your children. When she goes in to a rant rather then indulge her and fight back just say OK as sweetly as possible. What can she use in court? The fact that SHE dresses them to go to your house so if they are under dressed it is her fault.
Don't worry about it some woman just like to have control over every situation, this will not get her far. YOU ARE A GREAT DAD. A lot of men out there would not make the effort to see their children and you make a point to. Do not listen to her, listen to your heart it is clear your kids are the most important.
2007-02-09 04:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really should'nt be an issue in court. Those are your kids and you do what you want to do with them.It's not like they're walking without winter coats in a snow storm. Don't even let this woman STRESS you out because I don't even see this thing making it to court. There's just not enough to go on. There's no child neglect or abuse so don't worry. When she says something to you, Get back at her.What's the worst that could happen to you? The cops lock you up for you and the kids walking in the cold? Every one walks in the cold. You are not breaking any laws.
2007-02-09 04:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mahogany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get a grip. If your kids are walking in teen temps without coats or hats or gloves, shame on you. But, if you are protecting them and the walk is just 5 minutes, you go to it. Your van is broken and the kids are having fun and getting some exercise.
However, why can't the ex pick them up at your place, anyway?
2007-02-09 04:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with them walking. It doesn't sound like a long walk and I am sure that you are bundling them up. She is just being a *****, if you didn't get them their to meet her, then she would ***** about that too, right? Don't worry, there is nothing wrong with what you are doing, and I don't thnk she has a foot to stand on with using those pictures. I have to take my little girls out in this weather too, and they are only 18 months old. I just make sure they are wearing their sweaters, coats, gloves, scarves, etc and it is fine. Kids are going to go outside anyway!
2007-02-09 04:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't the ex bring them to your house to save you and the children from walking in such cold weather? As long as they are bundled up properly it shouldn't be a problem(right now here it is -10-15 in the mornings when the kids are going to school and they still walk just have to dress for the weather)
2007-02-09 04:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as your kids are properly dressed for the weather, then you have nothing to worry about. Does she not let the kids go outside at all when it's cold? The walk is good for them. Let her take the pics to court. Then the judge will see how ridiculous she is being.
2007-02-09 04:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a wonderful thing for you to walk with your children. Good exercise too!!! As far as the cold goes, I'm sure you have the sense to know when it's TOO cold. She is totally overreacting! I remember walking to school when it was freezing out! And I did that ALONE! Don't the kids go to school and spend time outside for recess? She's freaking out for no reason! Sounds like you are a wonderful father! I would think that any court would agree. Good luck, and happy walking!!!!!
2007-02-09 04:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by ssgbeth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋