Weve been together 5 yrs., and in December he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to be alone or in a relationship.We worked it out, but this has been eating at me everyday since then.Last nite I asked him how long he felt that way- he said since July. He said he didn't say anything cause he's afraid I'll hurt myself, didn't want to deal with the confrontation, and I didn't have any place to go. So, don't you think that everything we shared from June is a lie? And aren't his excuses selfish- and are only to protect him? He doesn't even care for my feelings- right? I told him that I didn't want him to be with me out of pity, and that it was weak of him to let me have sex with him, clean the house, pay half his bills, take care of his kids, buy him things when all the while he felt that way. Otherwise, he was a great person.I don't know what happened. I got up early and had his lunch and breakfast- and I always put his need ahead of mine. i am so hurt
2007-02-09 04:11:50 · 6 answers · asked by daisy d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are a strong person (I know you are )and think you can handle it, I suggest that you take a break from each other. He has to deal with the issue and decide what he wants. There is no use in continuing if he is unsure about the relationship, it's not fair for either one of you. The separation does not have to be long but it's really up to him to. The very thought of it may snap him into reality or the separation may cause him to see what he's giving up. If he comes back and truly wants to work things out, it will be all that better for the both of you.
In the meantime be strong and know in your heart that you can survive on your own, regardless of what may happen. Get help from your family and friends if you need a helping hand but show him that you can handle yourself and are stronger than he gave you credit for. It may be scary but you'll be a better person because of it. Good luck.
2007-02-09 04:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to get over matters like this, I had a identical trouble and it took about a year or so. Don't forget that there are lots of alternative guys out there, and if you happen to do not try anything new, you could be occupied with this for longer than you wish to have. You in no way be aware of, probably he feels the identical way about you, despite the fact that it is just a bit feeling. Probably if you begin an extra relationship with anyone else, he would get jealous, and become looking you back. Then the whole thing else is up to you. Hope I helped, just right good fortune!
2016-08-10 15:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by fertig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wonderful person who pretty much has everything under control (cleaning, bills etc). The question is, do you still want to be with him after hearing these things? I'm sure you still love him and care about him but I would not want someone to be with me out of pity either. At least he was honest (eventually) about his feelings. You two need to sit down and have a serious talk. Both of you put all your cards on the table. If you two are meant to part ways then the longer you wait to address the issue the more difficult it will be. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-09 04:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since june or july he kept some feelings to himself and revealed them to you in december and you worked it out? ok and now ..you are going thru the motions, emotions and actions of daily life with him and continuing to think about the past...something you 'worked out' already. why are you going there now? what exactly did you work out? I dont understand.
youre going to have a talk with him and he's going to say...how long have you been thinking this way....it will be a vicious circle of going into the past. live and love in the moment. put some sweet notes to your darling in his lunch box. peace
2007-02-09 04:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does care somewhat cause he thought you was gonna hurt yoself. some dudes would leave anyway or just leave to see if you would do it. let him go and move on. he still do nt wanna be with you right? leave him then
2007-02-09 04:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then break up with him. you already know that he's using you so just do it. you will be better off in the long run.
2007-02-09 04:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋