How do you get a child not to be so caught up on being held all the time? Do you just put them down and let them cry it off?
2007-02-09 04:08:24 · 8 answers · asked by jobruce86 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes, I know that sounds cruel but in reality it is not. Letting a child cry a little bit won' t hurt them. They will usually cry themselves to sleep.
2007-02-09 04:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kelsi B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not a bad thing to hold your child, but not all the time. It may seem easy when he only weighs a few pounds but try carrying around a large bag of potatoes for an hour and you'll see what you're in for!
Spend some time playing on the floor or changing mat, have some tummy time, have a cuddle and read a book BUT put him down as he's getting tired so he can go off to sleep himself and never cuddle him to sleep and then keep hold of him til he wakes. You both need some time away from each other to develop as people.
If you want to comfort him when he cries then do, I don't believe in 'crying it out' either, you have to find the balance. Good luck.
2007-02-10 10:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, just stop holding them all the time. I watch babies, and the ones that are held all the time go through SO much emotional turmoil when someone just wants to set them down for a second, even to change the diaper. They get so upset and act like they just can't live without being held. Well, if you stop holding them, after while they will love being on the ground, or whereever. They'll learn how to move and shuffle around, crawl and walk. They are more alert to their surroundings also, learning what goes on around them. I think it's so sad when I see a child that just freaks out when it's set down, poor thiing. Then need to learn it's okay to be set down, they will be just fine!
2007-02-09 12:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by Be Still and know He's God 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just put them down unless they really need to be held until they get that they dont have to be held. Offer them toys and other distractions to get their minds off of being held so much.
There is nothing wrong with holding them, but toting them around like they are second skin in the long run wont help you much. They learn how to crawl and walk faster through practice. They really cant practice that being held all the time.
Unless they have a medical condition that requires them to be up all the time, they will be just fine and cry it off- just check from time to time when they are crying to make sure it isnt anything serious.
2007-02-09 12:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age please? This is very age specific. I don't like crying it out-very young children aren't manipulating you when they cry-they are trying to get your attention to see if you will respond to a cry. By not responding you send the message that cry as they may, no help will come and no comfort will be given. If you respond to them when they are young, then they will cry less-they know that someone will help. Even if I couldn't always respond to a cry with a hug-I would tell my son "mommy is coming and you are ok" until I could get there. Crying it out is not a good method for kids under 6-7 months old.
2007-02-09 15:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by VAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Never let a baby 'cry it off'. I read an article that a couple who was chastised for apparently 'spoiling' their baby because they held him too much made the child suffer by not picking him up, and he cried so much that he stop thriving. Babies and children rely on us to love and nurture them- and when you do it YES, a baby senses this and he stops thriving.
You are not spoiling your child if you're holding them. There is no way you can spoil a baby by holding them. Hold that kid! They are only that small for such a short time... this is the time to bond with your little one and nurture them!!! Worry about the spoiling issue when they are 3 or four and they are stomping around the room screaming demands... now That's spoiled. Good luck to you!
2007-02-09 12:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by gokusgirl_2000 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
NO. Everyone told me to do that, and I did, and it was like torture for her, and me. I decided to go with my gut, and offer her my affection when she asked for it, and never looked back. SOMETIMES they have to be put down. So deal with that, but its never wrong to hold your child, they do not stay this small forever, do you suppose your twelve year old will still want to snuggle so much? Course not. enjoy this while you can as much as you can. And in the end, as soon as she was sure I was not going to (whatever she thought....leave, egnore her lol) she got over it, and doen't often ask up anymore. Another trick I sort of picked up, hold her, play with her for a while, doing something that she could do alone, but doesn't want to, and try sneaking away after a few minutes. Takes time, but eventually they learn your not actually going to go very far.
2007-02-09 14:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...thats the only way you'll get them to stop..only hold them when they need to be held...i mean really need it not just because you want to
2007-02-09 12:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by XxForever&EverxX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋