i need to stop my friends from ruining my relationships there's this guy i really like and want to be with and my freinds are running him off how can i stop this? i'm at the age where i'm ready to settle down and be in a relationship which my friends already have and they still act like this knowing very well they wouldn't want me to do that to them.......my guy he said he cant handle how they are in our business he thinks that i tell them our business when i don't ...they assume stuff and cuss him out, and jump in our business for no reason. it's really childish and he thinks that it will rub off on me i've had so many guys turn me down because of my friends i can't take it anymore.. what should i do? this guy is planning to leave out if town in a few months i don't want to lose him.....they have been in our business so much to where he really wants to leave sooner i'm soo frustrated because i feel he's the one for me .....please i need advice on how to deal with this.....
2007-02-09 04:07:36 · 16 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is nothing wrong with this guy he's very nice and mannerable my friends say he too handsome for me ......and they also stereotype him because he's in the military
2007-02-09 04:18:49 · update #1
some of my friends will yell and cuss out the guys i meet and then when i say something they say they were playing and it pisses off the guy i'm with.....i want it all to stop
2007-02-09 04:21:53 · update #2
tell them to stop if they dont stop letting them in your life period!!! they sound like some rats anyway they is some haters probaly jealous of you and want him
2007-02-09 04:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all you need to sit your friends down and tell them that their opinions mean alot to you, but there is a point where they need to but out and let you live your own life. Tell them that you really like him and that he makes you happy and if they are not okay with that, then they are not okay with you. Tell them that they have no right to cuss him out and that is very rude and highly unacceptable. If that doesn't work you have to decide. Do you want a relationship with a guy that really likes you, or are you going to just stick with your friends for the rest of your life. If they don't but out give them an ultimatium.. either they butt out of your business or they loose you as a friend. They will back off
2007-02-09 04:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one of two things going on here:
1. Maybe they see something that you do not. If you are so into your relationship, you might be blinding yourself to your friends' good instincts. Maybe this guy really IS a loser. Maybe he is a potential abuser. Maybe he is manipulative. Maybe he takes you for granted. If your friends really care about you, they may just be looking out for you. They will be able to see something that you might not be able to. They also might just be afraid they'll lose you. Think about this really hard, then go on to #2.
2. Do you really think they are looking out for you? If not, then it sounds like they really are not your friends. Maybe it is time to drop them and find better friends. Friends don't do this to people. Perhaps they are jealous. Perhaps they are selfish and want to keep you to themselves. Perhaps they never were good friends in the first place. Regardless, if they are like this, you can do better. Tell them how you feel, then stop talking to them. Ignore them. Don't return their calls. Let them go. Sometimes friendships don't last, and it is time to move on.
Just tread carefully! You don't want to dump your friends and then find out they were right about your man. Then you'll have no one. So talk to other people you care about. Talk to some co-workers. Talk to some family. Talk to some other friends. Then sit down by yourself and think about it. Look inside your heart. Are they right? Are these people even really your friends? Is your man worth it? Only you will be able to answer those questions, then take the necessary action when you are positive you know. Good luck!
2007-02-09 04:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think your friends keep doing this? If I were to ask them, what would they say. Is it the guys you pick? If this guy is good for you why would your friends go out of their way to get involved. Your friends can not ruin your relationships if you don't let them. Maybe you need some new friends.
'they assume stuff and cuss him out,'
This makes no sense to me. what are you telling them?
2007-02-09 04:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by ciao_gina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop telling them things.... it sounds like they are too involved.... Stop calling them with every little detail.. you have to learn how to be happy... Sounds like you need to find some new friends anyway. They don't respect you or your relationship. At the end of the day it's you and your man, because they have a home to go to... So just explain to them your feelings and if they care about you like friends should they will change, if not let them go.... But on the flip side check your man, because it may not be your friends it may be him.
2007-02-09 04:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most friends mean well in their advice to us and sometimes we refuse to accept their advice as a way to avoid the truth. To me to hear your boyfriend accusing you of "telling them your business", leads me to think there IS something to tell. Your girlfriends just might mean well. Even so, they do not have the right to interfere in your life regardless if they are right in their judgement concerning your boyfriend. If your choice is to stay with your boyfriend then from here on, do not confide & complain to your friends if problems do arise. Hopefully this will stop them from interferring. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-09 04:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them a lesson, tell them that if they don't stop involving you will stop hanging out with them, if they don't stop, do as you warned, but for about 2-4 weeks, to make sure that they are rather convinced, no answering their phone calls etc. Only after that time tell them that you was showing them how it would look like if you finished your friendship, and they should stop jumping in your business...
2007-02-09 04:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by kamqx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say they are your FRIENDS, then tell them to butt out.Have him and them over to your house and in front of him,set them straight.They will either stop being your friends or the friendship will grow.Really you are the only one that is loosing.What do you have to loose?Why do they think he's too good looking for you ---who are they?You need to step up and get it all out in the air.No one should curse someone out over anything...Blessings to you.
2007-02-09 05:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends maybe protecting you which is good maybe they want you to be happy if the guy is going to leave because of that tell him byyyyyyyyyyyyeee
guys will always come and go and he doesnt sound like the guy for you just tell him byyyyyyyee
and keep looking youll settle down one day dont rush bc you wantto do the same it will never be right!!!!
2007-02-09 04:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by SANDIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friends. Let them know that this guy is special to you. Tell them to back off, and let you have the relationship, they are already in one! They need to respect you.
Talk to your guy too. I am sure that you already have. Assure him that you are acting for you, not your friends.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 04:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to realize why they're doing it and weigh the situations from their point of view. Sometimes our friends can see things in a "relationship" from the outside that you can't or won't. If they're real friends, they are concerned about your true feelings. If they thing your guy is a jerk, it could be true in their eyes.
2007-02-09 04:11:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋