Can v confide every sercret to our boyfriend do i need a female best friend only or he can be my best friend i think he cnt coz der r certain things u cnt tell ur bf bt ur best friend wat do u think plzz help
2007-02-09 04:05:27 · 40 answers · asked by Shelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depending on what it is, I wouldn't feel that comfortable telling my boyfriend every problem I had. Even though your boyfriend should act as your best friend in theory, sometimes you need an objective point of view from someone who isn't having sex with you. Also men come and go, but your friends are here for life. And that is where a female can come in handy. If it's relationship problems then why not both! Go to your female friend first, think things through, then go to your boyfriend.
2007-02-09 04:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Bombay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and No. Let me explain why. Some things u should keep to urself. For example if u tell ur boyfriend that this guy likes u , that simple and innocent comment will backfire to you. If u talk about ur girlfriends , that could also seem very interesting to him. If what u mean is by telling him personal thngs like things that happpened to u in the past, well if u think that hes worthy of ur trust and u consider him a kind of person that would never turn his back on u or use that information to hurt u, u have to consider
these little details. The problem now a days with relationships is
that people dont get to really know the person ur are with. People
rush into things and then when its over and its get ugly they start wondering what did i do wrong ? If its a friend u need , if its someone u know and trust why not. If its someone that u think is reserved and faithfull to your friendship, because u could have a lot friends but not all of them could be loyal to u. Friends are like a dollar in ur pocket, it comes and goes. Not to be negative, or put u down but its the truth. If u have secrets that u think could harm u or somebody else , keep it to urself. Somethings are better if theyre never said.
2007-02-09 05:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by mialisa1105 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your boyfriend was your best friend, you can't get any better than that. That is an ideal situation, and you should count yourself blessed. The only thing you need to consider though, is that if you have things you want to talk about that really should be discussed with a female, then you shouldn't tell your boyfriend, but rather a female friend. Still, it's wonderful that he is your best friend. My best friend is my fiance. I couldn't ask for a better friend. He would have to tie with my sister though - they are both pretty good friends.
2007-02-09 04:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your boyfriend can be ur bestfriend, however, this depends on the type of person he is. I mean there are certain things that u would not tell ur boyfriend but would to a bestfriend. So, if there is total trust between you guys then there should not be a problem having ur boyfriend as ur bestfriend. If ur not sure u can trust him then find a bestfriend whether it is a boy or a girl.
2007-02-09 04:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by DEE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, I think you need to learn some grammar lessons.
Secondly, yes, he can be your best friend. If you are in a stable, steady relationship, where the two of you are there for support, (sounds like you are too young to be at this point) then he SHOULD be your best friend. You can still have a best female friend, but if you are in the right relationship, he should be the one you confide in 95 percent of the time. Sounds crazy, but it is the truth.
2007-02-09 04:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by hammettgoddess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 2 best friends. My boyfriend is my best guy friend. And I have a best girl friend. I can tell them both anything and know that they will not judge me. Some boyfriends can't be trusted with anything, the same with female friends. I think that everyone should have 2 best friends. one guy and one girl. They can both give you advice on the same thing and you can see 2 different sides to everything.
2007-02-09 04:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by baby_girl16878 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nah, you can't confide everything to your boyfriend. There's nothing like a best girlfriend to confide in. But, a boyfriend still should be a best friend also, or else the relationship is kind of shallow and won't last. It's just that, we really need our girlfriends to vent to; to get their points of view. I think the guys know this!
2007-02-09 04:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can your boyfriend be your best friend? I would caution against it. Boyfriends and girlfriends frequently break up. If you confide all of your secrets to your boyfriend and then 3 months later you aren't together any more, imagine how awful that will be.
Once you have a significant other, fiance, or spouse, then you can confide to your heart's content. Until then, it's really best to keep intensely private matters and family secrets to yourself.
2007-02-09 04:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband is my best friend. I tell him everything, probably even the stuff he doesn't want to hear. I trust him completely. I think it's good to have girl friends as well though. I have about 2 or 3 best girl friends that i call for things i know my husband doesn't care or know about. It's also good to have them when you and your b/f get into a fight!
2007-02-09 04:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by akp_02 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, your boyfriend can and should be your best friend. A best friend doesn't need to be someone of the same gender, they just need to be someone you trust, care for and can confide in.
The best relationships are the ones in which the couple considers each other their best friend.
2007-02-09 04:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋