I was in a realtionship where i was fully in love with this girl and she just never really felt the same way about me and kind of used me and the more i wanted her to love me.. then became an on and off type of thing, but we're are broken up now, i know this she's no good for me and it's so stupid of me to want to even think of being with her again.. and yet i still lthink about her non-stop and want to know where she is what she's doing, and i'm getting anxiety attacks just think about all these what if situations.. why do i still want to be with someone like this.. i know it's retarded, any similar issues, please give some input...
2007-02-09 04:01:29 · 12 answers · asked by Moto 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just got out of a 4 year relationship. we are going through the exact same thing. It's very hard. Most of the time i don't even want to get out of bed. I was told that this is similar to death, losing someone you love. it's impossible to conceive that we are no longer speaking. there are no words that can heal or take away the pain you are going through. I've spent most of my time writing music, anything i can do to not think about her, just trying to let her go. I can tell you really do love her still, just like i love my ex still. i wish i had the words to heal your pain but i don't. all i can say is that i feel you, and I'm terribly sorry. what you are doing is not retarded, I'm doing the same thing, even with the "what if situations" but you can't change how people feel. We both know that are ex's are no good for us, it's just so hard to let go. in time this will go away for the both of us. it just seems like time is going slower than it ever has before. take care my good friend, good luck. i know it seems like moving on is impossible but we both have to, we have no choice, and it hurts really bad.
2007-02-09 04:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not retarded at all. I've just come out of something similar. I know he isn't the one for me but it seems like he has been my best friend forever. We talked every night for close to 5 hours. We were always talking always together.
When you feel you have a bond with someone, even if they can't feel it, it can be strong and consuming. My ex kept me on this string. He'd get me hoping that we'd go to the next level by saying well give me this such and such time and we'll go to this level. Because he knew that I was dedicated to this relationship he didn't want to crush me, maybe not knowning that the longer i was waiting the deeper my longing got.
It sucks. I know. It will take time to get over. So keep yourself busy. Find something that will take her place. Right now I am focusing on getting back into my religion. I even bought books of devotions that i concentrate on during the time we would talk. I play more with my cat, I have thrown myself in to decorating my imaginary house :)
i found things to keep him out of my mind, and you should try and do the same. Good Luck. You'll get through it
2007-02-09 12:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by americanladyace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there, friend! It's all too commom.
All I can say is keep telling yourself what you KNOW to be true - that she was not right for you.
Keep busy. Spend time with friends and also take time to take care of yourself.
Go out and have fun. I would not advise a "rebound" relationship because that's unfair to both of you. Let things happen naturally.
You have a lot to offer, and you will feel "whole" again in time. It does take a while, but trust me it works out.
Good luck, mate, and all the best.
2007-02-09 12:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh mys gosh im going thru the exact same thing! except taht i dont feel retarded well not anymore. i keep thinking about my ex sometimes i want to give him a call to see what he has been up too or what is he doing this weekend just to talk to him but you know what i did. i erased him out of my life as if he never existed. erased him from my phone, i took another path home (because i pass by his work all the time on the way home and see his car) and just little things like that and get out and meet more girls. you will do just fine. maybe she wans't "THE" girl for you but there is someone out there for you. go look for her. lol. good luck!
2007-02-09 12:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by loveablelucy22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the song by click 5 about just the girl i'm looking for? Well i think it perfectly describes ur situation.. but hey this doesnt mean ur retarded...u loved her so its gonna be hard to get over for a while...all u need to do since, she does not feel the same is get active...keep busy and occupied so u dont spend that much time thinking about her....go easy on urself and give urself sum time...u'll get over it
2007-02-09 12:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by Bloo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Karma
2007-02-09 12:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason is because she could care less of you right now so thats why you think of her if you were to forget about her go on and have fun she would probably wanting to know what your doing where you are? but all in all you just havent met anyone to move on so of course you are going to think of her! duhhhh
2007-02-09 12:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by SANDIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation but your life must go on and if you love someone you want them to love you back well at least i do you still want to be with her because you really like her and i bet you do not want to see her with another boy because i love my x and he treat me like he don't like me but it seem like i dont care but i want to be with him becuse i do not want to see him with no body else i mean he tell me he love me but you know how that goes they tell you what you want to hear so you just need to keep your mind off of her and keep yourself occupied you can hang out with you friends got to the mall the movies find another special one just tell the girl who you think you love what goes around comes around. this should be enough input.
2007-02-09 12:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Hazel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with the answer from third person from the top here. Wise words. Take care of you.
2007-02-09 12:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by Holiday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want what we can't have! But it is time for you to move on, there is someone out there that will appreciate you for who you are, be patient she will come into your life when you least expect it!
2007-02-09 12:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by pam m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋