okay well me and my x have been talkin. we just started about a week ago and he wants me back. well im already going out with this guy named Ryan. But it isnt reali going out i guess we just talk on the phone. well i boke it off with Ryan in order to go out With Brandon. okay heres tha thing Brandon is 18 Ryans 15 and im 14. Ryan i so much better for me. but i like love Brandon. I mean i love Ryan too. but i dont know wich 1 to pick. i lost my virginity to Brandon. And he is so much sweeter. the only bad thing is the age. will you guyz help me out it is realy important to me and thank you who all answered this.
2007-02-09 03:53:57 · 6 answers · asked by Alisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow.... well first of all i hope you are too young to have sex. that's a huge responsibility that can carry a lot of consequences so think about that. other than that i've been through the same thing. I had an ex that called and wanted me back, i never wanted to break up with him in the first place, but i was with another guy by then. I loved my ex more than anything in the world regardless of what he put me through when we were dating (cheating, lying, etc). I also felt something for my current b/f ( he was also who i lost my virginity to) but it wasn't as wonderful as what i had with my ex. I ended up breaking up with my b/f and getting back with my ex. 4 years later and we're married. I think it just depends on the situation though. You need to sit down and really think about how you feel with both of them and how your future looks with them.
2007-02-09 04:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by akp_02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have one serious issue here: Brandon is over 18, you are not. Lets assume you lost your virginity to him when he was underage (to avoid law problems, just leave it like that).
If you keep a relation with Brandon, you guys must be careful cause he can get in trouble with the law at anytime. It just takes one wrong move, and your father or mother or anybody in your family, or even friends could call the police and he will be in jail in no time. This is not to make you afraid, but more to open your eyes to the world you live in. My wife and I are 8 years apart, and had to go through a lot of problems too, but we made it, and we are now a happy couple thinking about having kids already.
On the other hand, having a relation with Ryan can be more realistic for both of you. But it all depends on how you feel. If you are not sure about whom to choose, then don’t choose any of them, cause it could end bad if you decide you made a wrong decision.
My advise is to follow your heart, it worked for me, and your heart is the one that usually tells you what you really want and what will make you happy. Your brain comes after to put things in order and in place, but your happiness must be on top, otherwise you will be miserable.
Good luck, and hope you can be happy with whoever you choose, now, or later on in your life.
2007-02-09 04:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 18 and 14 is too big of an age difference. You are too young to have lost your virginity. You are just a kid and he is a legal adult. He could get into trouble and get put in jail for being with you. But before that. You said that he is your ex. That means that something happened that was bad enough for you to call the whole relationship quits. What makes you think that it is going to be any different this time. I think you should leave him alone, but if you are going to try to be a player leave Ryan alone too, because he doesnt deserve to be brought into this, if you still have feelings for another guy. Its not fair to him. But you definately need someone around your own age.
2007-02-09 04:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no bother age different. go with brandon
2007-02-09 03:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should just concentrate on your studies first, just let nature take its course and the one who really loves u will eventually show up one day...
2007-02-09 03:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by snowynite19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your heart
2007-02-09 03:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by smarty6299 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋