ok i have two older cousins and their like my brothers they've always been there for me and i've always lived with them..untill they moved three years ago...so when they come down here everyother weekend im always around them...and there friends they bring...but my parents dont like it cause they said its making a bad repatation and it looks bad on my part cause im the only girl with a bunch of guys...what do i do?
2007-02-09 03:52:05 · 13 answers · asked by Tara Bruce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think your parents are just concerned that you might ignore other girl friends your own age, which are healthy for you to have.
It is great that you are so friendly with your older cousins, but you also need some girl friends who are your age.
You should try to spend more time with other friends your age, but I dont' see why you couldn't spend some time with your cousins.
Whether you can "hang out" with them or not depends on their age and your age. You might be too young and in a group of guys, it is probably a bad idea.
spending time with them when they come to your house or as a "family time" is perfectly OK.
Your parents are probably worried about you being under proper adult supervision. Talk to your parents and try to work something out. Ask them where and when they consider it appropriate for you to socialize with your cousins.
2007-02-09 04:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got to some how convince your parents that their wrong. The thing you've got to ask yourself is why do they think, and feel this way. I believe in most cases our family is correct ....... Ask your self if what they feel or believe is because you put them in that mind frame about their little girl. Have you been on the wild side, or hard headed, or just out right defiant to them. see this is just a little to think about before you go ahead and to what you want even after we all give you our advise. Or are wishing that we'll say do what you want. I know this isn't what you wanted to here, but the truth always hurts. I raised a 31 yr old and if she had to do it all again same as most of us we would do things so much different. well we can't, but you can. Just sit down and think about what I've said it could make a difference if you really want help as you ask ........Good luck
2007-02-09 04:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by russell c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most importantly, you should respect your parents. They probably see the danger in you hanging out with older guys all of the time. I'm sure you probably have a crush on one of them, at least. It must be impossible to hang out with guys that much and not get a crush on at least one of them.
I would hang out with your cousins when it is just you and your cousins. Or I would bring another girl friend along. And I'd make sure you don't let yourself get taken advantage of if you start to like one of these guys and he ends up using you.
Just be careful. Listen to your parents, they are only looking out for your best interest. They love you more than your cousins and their friends, trust me.
2007-02-09 03:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one thing if you love them and care for them like you say you do then the opinion of an outsider shouldnt matter. You dont let anyone tell you how to feel of how you would look if you hung out with this person or that person. People tell me that all the time since all of my friends are guys and I dont care because I love the time I spend with them. So dont let that bother you. She knows nothing about how you feel with the people youl ike being around so how can she be the judge?
2007-02-09 04:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Oreo wit out the O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I HAVE A SIMILAR PROBLEM. ME AND MY COUSIN ARE LIKE BEST FRIENDS AND SISTERS. MY MOM DOESN'T WANT ME TALKING TO HER OR AROUND HER BECAUSE SHE THINKS THAT JUST BECAUSE MY COUSIN TALKS TO OUR COUSIN WHO HAS HAD A LITTLE TROUBLE IN THE PAST. SHE THINKS THAT BEING AROUND HER IS GOING TO GIVE ME A BAD REPUTATION. I ALWAYS SAY U R RESPONSIBLE FOR WHATEVER IT IS THAT U DO IN UR LIFE. NO ONE CAN MAKE U DO SOMETHING THAT U DON'T WANT TO DO. UR PARENTS R TRYING TO DO WHAT THEY FEEL IS BEST FOR U. IN UR EYES ITS NOT WHATS BEST. HONESTLY LOOK AT THE PROBLEM FROM SUM1 ELSE'S POINT OF VIEW. TO 1 PERSON IT'S OK, BUT 2 ANOTHER THEIR GONNA THINK OF U AS SLUT OR POSSIBLY WORSE. JUST BECAUSE THEIR THAT SIMPLE MINDED. THERE IS ABSOLUTLY NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING GUY FRIENDS. THEY MAKE GOOD PROTECTION FORM ALL THE CREEPS OUT THERE. LOL!
2007-02-09 05:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by glamorousbitch09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your parents and discuss and recognize their concerns, but let them know your feelings also. perhaps if your parents talked to your cousins and their friends and you did things around your house sometimes so your parents would see that you enjoy the situation and it is okay. You do need to listen to what your parents say about their concerns but keep communication open and let them know your side too. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-09 04:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old you are and the ages of the boys and who is with them.
your parents do not really care cause they have not told you to see them or have talked to your cousins.
how do your feel
happy to be with them
do you feel safe
do they drink and do drugs around you
you can figure this out on your own so think and talk to your cousins too, if you are so close to them then it will be not problem.
2007-02-09 04:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*** dat. okay it dont matter if your parents think they is a bad rep. i mean i always hung out wit the "bad rep" ppl and im guud so just ignore and do whacha gotta do.
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2007-02-09 03:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Alisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents.
2007-02-09 03:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by T J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just looking out for your safety, and reputation.
2007-02-09 03:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋