my friend and i were close. then at one piont he was into me. and even kissed me a few times. then now he has a girlfriend. i really don't mind. but the problem is that he is not picking up my call. its not like i have something to say about him and his gurl. he is my friend and friend call friends. (i don't even call him up to twice a weekk, i'm keeping my space)
whats up with him
2007-02-09 03:29:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Several possible things could be happening here.
1. He never just wanted to be your friend. He wanted to be more. It didn't happen. He found a new girlfriend. He has what he wants. He's done with you. I'd say there is a 30% chance this is what happened.
2. His girlfriend feels threatened by you, and does not like you. She told him to leave you alone. 20% chance this is the case.
3. He was embarrassed about what happened between you and him, and is trying to distance himself because he thinks you might LIKE like him. He has a girlfriend now. He doesn't want to deal with any jealousy you may or may not have. 10%.
4. He's just really into his girlfriend right now. I've had lots of friends that I didn't hear from for a month or more when they found "love." Give him some space, and he'll come around when he's ready. 40%.
All you can do is give him space and wait. In the meantime, go hang out with other people and have some fun. Friendships are important... but the fact is that they come and go. Maybe this one will come back. Maybe it will not. Either way, don't waste your time waiting around. There are plenty of other people out there to be friends with. Good luck!
2007-02-09 03:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give your friend time with his new relationship. He may feel that because you've kissed you may have something negative to say about his relationship. Once you cross that line with a friend and one moves on it's hard to get beyond that. With time and space things should turn themselves around. If you feel that you don't want to wait call him and leave him a message explaining that you're not freaking out about him having a girl you just wanted to be sure that even though he has a girl the 2 of you are still cool. Then if you think you can ask him when all of you can hang out to show him that you don't have a problem with him being with her.
2007-02-09 03:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friendship is putting a strain on his relationship because his girlfriend. Jealousy is a b**ch and it will come back to bite her in the as* later. If he values your friendship then he will start picking up the phone.
The other option you have is sitting her down and letting her know that you are not interested in him like that. It will not solve her insecurity issues, but it should pust them on the back burner at least. You need to talk to him too, you were friends before this girl came into his life and she should be willing to accept your friendship for what it is. Of course, if he is a dumb As* and has been telling her about your past and how he use to be into you then you will just continue to spin your wheels. I am sure you have other friends, if he doesn't come around then let him go. it is him that will have to live with the fact that he lost you not the other way around!
2007-02-09 03:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 21:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by riopel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that u kissed a few times took u past the "friend level", so he is just having respect for his gf and staying away from people who could jeopardize his new relationship. I'm sure he knows u have called, and now just let it be and if he wants to talk to u he will call u back, u just need to let go.
2007-02-09 03:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a man how would he feel about your "friend" that "you've kissed a few times" calling you? He has a chick now - let it go. If the roles were reversed you probably would do the same thing.
2007-02-09 04:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has he been with this girl? it may be that he is so caught up in the relationship to the point that he is excluding everything else. believe me i know this first hand. my best guy friend is doing the same thing to me. give him some more space. he will eventually come around.
2007-02-09 03:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men drop there freinds for a short while sometimes when they have a new girl. I do not think it is specifically you. I know my boyfreinds best freind drops of the face of the earth for awhile everytime has a new relationship. He always comes back. I think the same will happen with you.
2007-02-09 03:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by Miriah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing he should never have crossed the line. Now he's feeling guilty and doesn't know how to deal with it other than to blow you off. Sorry this happened to you guys. Let this be a lesson to you. Don't change a good friendship by trying to make it more than it is.
2007-02-09 03:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by russell c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ......sorry to tell you that its probably too late for you right now. He is soo into his girlfriend right now, he does not have time for you. Besides I'm sure she has told him that he MUST stop talking to you our else she will leave him ! I know I would .
So.....you will have to wait until his relationship is over between them and then TRY to start a relationship with him, IF he is interested in you to begin with.
2007-02-09 03:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋