Ok...I've been complaining and complaining about a new baby.Thinking of going the live with my dad and all of this...well shouldn't I be helping my mom and step dad instead of complaining.I mean this is a big step for them and all I've been doing is making it worse.Is this bad or what?
Also,sorry about all the questions about my family.....
2007-02-09 03:05:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think me and my sibling are complaining becasue we don't want another brother or sister.We have 6 kids in the house right now.Its crazy and thats why I wanted to live with my dad
2007-02-09 03:18:25 · update #1
ps my mom is only 5 months pregnant yes she didn't tell us until now.(like 2 or 3 days ago.)
2007-02-09 03:21:34 · update #2
oh ya...I forgot to mention.All the step kids live with their mom so...they aren't at my house and they never visit...
2007-02-09 03:39:57 · update #3
This is a big step for your mom and step-fa but this was also their choice. I don't think adults who haven't been in your position really understand. I am an adult but I had step-parents and step-siblings.
I don't think people understand what its like to have your parents remarry - someone they choose not you. Then bring more step-kids in to the home, it causes a lot of chaos and its a huge adjustment. Again the adults make the choices to change and blend families and you are just dragged along for the ride.
Now if that wasn't enough they are bringing a new baby into it. Again I am sure something you weren't consulted on.
It sounds like there are already a ton of kids in the house and I bet its a zoo.
You should discuss this w your father and honestly if the environment is as chaotic as it sounds maybe you would be better off with him.
You were not born to raise your siblings and it is not your responsibility - that is the job of your mother, father and step-parents. You are still a kid yourself and if it is better for you to be with your father now and he agrees to take you full time you should go.
Talk to your dad 1st to make sure its OK and then have him talk to your mom. Maybe you could just go for a few weeks or months for now and then you can all re-evaluate the situation down the road.
2007-02-09 03:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your complaining is understandable. It depends on how old you are. If all your moms attention goes straight to the new baby, and hardly any to you, yeah I would be complaining too. Also 6-8 kids is alot, but if your one of the oldest in the siblings, help your mom and step-dad out. They might need you help and appreciate it alot more then what you think. They might do something for you in return.
2007-02-09 11:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by sprintbabe_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this... why are you complaining... what are you afraid of... talk to your parents honestly...
Tell them I am sorry for all the complaining. I have just been (annoyed, angry, afraid... ) ... I will try to get over this... and I will try to help you... I love you mom...
because really you are only complaining because something has hurt you... makes you afriad... steps on your pride... something... stop repressing it and lashing out by complaining... address whatever feeling is making you complain and get rid of it... so you can move on to being happy you will have a sibling... and help your mom and step dad... being the great big brother I'm am sure you will be...
2007-02-09 11:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by AvidBeerDrinker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? i am 16, and even though we dont have any new babies in our house, sometime i feel like i should go and live with my dad. we are a family of 6, and sometimes, the chaos and noise drives me crazy.
weigh your options. is the baby the only reason that you are wanting to move out, or are there underlying issues?
try this.... help with the baby, a little. dont go to far, change a diaper here and there, hold it once and a while. offer to feed it a meal (if it is on cereal, or solids) but at the same time, do things that you like. hang out with your friends. listen to music, go to the movies. work the baby into your life.
what would you do if you didnt have the option of moving out?
2007-02-09 11:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by smcopeland16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly your being self fish i think it is after all you brother or sister and when your older it's nice to have family and not be all alone when your parents are aging and need help from you so maybe you should try to bond with this baby and be a better big brother it's hard to have a baby and women's emotions are still affected by all the extra hormones even when there not pregnant any longer it takes a wile to rid the body of the extra so give it more time and try to see the whole picture not just your view
2007-02-09 11:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by auntie s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is such an ugly virtue. Please stop complaining and become a part to this babies life. This baby is going to love you and look up to you, you are a big brother to this child. Apologize to your Mom and Step-Dad. Show them that you've grown up, soon you'll be wanting a car. If you continue to fight them, they can make life really hard for you. Never burn your bridges and never play games with the heart. Get to know this child, he/she is a part of you too
2007-02-09 11:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you complaining? Because it has taken their time away from you? Because the baby cries to much? What? Yes, you should step in and help out. This is your sibling, so you should do the responsible thing. This sibling of yours is going to grow up wondering why you hate him/her because you left to go live with your father. You should be happy. And, you are probably adding more stress on your mother and step dad.
2007-02-09 11:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Groovy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well everything is new try to stop complaining and help one day see if you like if not go with dad. I know you will make the right choice.
2007-02-09 11:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by misslynn26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay ~ nothing to be ashamed of.
Personally, I can't see your points of why you don't like the newborn baby clearly but my suggestion is ~ don't disappoint your parents with such bad behaviour. Since you yourself was a baby long time ago, why don't you just make up your mind and be nice to your parents and the baby?
2007-02-09 11:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by PossumNight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go live with your dad. if you are not gelling with the baby the best thing to do is get out of the way and take a step back. but go and visit as often as you can to show your mum your support
2007-02-09 11:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by Ivan R Don 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋