Should I call and thank her?

Question

I spoke to the mother of a boy who has been physically abusing my daughter on the way home from the school bus. She spoke to her son and the situation has been remedied. Should I call her to thank her and to assure her that my daughter has been warned not to take advantage and be verbally mean to this boy (yes, she is just as nasty only with words, not hands). I want her to know that I appreciate it and that she can also call me if there are any problems with my daughter.

Thanks! I had to leave a message on her answering machine but I thanked her for dealing with her son (it wasn't the first incident but it was the first time I called about it) and I did invite her to talk to me if my daughter causes any problem. Especially since I know her and I do know for a fact that what happened did happen and the person involved was also correct. The parts I can never be sure of is how things happen or why they happen. My daughter's negative influence in a situation always gets left out in the telling of it. I did discuss that factor with the other mom when I called about the incident (he was whacking the back of her legs with a stick as they walked home from the bus stop).

Answer 1

I think it's a good idea. Your reinforcement will likely result in her continuing to do the right thing. The boy's mother apparently handled the situation well and not all moms could have followed through. We all appreciate a pat on the back.
And good for you for recognizing your daughter's part in this situation.

Answer 2

I'd definitely call and let her know that things are going better and say thanks. Be sure to commiserate, if your daughter is verbally abusive, you can honestly say you understand how hard it is.

Make sure to have ongoing conversation with your daughter about her words, and feel free to use the ol' standby, "Remember how you felt when that boy was saying x,y,z to you? What are some better things to do/say in that situation?" This will help her out her entire life. Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes. Thank her and let her know that the situation has improved. Good to keep that line of communication open concerning your daughter, as well. I'd want to know if my kids were picking on others rather verbally or physically.

Answer 4

I say deliver the cardboard; that's surely considered extra well mannered anyhow. And in my opinion, I continuously love getting playing cards. not often each person deliver them anymore, and that i imagine they're a lot nicer because you are able to shop them, while a telephone call may be forgotten through the years. Kudos to you for being so thoughtful, by technique of how.

Answer 5

Yes Definately.

Answer 6

Ya sure, give her a call. Your concern was your own kid yes but also that she knew what hers was up to and you wanted it stopped. If she didn't deal with it she knew you would with higher authorities. I wouldn't invite her to call you with problems about your daughter; she wasn't the problem.

Answer 7

yes i think so parenting is not only at home but every where you go, i appreciate the fact that you went to the child's mother told her about the problem and it was dealt with so that it will have no effect in the future with your child

Answer 8

yes if your daughter has been verbal abusive to him that would show that the respect you request is also going to be returned -it really sounds like there is more to this it may help to just dig alittle deeper

Answer 9

I would certainly make the follow up call...just to keep the dialogue going in case the problem should arise again.

Answer 10

Definitely, she also needs to know that she has done the right thing and her efforts have been successful. And who knows, you may find a new friend, and your daughter too... :-)