What should I do to about the way I dress...? My fiance gets upset about my outfits...they are modest though?

Question

Ok, I by no means dress slutty or whatever. I have always cared about the way I look, not w the motive of impressing anyone, but I just like to look nice & presentable. I have been called the fashion diva by my family & friends. My problem seems to be that my fiance' (whom I love very much with all my heart & I would do anything for) doesn't like the way I dress. He says that I care too much about the way I look. He gets upset when I call him at work & he asks what I am wearing & I tell him. He automatically says "Well, you're looking sexy AGAIN". I don't think I look sexy, I don't want to look sexy for people in public or people at work, only for him. Even when we go out, I want to look nice, but he gets upset & says that he thinks I look beautiful & that is all that should matter. It is all that matters, but I still do like to look nice, that is just the way I am & always been. Now, what should I do/how can I can let him know I don't care what others think, only him?

Answer 1

I undertand completely this problem. I too dress short skirts, heels, nice clothes, and this is ME, this is the person I am. Has nothing to do with dressing for others, women or men. I like to look presentable, I am attractive and almost 40 and while I can, and while my body looks great, I will show it off, not slutty or too sexy, just nice. My boobs aren't hanging out or other things hanging out. You need to tell him this is YOU, the person he loves, and the way you dress in some way attracts him to you, he just doesn't want other men to notice you. Men will notice you, and its okay, as long as you know your boundaries. Its a jealousy move, sweet but he needs some reassurance

Answer 2

I doubt it has anything to do with the way you dress. He is probably insecure about you or the relationship. If you love him maybe you can ask him how you should dress to make him feel more comfortable. Give it some time...then work your way back to dressing how you feel best. He probably just wants to know you are serious about the relationship and this is the way he is handeling it. Try to look at it from his perspective...don't be selfish nor should you let him be controlling...it is a fine line to walk and that is why most people have strained relationships.

Answer 3

I would have to say he is insecure, If this man can't trust to in public looking beautiful, How could he still trust you when and if you tone it down.
Don't tone down your beauty; stay who you are, who he fell in love with. When you first meet your fiance I am going to guess he loved the way you dressed. Next I'm going to have to guess again and say he doesn't what other guys to think the samething he though when he first laid eyes on you.

Answer 4

I dated a guy just like that, it got to the point where he threw out my clothes behind my back. This is a form of jealousy and in most cases will only escalate. In my case it got so bad that he yelled at my co workers for sitting with me on break. You have to get him to come to terms with himself. Dress how you want, it is not up to him to control you. Hopefully he can come to terms with you, otherwise I forsee, either you living surpressed and unhappy or lots of fighting in the future.

Answer 5

YEA, HE SOUNDS A LITTLE JEALOUS AND INSECURE. JUST TRY TO MAKE SURE YOU PAY A LITTLE EXTRA ATTENTION TO HIM, ESPECIALLY AROUND OTHER PEOPLE. I THINK IT WOULD MAKE HIM FEEL GOOD TO HAVE OTHER PEOPLE SEE THAT YOU AND HE ARE IN LOVE AND HE IS THE ONLY PERSON YOU WANT TO BE WITH. IN TIME MAYBE HE WILL LIGHTEN UP SOME. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 6

I think you should walk around in your panties and bra with a raincoat...look, he's just insecure! If your comfortable with what you wear, then just live your life and be happy!

Answer 7

he sounds insecure