okay so my best friends sister is getting married...Her sister told her that the only reason she chose her as the maid of honor is because it was to hard to choose between her friends...Should I say something to my friend or should I just leave it alone...My friend I dont think really understands exactly what happened but I think that her sister was being rude...Should I just stay away from there buisness and get over it...? or should I tell my friend how rude I think it was...? please help thanks
2007-02-09 02:53:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Everyone keeps telling me to just be happy for her...I am sincerly I am...And I HAVE AN older sister too(so I know all about "its a
Big sis thing")
2007-02-09 03:07:39 · update #1
in fact I have two older sister and I am an older sister...(SO i know all about stuff like that)
2007-02-09 03:08:55 · update #2
i think its a matter of opinion
if u say this to your friend,it may start a fight betw her sis and herself....it will be better if u leave it alone unless she ask u specifically weather her sis was rude....dont worry...u r a friend anyone will wish for
2007-02-09 03:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by lak 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The older sister made the right decision anyway. To choose a sister for whatever reason is a wonderful thing. The sister understands her, loves her unconditionally and usually will do anything for her.....It's a big sister thing.
Having too many close friends and not wanting to hurt any ones feelings, is a real challenge.
I think she did the right thing.
Your friend should be walking proud and tall because over all her sisters friends, she is the one her sister can always count on, no matter what.
Blood between sisters is a bond much greater sometimes than friendship.
If I were you I wouldn't be upset, I would be pleased my friend had such an important job to do for her sister.
A last gift so to speak that she can give to her before she starts her new life away from home and family.
Dont rain on her parade, congratulate her for being the chosen on.
If you are a friend support her .
2007-02-09 11:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think I would stay out of it. Unless something else happens and her sister does something else that you don't think is right. Or if she starts abusing the fact that her sister is her maid of honor (using her, making her do things she normally wouldn't have to, etc), then I might tell her. Right now it's really not hurting anything. Choosing your bridesmaids really is a hard decision... I can see where she wouldn't want to pick b/w 2 best friends and end up hurting one of them. This way they can't get upset b/c it's her sister that she put ahead of them. So I'd leave it alone for now.
2007-02-09 11:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by akp_02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rude or not, you shouldn’t say anything to your friend. At this point you telling her may only hurt her even more. Besides if you say something it can cause a problem between you and your friend. Think of it this way, you say something to her and she says something to her sister, her sister may decide to twist the whole thing around to make you look like the bad guy. Just keep what you think and feel to yourself.
2007-02-09 11:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not say anything to your best friend, because it would serve absolutely no purpose except to hurt her feelings. If your friend even asks you if you think it's rude, I would say something along the lines of "It really doesn't matter what I think here, it's what you think. If you're ok with it, then I"m ok with it." And mean that. Definitely don't get involved with this one, having a sister yourself you know how tricky that relationship is. Best of luck to you, and have fun at the wedding!
2007-02-09 11:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my best friend came to me and told me her mother had picked her little sister to be the maid of honor for her wedding, I let her know my negative opinion. Especially since the BRIDE is supposed to pick the MOH. My friend agreed and it's now our little joke. If she's considers you her best friend, she will value your opinion. She may think her sister was being rude also, but she doesn't want to be rude by letting her (or anyone else for that matter) know it. Plus, it's always good to vent to friends when somethhing is bothering you.
2007-02-09 11:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. This is an issue between your friend and her sister. It's a wonderful to care about your friend's feelings, however butting in a family situation is the worst thing anybody can do. Many blessings
2007-02-09 11:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Bridesmaids and maids of honor are almost always chosen for stupid arbitrary reasons like the one you mentioned, and what would be the point? Your best friend heard the rude remark... are you annoyed because she doesn't feel bad enough? If she's happy, why stir things up, except out of malice?
2007-02-09 10:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by MissA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes ignorance is bliss. If your friend did not see it as rude just let it go. I am sure that you wouldn't want to hurt your friend my explaining what you thought her sister meant. Plus deep down she may already know. Just be there for her just in case things blow up. If she is excited be excited for her.
2007-02-09 10:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go... in the long run it's probably the best decision your BFs Sister has made... Sisters are Forever... sometimes friends come & go.
2007-02-09 10:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by ઈтєlly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋