None of that obvious flirting. Just want some real examples of how people are betrayed by their own gestures and actions, and how I'll know if someone 'like' likes me.
2007-02-09 02:38:49 · 8 answers · asked by Aubrey T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In all people you can look for gestures that mirror yours. For example, if you put your hand up to the side of your face, they will too. Maybe not the same hand or quite in the same way, but in a similar gesture. This shows that they are aware of you and feel in synch with you.
Of course looking at you is a clue. If he's looking at you often, you're on his mind. If he looks away when you catch his eye, that means he's embarassed, an emotion you may not get from someone who doesn't have any feelings toward you. The more he looks at you, the more interested he probably is.
When in a room full of people if he turns his shoulders or torso toward you, or makes gestures in your direction, that indicates you are the focus of his attention in the room. It's another mirroring thing that people do unconciously. He may show special deference toward you, pointing out in a meeting that you have something to say, asking you for your input or saying that you had a particularly important point. All these indicate he values you.
If he holds the door for you or even for others first when he knows you're coming, he's making a point to treat you nice. Being polite toward you, especially if it seems a bit more polite toward you than anyone else indicates interest and appreciation of you.
Watch what his hands are doing. If he touches his lips he's probably thinking about what it would be like to kiss you. If they are flat on his body like across his chest or on his thighs, he's thinking about touching you, caressing you. If his hands are in his pockets when he's standing and can see you he may be playing a little pocket pool. He's turned on by you. If he seems to adjust his belt a lot or check his zipper or in any way touch himself in the crotch area a lot he can't keep his mind off of finding out what you're like sexually.
Hope these help. Let us know what your thoughts are after observing him for awhile.
2007-02-09 03:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a girl is talking to me and touches me (hand, arm or something), I interpret that as her being attracted and I return the gesture a few seconds later by touching her hand or arm pleasantly.
I also agree with the answer above about asking lots of questions. I try to keep talking and elliminate uncomfortable pauses where you can't figure out what to say. And, if I'm really interested I am not just pretending to listen to what the girl has to say, rather I am actually enjoying the conversation.
The note above regarding becoming a klutz is also true. Guys can get nervous if they really like a girl. I think girls sometimes scoff at guys at those times, but look at it this way: if he's not nervous then he probably doesn't really care if things don't work out between the two of you. If he cares about you he will be nervous that you may not like him. That's where the whole vicious circle of how women like bad boys and guys that don't care about them - many women throw away the klutzes and chase after the guy who is so "confident" that he could care less if he sees you again. So, ladies, give us klutzes a second chance sometimes!
2007-02-09 02:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the past, I have found dozens of extremely subtle way to let a woman know that I find her attractive. So subtle, in fact, that she never got the message.
This led me to a slightly more obvious strategy. I find that drooling profusely or tripping over my tongue is very effective in getting my message across.
2007-02-09 02:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by lunatic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Strong eye contact, extreme interest in everything you say, or lots of questions looking for reasons to continue to talk with you. Leaning toward you while in conversation and touching you not inappropriately but enough that you feel a little anxious because of it.
2007-02-09 02:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by tonafun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Far more eye contact than before and just being in your presence more often, especially when it isn't necessary. Polite touching of the hands.
2007-02-09 02:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually double takes
2007-02-09 02:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Afro-Joe the American Hero! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if his eyes aren't looking at you, his body will be facing you
2007-02-09 02:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look for a bulge in his pants. Bwar hah ha!!
2007-02-09 02:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
they become klutz... (seriously, even those over 30)
2007-02-09 02:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Diamond 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋