I have found out this week that my 1st love is getting married after dating this girl for 7 months, and good friends you know friends that with benefits, is no longer in that busy he found someone and pushed me aside, even though I had feeling form him, and then there is my new guy who treated my like a queen, who just stopped talking to me and don't want to see me anymore. What I’m I going to do now?
2007-02-09 02:35:26 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SH!T Happens...
Sorry, but that's the only real answer. I've had similar weeks. Just check back on this board in about a months after things have settled, maybe two months. But time will make every thing better. In the mean-time, just have a couple of drinks and wait it out.
2007-02-09 02:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can wallow in it it for a little while, but then you have to move on. One day you'll look back on this situation and laugh. Becuase then you'll be married to a great person and have 5 kids who are all on the Honor roll and star athletes and you'll have more money than you could even imagine....in fact to take your mind off of it you'll go buy yourself a new wardrobe.
Cheer up!! Life's a journey. Its what you make of the situations that shape the trip. So do a funny dance to an 80s song and make silly faces in the mirror. Oh yeah....and enjoy it! Its not hard. Just take 2 minutes and try to do something out of the ordinary. Have fun, and good luck.
2007-02-09 10:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two things to say....
One is friends with benefits will never work!
Two is - Read this book "The Rules" Theres "The Rules I" and "The Rules II" or you can get "All The Rules" (Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the heart of Mr. Right) for like 1/2 the price. I seriously have it in front of me right now! All the rules is 380 pages and your dream come true! It was recommended to me and when I started to read it I was like what.. no way... but I tried some of it, because I mean what did I have to lose.. right, and OMG.. I have been with my b/f for 2 years now and he treats me sooo good. We are moving in together, actually this upcoming weekend. So, I really hope this helps. I know that its sorta skeptical, but just try it. I mean what do you have to lose?!
2007-02-09 10:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by nichole_lalonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the word, "love" out of your vocab for awhile and live a real life. Too many girls and women are getting burned by looking for love in all the wrong guys. Those hot, fun lovin' bad boys you meet in the bars and even at school are not necessarily looking for someone to spend a life of wedded bliss with. Why can't you see that?
Or just hook up with Afro Joe, he's honest, upfront and he'll show you a good time, LOL!
2007-02-09 10:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's like you want to keep the both of them but they're both gone now?
girl, your 1st love is getting married. i mean, wake up. if he really loves you "friends with benefits", he could have choose but he didn't. maybe there's something special but you're not sure what's that. i can't tell you that he didn't love you or that he loved you. just open your eyes and heart and see things.
about this guy who loved you and treated you as his queen suddenly change, let him go. let him go if you don't have feelings for him. keeping him for your own sake is so selfish. think first. if you DO love this guy, then go and get him back! do everything to have him again and don't let him get away by the time he's yours.
2007-02-09 10:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by poochini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pamper urself... go to the beauty salon... buy a nice dress or shoes... go for lunch with a few friends... then rent a movie and watch it while eating ice cream n eating chips...!!
but this is just a temporary cure... if u really wanna feel good..then be proud of what u are...dont think about the past.... look ahead.. concentrate on ur work and believe that u r the best...
Be optimistic...! it shows on the face, u know.... i'm sure u will find someone much nicer very soon...
Cheer up!!
2007-02-09 10:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. ur really heartbroken. the best way to overcome your prob is to move on. even if its hard, just let it go so that you wont feel any burden with you. it really is painful if you have feelings for someone but they dont know or they just dont care about it. It's okay sassy. just let him go.
2007-02-09 10:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for happiness in other places, rather than just a relationship.
2007-02-09 10:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. what doesn't kill you will just make you stronger and wiser in life.
so he's getting married. instead of being sad, just be happy that he has found love and that "someone special".
as for your current bf. call him, ask him what's wrong...work things out with him or move on and focus on feeling good about yourself!!
take care.
2007-02-09 10:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
see if i was you the dude in the past (you first love) you should be happy for him, cuz his happy. the other man you should try to get him back.
2007-02-09 10:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by weter boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋