i have been seeing this bloke for about a month, he is amazing he makes me so happy he is like no one i have ever met. but he is very flighty and he has a very colourfull past and i am just wating on the day that he says that he is going to take off. he likes me a lot and i like him but i feel myself realy falling in love with him so do i step back and let go or hold on and possibly get really hurt.?
2007-02-09 02:34:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
think every girl has been in this situation at some point in her life!! there is no easy answer every one has an opinion. is it better to have loved and lost or to never have loved?? if you leave you may not get hurt but you will also never have known, if you stay you may very well get hurt, but maybe you will also be loved and experienced that along the way. whatever you do there is a gamble, the bigger the gamble the bigger the win but also the bigger the loss.. what is your instinct telling you, that gut feeling at the pit of your stomach?? to be honest you need to either give it your all or give him up, if your holding back then maybe it's not right, don't get me wrong everyone scared naturally and it is only early days, but if you think your never going to settle then maybe it is not worth the stress. listen to your head but follow your heart, you don't want to regret anything in the long run, do what feels right now.
2007-02-09 02:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to feel! Some people fall fast & hard, others not so much or so fast. No matter it's still ok. You need to talk with this fella and get some important issues out into the open. Things like wants, needs, goals & expectations. Based on his answers, you can make a more informed decision about how to proceed. Know for sure though what you want the answers he gives to be and be prepared that if you really don't like an answer he gives - not sway just because you like the man. Stay firm to your own set of wants, needs, values and morals and never settle for less then your worth!
2007-02-09 10:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly im a believer in the old sayin, better to have love and lost, than to have not loved at all! see if u turn away there will always be the what if? in ur mind and it wont go away, but if u take that chance then ull always know. and if he does leave ull be hurt but u cant fully love someone till uve fully been hurt so itll just be a lesson learned! best wishes! follow your heart!
2007-02-09 10:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by rckstar88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that hes the one deep in your heart hold on because true love is hard to find.even if your not to sure there is only one way to find out how you both really feel. i know your scared to get hurt but that is a chance that we all take. i was wiith someone for 6years and he hurt me so bad never thought that i would find someone else but i did and i got married and i am real happy love is a chance you never know what will happen take it day by day. good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-09 10:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by christina b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONE month? You're calling HIM flighty? If my significant other was talking about love and future after a month - I'd run like hell.
2007-02-09 10:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither. tell him you need to knowif he is planning on sticking around or leaving. that you need commitment. if he's negaative let go and move on. if he answers in a good way. hold on tight
2007-02-09 10:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by smileygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋