Is seeing your only child once a week a good thing or should he do more to see bout his child?

Question

he only see his only child once a week and I feel that he can do more. He is doing this because of his live in girlfriend and his mother.Should I just keep my daughter away from this mess.

Answer 1

Absolutely not! Some guys only get to see their kids 2 times a month, that doesn't make them bad parents. Try to keep your feelings about your ex out of the relationship between your daughter and her father.

Answer 2

You have no right to keep his daughter away from him. Try to make it easier and pleasant for him to see her more. A real father who lives in the house really sees his children very little. So one one day a week probably equals the same. Perhaps you could give him 50/50 custody and accept no child support, then she can have her daddy in her life more. That is what a good mommy would do, who isn't trying to erase the man from her life. You get one shot at a happy family, anything else is patch work. Remember you started this mess when you decided to breed with this man. Female animals are more particular who they breed with than humans.

Answer 3

It is not the quantity of time you spend, but the quality of the time you spend together. You cannot make him do more, unfortunately. You are going to have to try to remain civil and be respectful of him and whoever he chooses to be with. For the sake of your child. Do your best and allow him to do what he is doing, you cant do anything about it. So pick your battles. Don't keep the baby away from him, the child would suffer in the end. And it is your responsibility to ensure that your child has a life as close to normal as possible. So keep doing what your doing, be a positive influence in her/his life. And keep the lines of communication open with the father. Try to speak with him regarding your concerns. However, if he doesn't move on the issue, just bite your tongue and keep doing what your doing. Good luck to you and God bless****

Answer 4

Dont force it on him. It's his choice and he has to live with the outcome. However, don't let your child ever feel that he is not important because of his father's actions. Don't ever say "your father should do this or that" because then your child will begin to wonder if it is his own fault. If your child ever asks about the infrequent visits, say "that's the way your dad is and we'll be grateful for the time that you do have with him. Some kids never get to see their fathers, so we'll be happy that you do" Hopefully your child will grown strong with the self-esteem you encourage through your love and committment. Good luck!

Answer 5

You should let the courts decide , it may be hard for him with the two women in his ear ,but if he loves his child then a court order may be what this spineless man needs to stand up to the women in his life. I believe the more love a child can have the bettter. Iam concerned about grandma and the girlfriend not wanting him to be a part of his daughters life whats up with that? may be you should start with supervised visitation if grandma or girlfriend or going to be around . It doesn't seem they have the child's best intrest at heart .

Answer 6

I would keep the child away from it.
I mean if she goes over there and the atmosphere is stranger than what your child is use to being around then it might mess her up a little bit.
What kind of man is he that it takes one woman to keep him away from his only child.
He will regret it one day...and then it will be to late.

Answer 7

once a week is not good enough. unfortunately he has a right to see his child more than that and you can't keep him away from your child. if he isn't paying child support, that is definitley a way for him to do more. good luck.