my husband and I have 3 separate accounts one for bills, savings, and one I use for all household stuff, childstuff, food etc. he withdrawls $40-100 every week twards partying, all money he takes out is for "Fun" should i back off? Or is it normal to be pissed? I just think it's so unfare to keep takign that kind of money out all the time on CRAP and he should be more concerned about saving and being more smart about it??? It's starting to cause problems, I'm starting to think divorce! Please help.
2007-02-09 02:23:14 · 9 answers · asked by mc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Divorce? Why? We also have 3 seperate accounts. One account is in my husbands name only, he does whatever he wants with that money. For the record -he is a saver! he uses it for himself, electronics and purchases like a new car. I dont bother him at all. He gives me a check a week and Priority is the bills and then I do whatever I want , save the rest, invest it or spend it. However, I dont bother him because we are on the same page. He does not Party, he doesnt gamble and isnt a free spender. He is very responsible!
Dont get a divorce, just get on the same page!
2007-02-09 03:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be straight and brief, you are not greedy at all. Rather, you have a point and to be centered on family security and prosperity has to be recognized as the right focus of a couple.
Keeping separate accounts for different purposes is very common but withdrawals only and exclusively for 'fun' does not appear to be a rational choice. however, this may not provoke a strong feeling to divorce. The matter can be talked over and a resolution obtained. Partying and the like sometimes become socialization benchmarks and some people even gain business deals and favors from them. You may also think exploring such possibilities and exhort your husband to get into the job with some seriousness. This may augment income and enlarge the size of the pie which has to be allocated and shared.
2007-02-09 03:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by braj k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two love each other, and this is the only conflict, I wouldn't divorce over it. I would be mad too, especially because I am the one using the money for needed things, not wanted things. Take money out for yourself and start doing something fun with yours. When the kids need something, tell him he needs to get it, because you don't have anymore money. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Sometimes instead of talking, actions will speak much louder. Showing him that you can be irreponsible too, may make a light go off in his head. It sounds as if he knows you will take care of everything, so he doesn't have to worry.
2007-02-09 02:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two have a pretty good budgeting system going. But it seems to me that you two might need to talk about actual amounts for "fun" money. Nearly everyone enjoys having spending money for their own use.
I know it sounds weird to put it this way but how about giving each of you an allowance to use for this kind of spending. That would alleviate the $40 one week and $100 the next, it should always be the same weekly amount. And once it's blown, you have to wait until the next allowance payout.
My DH and I do this and our rule is that at most I get to roll my eyes when he blows his money on robots and electronics and at most he gets to roll his when I buy fabric and crafting supplies. But his allowance is his and my allowance is mine and we both understand that we have no say in how the other spends it.
If your budget can support allownaces, it can help save your sanity and stop a lot of arguing over this.
2007-02-09 04:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because there is a problem with you and your husband do not think divorce...you need to identify the problem and come up with a solution.....talk with him and tell him that you two are not on the same page and you would like to talk.....tell him that you were under the impression that we were saving and you are confused by him withdrawing so much money??? Ask him if you two could create a budget and then he could have a set amount he could take out???? It is just an idea????
2007-02-09 03:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by JenS12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, that's not being being greedy. i would be upset too. he should think about the family. that 20-100 bucks a week can go to the braces one kid needs or clothes another needs, or how about a vacation fund. if he wants fun so bad. save the 20-100 a week on a vacation thing. if that doesn't work then talk it over.
2007-02-09 02:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by rhiannon r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe before you start thinking about divorce, you should talk to your husband?
2007-02-09 02:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a 4th account. This one for you!
2007-02-09 03:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to grow up and act like a man, partying is for kids and he is not a child anymore
2007-02-09 03:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋