I have a daughter that's almost 2. My mother very recently remarried. My step-father has a son and a daughter. So I know that they are my step-brother and step-sister. What my husband and I can not agree about is whether or not they are related to our daughter. I say they are her uncle and aunt now. At the very least, step-uncle and step-aunt. He says they aren't related in any way as a result of the marriage. He also says that my step-father is not related to her either. Does anybody have experience with this or what are your opinions?
2007-02-09 02:09:35 · 9 answers · asked by saveit 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You've kind of described my family, and both you and your husband are correct. Legally and formally, they aren't related to your child. In common usage, the new husband is the step-grandfather and his kids are the step-aunt and step-uncle.
In my family, my step-grandmother is my grandmother. Her daughters are my aunts, their husbands are my uncles, and their kids are my cousins. We've blended so well that there are no "steps" involved in familial descriptions. Considering the young age of your daughter, its very possible that she can enjoy this as well.
2007-02-09 02:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your new step-sister and -brother are going to be in the picture alot, i.e. get togethers, holidays then yes your daughter should call them aunt and uncle. no there is no blood relation, but if your family is close and easily accepts new members there shouldnt be a problem. im 29 with a 3 yr old and my dad just got remarried. my daughter has called her grandma since they moved in together, but we are very accepting of new people, so it all depends on how your family feels about the new part of your family
2007-02-09 02:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Arraya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your step-Father's children could be considered her Aunt and Uncle. It depends on how you want your daughter to see them as. As far as your step-father goes, yes he is your daughter's grandpa. Not by blood but my marriage. I do have experince with this situation. My dad remarried when I was 6, so I have a step-mom. She considers my older brother and I her son and daughter. My older brother had a little girl 5 months ago, and my step-mom is her grandma. Even my step-mom's parents are my grandparents and her brothers and sisters are my aunts and uncles.
2007-02-09 02:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is exactly what's wrong with step famlies is there a problem with your daughter getting extra love from people who are not blood related to her ,no i don't think so they can be refered to as uncle and aunt why not if people were to open their hearts to more of the people they considered not family but family by marriage these step famlies would be easier to get to know and love one another...i have a ton of experience with this i am a step mom of 2 great adult kids their dad and i also have a daughter together and i don't like the term half-sister granted they don't have the same mom but does that make her less their sister no not to them or to us ..... now my brother in law his is truly unique
his son is not his wifes birth mom and his wife's daughter is not his birth father they also have two other kids that are both their blood children but they are all older and consider each other the olny mother father even though they both have contact with their respective birth parents neither of them feel like family to them they also have grand kids by the first two kids mentioned who refer to the as pop pop and granny but these grandchildren don't even know their biological grand parents ....do you get this i hope so it's confusing i know but family is what you make it weither or not your related by a piece of paper or blood or what ever the reason it never hurts to have people who love you blood ties or not good luck
2007-02-09 02:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is based on the actions of the individual, not the legalities of it. My step-daughter had a son four months ago. I was in the hospital when he was born, visited him in Intensive Care, fed him, burped him, and rocked him to sleep. My step-daughter says that I am his Grandfather (she is estranged from her father) and I am. Worse case scenario, I would be his step-Grandfather. This is not an existing designation but it should be.
2007-02-09 02:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not blood related but neither are you and your husband and yet you are still family. Family is an emotional bond that generally begins with "blood" but as you see with spouses and in-laws the family grows. Yes, your new step-family is family. Connected by marriage. If your husband's brother got married next week, wouldn't his new spouse be an aunt? Same with your Mom's new spouse.
2007-02-09 02:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Rayca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a step-dad who I lived with (with my mum too) for 8 years, and that i assume I enjoyed him. no longer as much as my authentic mum, of direction, yet yeah i think of I did. He had 2 sons from a prior relationship who have been some years youthful than me who i did no longer "love", haha, yet they have been very properly. Very stressful at circumstances. yet they lived with their mum and got here around ours like one weekend as quickly as a fortnight. yet my he and my mum separated a pair of years in the past. So now I stay in a unmarried be certain family members :]
2016-11-02 23:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by boddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out what they want to be called.I know how you feel.Children will ask who is who,and you want to tell them .I allowed my children to make the decision them selves.I was ask by my garnd daughter (3) the other day why she has 3 grand paws--My hubby---her Dads Dad---her Moms Dad.So I told her who was who.She excepted it and went awawy.But now she asks my hubby if he is Maw Maws husband? She's too smart at times.It will all work out....
2007-02-09 02:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Family is now known as a blended one, and families at least try to unify on this matter, can you ?
2007-02-09 03:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋