I know this guy for just over 3 yrs. now and he told me he loved me a while back. I never told him until last year.Here's the kicker we are just mess n around there was supposed to be no feelings... just- we had a huge fight cause he's with some next girl(we drifted over the summer/then hooked up again) he was very open about her but that's not the point I was b4 her and now I think that sob's choosing her!! I told him I'm done but he still calls...
2007-02-09 02:03:44 · 16 answers · asked by Chocolate Spice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to begin with you shouldn't have made such a deal if u knew you couldn't keep your feelings away.this is not the kind of guy you are suppose to have, when you are the emotional kinda girl. but you can look at the plus points of this- there is no deception or lies of any sort. the cards are on the table . basically you are free ! so if your looking for commitment ,then look for some one else. move on if you feel you are getting emotionally fixed on this guy.coz there is no way he will change,you'll probably loose your identity on the way to make him change. he can always be your 'stand by' guy..when you are looking for airy bed sessions. .so exept his calls,be friends with him, but keep him at background..shift your focus to another guy who will share a deeper bond with you. -cheers-
2007-02-09 03:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, although I don't agree with the idea of a "F" buddie, but that's beside the point.
Okay, you guys said you "loved" each other. Was this during the heat of the moment, or was it true?
And obviously, you love him, or something close to that. Otherwise you wouldn't have gotten in a "huge" fight because he was with some other girl. If you guys have been "doing" it for the past three years, some emotional connections must have developed. Look, you just called him an "sob..." That really shows me at least that you're still thinking about him and are indignant that he might choose this other girl.
Really, you never know. What is you're throwing away "the greatest thing you ever had?" You might as well arrange some sort of meeting with him (no sex involved!) and talk things over. As long as things are going this way, take a chance!
Good luck.
2007-02-09 02:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by whoops! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy... Move on.
This shouldn't even bother you. You knew the limitations. You actually shouldn't be getting involved like that because you obviously can't take that lifestyle. It doesn't seem like he can either. Sex is deeper than just what you see. You are actually giving away a piece of yourself.
The fact that neither one of you can move on proves my point. You still want to reclaim the piece of yourself that you left with him. (Same for him)
Neither one of you will be 100%, but you can still be 99%. Really, you must move on.
2007-02-09 02:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by se-ke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you are dealing with a **** buddy or in my terms friends with benefits..you will ALWAYS have to know that it will end some time soon sweetheart. I am currently dealing with this and its messing with my emotions honestly. I need to stop this all at once and find someone that i truly want to be with instead of just having sex. These type of relationships always end up in one parting ways or drama!! You need to check yourself homegirl and understand that it does not matter if you were first..you are just a **** to him and thats all.
2007-02-09 02:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ambitious27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a F buddy. That means you have no rights whatsoever. Move on and stop being an F buddy to anybody.
2007-02-09 02:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you play with fire, you run the risk of getting burned. You were using each other, and now that he's moved on you're upset. Spend your time and energy on finding someone who is available to you on all levels.
2007-02-09 02:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As woman we often find it difficult to separate our feelings from our actions. Leave it alone. And dont try to go into another arrangement like that. Woman arent wired that way. At least most aren't.
2007-02-09 02:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've grown feelings for him, even though there isn't supposed to be feelings.
He's choosing her, most likely because you two are just friends-with-benefits, and he sees no future with you. He sounds like he wants a serious relationship and you shouldn't interrupt that.
2007-02-09 02:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by Pristine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats unacceptable to you , leave him alone. But, if you are just f buddies, then why would it matter? I mean, you need to tell him what you want. If you want a relationship, spell it out. He may not know if you want more than f buddies.
2007-02-09 02:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on sister ! You were wanting to know should you get rid of him? Nows your chance. Is this other girl a ploy to get your attention or is he realy in to her, literally speaking of course?
Did you want him BEFORE she came along? Maybe he wants a deeper committment????? If your NOT wanting that then time to move on. Now is your chance girly. . . .
2007-02-09 02:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋