I have the wedding invitation wording figured out I just would like to make it clear so at the bottom of the invitation it states- for immmideate family only. I have seen it before but I just can't remember how to word it.
2007-02-09 02:00:42 · 23 answers · asked by Ceci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have an insert created for your family's invitations inviting them to a dinner after your reception. It would be rude not to give your other guest at least a piece of cake and some punch and share some of the party with them. I think if you want a more intimate dinner after that with only family thats cool but dont be cheap and invite people to the service only.
2007-02-09 02:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very rude. Most people prefer to go to the reception over the wedding and people will be upset if they took there time to watch you say I Do and brought you a gift and can't have any cake and continue the celebration. PLus if you try to keep it a secret it will come out and people will not show up at all if you they realize there were seperate invites to a reception. Where I live it is popular to put an announcement in the paper about there wedding and a lot of times they will put Some invites have been sent but all family and friends are welcome. I always think to myself if I wasn't good enough to get an invitation then I am not going. And I don't go. So good luck with this idea if you choose to go through with it. But a wedding is not a good time to cause unneeded drama.
2007-02-09 02:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by HONEYB1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having created and addressed thousands of invitations, I'd like to try and stop you from one of the worst mistakes you can make as far as wedding etiquette. This assumes that you want a formal wedding. If you don't then do as you please, but you'll probably be stubbing a lot of toes.
The proper etiquette is to invite all of your wedding guests to your reception. You may have seen a nice wording of this, but frankly it will offend the majority of your guests if they are not invited to the reception as well as the wedding. If you don't invite them all, then don't have a reception. Either expand your reception guest list or decrease the wedding guest list. Even having a less expensive (per person) reception is better than leaving anyone out.
It is also frowned upon to put a line about the reception on the wedding invitiation. The two events should always have their own cards. Again this is your choice, but keep in mind that people have seen many wedding invitations and yours will be easily compared to the memories of others. Remember that every married couple you send an invite to is going to remember all the rules of etiquette that they looked up when they got married.
If you insist on having a reception for just a few, at least separate the invites so that only your select few get the notice of the reception. It will be bad enough that all of these people will find out through the grapevine that they aren't invited to the reception, but to actually receive a note saying "hey, you aren't invited to this, but there's a party for everyone else later" is not going to win you any prizes with these people. Also, you may be surprised at how many people consider themselves immediate family. I would not want to be at that reception and have to actually tell people to leave.
(edit: I just read your other question about not being allowed to invite your co-workers to the wedding reception by your parents. I understand that your parents are trying to cut costs. I would suggest that you offer to cover the additional costs, either on your own or with the help of your significant other. Also, as a side note really, if you end up going through with the whole no- reception-for-some idea then you might want to print those in English instead of Spanish.)
2007-02-09 02:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Fin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
On the wedding invatation just put, no reception. If the reception is for immediate family only, they know that so you don't need to even say on the invatation that there is a reception. OR you could state, Dinner for Immediate Family Only to follow. Hope this is helpful. My brother and his wife stated that there was no reception to follow. They stood at each isle to dismiss guests instead of having a reception line. As they greeted people, they privately invited people to the dinner reception, for immediate family and a few close friends who traveled great distances to get to the wedding. Not all family was invited. They asked each guest that was invited to keep it quiet as not all family was invited. This worked great and no one was the wiser! Anyone who asked was told there was a carry in dinner for some "long lost relatives only".
2007-02-09 02:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to say it but a friend did this and none came to the wedding but the family and close friends who were invited to the reception if you don't want alot to show up for your reception then only send out as many invites to the wedding that that you want for your reception.. feelings do get hurt and when your talking about gifts no one will show up if they cant join in on the fun as well the wedding only takes about an 1/2 hour or so then what go home after getting all dress up and no place to go. rethink it all and have a small wedding not a big one. good luck hope this helps make you think about who means more to you.. family and close friends and leave it at that just they are invited to both..
2007-02-09 02:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wedding invitation should be just that...an invitation to the wedding. Perhaps you could write something on the bottom like...juice and cake immediately after in the Church Meeting Hall.
This way you can greet the wedding guests...and then leave for your real reception without offending anyone.
Inside of immediate families invites..include a separate invitation to the reception.
2007-02-09 02:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by foxinsox 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So are you saying that everyone on your list is invited to the wedding but only family are invited to the reception? That's just bad business. I've heard of this before and there is always someone hurt. Why don't you just invite who you want to the wedding AND the reception and no one else? Or, you can seperate the invitees to the reception by only mentioning the reception site/details in those individual invitations. Word the invite to those invited to the wedding only as such. Bla bla bla join us for "our wedding-only ceremony. No reception to follow".
2007-02-09 04:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put the reception invitation information on the same paper as the wedding ceremony invitation. Have a separate reception card that says "Please join us after the ceremony at __________ for a dinner reception." Then, if you feel the need to (and depending on how formal you're going here) have a separate response card with a self addressed stamped envelope for them to return to you. That way, people who are invited to the wedding ceremony will understand that they are NOT invited to the reception. Putting at the bottom "immediate family only" is not only rude, it's confusing, because what if your great-aunt Martha considers herself immediate family, but you don't.
2007-02-09 03:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bout only listing the wedding ceremony details on the invitation. Then, list the reception details on reception cards, and only include these in the invitations that are going to the people you are inviting to the reception. The reception cards are about half the size of the invitation, plenty of room to list the reception details. Then, just wait after the ceremony to greet the guests, and quietly slip away to the reception once you've thanked all your guests.
2007-02-09 02:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by moon_gurl_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your invitation should mention the ceremony only, in this case. You can have a separate card with all the reception details, which would be dropped into the invitation envelopes of those you wish to include.
Don't mention a 'private party' that excludes anyone on the general invitation, that is very rude. Not a time to alienate anyone!
2007-02-09 02:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋