Hi what did girls think about the debate at the mo suggesting that young girls do not have manners any more?

Question

Please answer this honestly because it would really help me!! thanks

Examples would be great

When i mean girls i mean between the age of 16-23

Answer 1

i think its horrible.. what about the boys manners, i think girls have pretty good manners lol

Answer 2

I think a lot of them don't. But that's a lot. Not all.

I'm 17, and I try to have good manners. If I see someone in the street, I will always smile and say hello. Unless I'm in a big city, of course, when it becomes impossible to do that to every person! But I think that's the sort of thing that needs to be taken into account. It's not just attitudes changing, it's the environment around us. A few hundred years ago, everything was a lot quieter, there were a lot less people around, and so you knew almost everyone in your neighborhood, and it would bode well for you to be nice to them. These days, most towns and cities are HUGE and multicultural - it's not always easy or even possible to illicit a conversation with people you meet on the street - there are simply too many people, it's too dangerous for young women with pedophiles etc and there are many language barriers.

It's getting more and more competitive, too. Whereas once, a young woman would simply have been expected to grow up and marry and have children, now they have to be as defensive as any working class man would have had to have been, because they are applying for the same jobs, and trying to achieve the same goals. This is a far cry from how it used to be - equality is increasing the need for women to have a competitive nature.

Since the sexual revolution and the birth control pill, women have felt more in charge of their own sexuality, and so sex outside of marriage or even relationships has increased. This has meant that as sex has become more and more accepted in young women (with girls as young as 12 and even 11 (!) getting pregnant) they have had to become more defensive to fight off the barrage of men who immediately jumped on the opportunity to score! This can make it seem, to men, that women are always being bitchy and rude and ill-mannered, but a lot of the time they simply feel like they have to act in that way to every man that comes by, because they're inevitably trying to get into their pants!

Overall, yes, women maybe have less manners than previously, but they are simply adapting to a changing environment. The world is a very different place than it used to be, and you have to expect attitudes to change with that.

Answer 3

Maybe they just meant that there are more spoiled brats than sweet little girls. Girls are always trying to find a happy medium. 'Little Miss Sunshine' proves my point. Girls tend to reflect their moms or find an identity when mom's not around through girls in the media or else they just want to be tomboys. Tough and rude seems cooler to most girls and it protects them from other rude people that like to attack little sheep like them to make up for the bully's own insecurities. It's all in the balance. It's better to be assertive and well-mannered and self-confident. The strength comes from within. Faith in God helps but you have to feel worthy and loved for it to do much good. Anyway, manners are for special occasions and when your helping someone. The rest of the time, it's just about being guarded. If you have good manners and someone doesn't appreciate them, you've at least tried to get along. Girls need to learn not to get caught up in the games people play (like in 'Mean Girls'). I'm not a girl. I'm a girl's mom, but I was a girl.Now I'm a woman. It seems like people that say young girls are rude are a little bit prejudiced or they have really high expectations of certain young girls they know and are comparing the well-mannered with those who aren't part of some sort of high-society that they belong. Different people seem to expect different things. All I know about is boundaries and I didn't learn about them until my 20s. That's when you're supposed to stop being so self-centered and become more other-centered. That's just a choice. You can keep to yourself if you want to but good-manners keep you from unintentionally hurting others. And that's good!

Answer 4

I'm a 30 something bloke and I remember being told when I was young;

don't talk with your mouth full
keep your elbows off the table when eating
how to set a table correctly and which cutlery to use for each course
hold doors open for people walking directly behind you
always say please and thank you
respect your elders
walk behind a woman going up the stairs and in front of her when walking down the stairs (in case she trips)

And it wasn't a strict upbrigging or 'posh' (I know the whole table manners thing might alude to that!), these were just manners. How many youngsters these days are even aware of some of the above, regardless of their sex?

Answer 5

unfortunately most children, both boys and girls, no longer have manners in today's society. Parents either don't care to teach them those manners, have none themselves, or just don't have the time. The children also pick up bad habits from other children when around them for too long. I've known quite a few girls that were so horrible I didn't even want to be around them because of their bad manners.

Answer 6

I work in a school and in my view some have awful manners, some have excellent manners and most somewhere in between.
However, manners change from generation to generation and often one generation sees different as bad. This is not necessarily the case. If a person is caring, kind, considerate and above all respects others it is impossible for them to be bad mannered.

Answer 7

I am 52 and I couldn't agree with you more. But it isn't just girls, it's boys, too. When I went to school we were taught "manners", but we were also taught at home. With most house holds being one single parent, and not that these parents don't care, it's hard to instill in children proper "manners" Children learn what they live. Children would see how their mother and fathers interact, so manners are not so much taught as much as the environment nurtures them. Because our society is now based on one parent, children don't see this interaction between adults to learn this, or not enough to respect them.

Answer 8

I am the proud mother of 3 teens!
They have great manners. They hold doors open for people, they are patient in lines, they have great social awareness, they say I'm sorry, and they say 'thank you.' I'm not a control freak mom, just made them aware of treating others like they want to be. We live in the suburbs, so maybe people have more time to 'have' manners,.

Answer 9

From the male perspective:
I would say overall that girls have better manners than boys. Admittedly, more girls are ill mannered these days, but it is not fair to tar the lot with the same broad brush.
--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 10

Nobody has a right to make such a characterisation that may be based on a few individuals. Someone should speak out and make it known that a characterisation such as this is fraudulent content, not protected under the guidelines of freedom of speech or the right of free expression..

Answer 11

I don't think you can generalise but what I see seems to go with the argument that alot of young girls have very bad manners. they act like rude boys, it is not very nice. I think a girl is more attractive is she has a nice way about her. Aggression seems to be prominent. Luckily my daughters are no angels but they know when to be polite, which is the main thing!!!!